Anonymous wrote:
It took years for my model built XH to finally gain a small pouch. It sits atop a lot of muscle, but it's there!

Before I piled on the weight, I'd also had all of the responsibilities of caring for two children and a household piled on me. XH (then my somewhat DH) was at the gym daily. Of course he looked amazing. He didn't have a care in the world!

How'd SHE let it get that far? How'd he keep himself free of all responsibility for that long? That's the question I'd ask. The gym was the first thing DH took from me. Sleep was next. If that's not a recipe for weight gain, I don't know what is.

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I can look like that some times. He's chiseled and looks like an actor. He gets asked literally every time we go out, "Hey, has anyone ever told you that you look like ___" He's a walking Brooks Brother's catalog and takes longer to get dressed than I do.

I don't wear makeup 95% of the time, and don't bother doing more to my hair that pulling it back into a pony tail. I HATE shopping, so I don't wear the new trends. I'm pretty basic and put zero effort into my appearance.

When I do have time and put energy into my appearance, I am model pretty. I actually did model in my younger days. But, I work full-time, have a household to run, along with 3 kids doing sports and activities allover northern Virginia.

If DH wants me to look like I did then, he can start outsourcing half of what I do to give me the time to go to the gym and do my hair and makeup, and he can do all the grocery shopping and cooking to make sure we're eating "21-day meal plans" every day.

But OP, don't feel bad AT ALL. When we are out, I sometimes look around thinking, these women checking out my husband must wonder what he's doing with such a haggardly looking slob.

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I can look like that some times. He's chiseled and looks like an actor. He gets asked literally every time we go out, "Hey, has anyone ever told you that you look like ___" He's a walking Brooks Brother's catalog and takes longer to get dressed than I do.

I don't wear makeup 95% of the time, and don't bother doing more to my hair that pulling it back into a pony tail. I HATE shopping, so I don't wear the new trends. I'm pretty basic and put zero effort into my appearance.

When I do have time and put energy into my appearance, I am model pretty. I actually did model in my younger days. But, I work full-time, have a household to run, along with 3 kids doing sports and activities allover northern Virginia.

If DH wants me to look like I did then, he can start outsourcing half of what I do to give me the time to go to the gym and do my hair and makeup, and he can do all the grocery shopping and cooking to make sure we're eating "21-day meal plans" every day.

But OP, don't feel bad AT ALL. When we are out, I sometimes look around thinking, these women checking out my husband must wonder what he's doing with such a haggardly looking slob.

Anonymous wrote:I only know one couple mismatched in that direction. the vast majority of mismatched couples, the DH is ugly and the DW is attractive. But who knows what draws people together.

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Anonymous wrote:I was out at the pool and saw this attractive dad, relatively good shape, with his kids. There was this very unattractive woman, overweight, frumpy, not well put together with him. I honestly thought it was the babysitter or something, but it was his wife! I couldn't take my eyes off of them, what happened, how could she let it go so far? I feel in general men tend to go "up" in looks, any men who was not as hot as the wife then have a total reversal?

Do you have the same comment for men who are not so hot and have hot wives?

Anonymous wrote:I was out at the pool and saw this attractive dad, relatively good shape, with his kids. There was this very unattractive woman, overweight, frumpy, not well put together with him. I honestly thought it was the babysitter or something, but it was his wife! I couldn't take my eyes off of them, what happened, how could she let it go so far? I feel in general men tend to go "up" in looks, any men who was not as hot as the wife then have a total reversal?

Anonymous wrote:I was out at the pool and saw this attractive dad, relatively good shape, with his kids. There was this very unattractive woman, overweight, frumpy, not well put together with him. I honestly thought it was the babysitter or something, but it was his wife! I couldn't take my eyes off of them, what happened, how could she let it go so far? I feel in general men tend to go "up" in looks, any men who was not as hot as the wife then have a total reversal?

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Anonymous wrote:All the hot guys I know with "not so hot" moms, dated hot chicks... Realized they were high mAintenance bitches and went with love, adoration and good moms.

Translation they married women with low self esteem who would put up with their BS because they didn't have any other options and they carry on with their hot size 2 office mate.