Anonymous wrote:I didn't actually wish harm to ex-DH but definitely there were times that I thought that if he were to die, that would make my life a lot simpler. We're divorced now.

Maybe so...BUT your life would be even SIMPLER if YOU died!

So if it's "simplicity" your after--the solution is obvious.

I imagine the dress I would wear at his funeral, who would do the eulogy, and how much more room i'd have with a twin bed in my room. Kidding. I'd be gutted if he died.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this post is horrifying. If the OP's husband happens to die Jeff should be able to give her IP address to police.

DO you know how many DHs die every single day? Do you expect Jeff to monitor the news every day for the next two decades on the off chance that OP's DH kicks the bucket?

Think people.

NP. Of course not. But if the circumstances of the death are suspicious, the police may well go through the computer and internet history, and if it shows a lot of visits to DCUM, they could be curious about what exactly was posted from the IP address.

Never assume anything you do or say on the internet is actually anonymous or could never come back to bite you.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a recent widow and it's awful. It's heart breaking. He was the love of my life and an incredible dad. Fucking cancer took him. Also, FYI, it's not easier than divorce. The hoops I am jumping through to move on with our lives are insane and take me about three hours a day to slog through. I would give anything to have him back.

I'm so sorry. I hope everyone who's posted on this thread sees this and is filled with the shame they deserve.

Wishing you peace <3

Thank you.

Good luck pp. almost everyday I wish I was the one taken instead of my s/o. I miss him so much it's ridiculous

Jesus no. Never in a million years. I dread the day my wife and I have to face each other's end. Just reading the title of this thread is upsetting.

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Anonymous wrote:Death is easier than divorce.

Not true at all for those who truly love their spouses.

new poster. Death IS easier than divorce, no matter what.

Wow. Sociopath.

its incredibly selfish (and awful) to wish death over divorce. just because you feel guilty breaking up the marriage and dont feel like dealing with the consequences of divorce doesn't mean your kids are going to be happier with one parent than divorced parents.

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Anonymous wrote:Death is easier than divorce.

Not true at all for those who truly love their spouses.

new poster. Death IS easier than divorce, no matter what.

Alright, true for you. Not for me.

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Anonymous wrote:Death is easier than divorce.

Not true at all for those who truly love their spouses.

new poster. Death IS easier than divorce, no matter what.

Anonymous wrote:I'm glad I'm not the only one with these occasional thoughts. There was a time when the thought of DH dying would have killed me- I wouldn't have been able to imagine life without him. But our marriage has had some highs and some real lows. Divorce would be really tough financially. If he were to die, I'd collect life insurance and life would be a breeze. Of course I would't want our kids to grow up without a father (but sometimes when he's a jerk- I think they'd be better off without him). By saying this- I would never, ever, in a million years do anything to put DH's life at risk. And there are also times I feel incredibly guilty for thinking this.

My father died when I was young, leaving my mom a widow. She's also been divorced and will say divorce was tougher than death- and she still loved my dad.

For all you judgy posters- I'm sure you have thoughts you'd never act on and fantasies you may or may not really want to happen.

Do you think she still loves him?

Anonymous wrote:I was in a rocky point in my marriage and used to wish for a car crash....

Then DH got cancer and died when our children were toddlers.

The practical side of things were really really hard and very scary, and I didn't wish my children to lose their dad, but I wasn't as sad and sorry as I might have been if DH had treated me better - he traveled for work and was having multiple affairs. Go ahead and judge, but it's the truth.

No judging at all, if my spouse were having affairs, I wouldn't be sad one bit. My bf was only married a year when her husband got into a bad motorcycle crash. He would need a lot of therapy, and would never recover fully. At the hospital a woman showed up who turned out to be a gf. She was beyond shocked, left...filed divorce and never contacted him again.

Anonymous wrote:Ironically, the year before my XH decided to upgrade his verbal and emotional abuse to physical, he was diagnosed with a potentially fatal, but correctable condition because I noticed the symptoms. He had the surgery, never thanked me, and was twice as abusive to me afterwards. If I had just kept my mouth shut, he would have likely died in a few months. I wouldn't have suffered the last terrifying months of our marriage, the grueling divorce and custody battle, his still-ongoing harassment.

Years ago I had a friend who confided her dh was abusive and she asked me if I knew a good attorney. She had small kids, so I advised her to start socking money away first and make a good plan. I had her one day where he was, and said he was at the doctor for a hemorrhoid. Turned out it was terminal colon cancer and he was early 40's. It went quick, and she never had to go through all that, new gf's around the kids etc.

Anonymous wrote:I think this post is horrifying. If the OP's husband happens to die Jeff should be able to give her IP address to police.

DO you know how many DHs die every single day? Do you expect Jeff to monitor the news every day for the next two decades on the off chance that OP's DH kicks the bucket?

Think people.

I'm glad I'm not the only one with these occasional thoughts. There was a time when the thought of DH dying would have killed me- I wouldn't have been able to imagine life without him. But our marriage has had some highs and some real lows. Divorce would be really tough financially. If he were to die, I'd collect life insurance and life would be a breeze. Of course I would't want our kids to grow up without a father (but sometimes when he's a jerk- I think they'd be better off without him). By saying this- I would never, ever, in a million years do anything to put DH's life at risk. And there are also times I feel incredibly guilty for thinking this.

My father died when I was young, leaving my mom a widow. She's also been divorced and will say divorce was tougher than death- and she still loved my dad.

For all you judgy posters- I'm sure you have thoughts you'd never act on and fantasies you may or may not really want to happen.

Ironically, the year before my XH decided to upgrade his verbal and emotional abuse to physical, he was diagnosed with a potentially fatal, but correctable condition because I noticed the symptoms. He had the surgery, never thanked me, and was twice as abusive to me afterwards. If I had just kept my mouth shut, he would have likely died in a few months. I wouldn't have suffered the last terrifying months of our marriage, the grueling divorce and custody battle, his still-ongoing harassment.