Why can't you eat prime rib?

You are overreacting. Seriously.

Other people like ham.

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Anonymous wrote:^If she asked for the food restrictions/preferences she was indeed obligated to either 1) provide something beyond bread that the Op COULD eat or 2) tell Op what the menu would be in advance.

Look down the road in 20 years. Maybe one day MIL won't be able to eat crunchy food or anything too chewy (like steak). Will it be o.k. for Op to ask MIL over for dinner, ask politely about her food restrictions/preferences and then (pay backs!) serve exactly the foods that MIL has said that she can't eat?

No she wasn't.

One erson does not get to dictate an entire menu. I'm sorry if this is what you were brough up to believe and are raising your kids to believe.

She did provide alternatives. OP is two horrible things a princess and a picky eater on top of being pregnant. OP chose to sulk instead of figuring something out like an adult.

I doubt OP needs to worry about caring for her MIL 20 years in the future, because I doubt she will be the current DIL by then.

Ha. Op did not ASK to dictate the menu. MIL is the one who ASKED for the list of food restrictions/preferences.. It is incredibly rude for MIL to then not take those preferences into consideration while planning her menu. If you don't want to deal with it, don't ASK for the list.

Is this the way you treat your all of dinner guests or is this special treatment reserved for pregnant DILs? Just wondering.

I don't have a DIL. I am one., and if my MIL asked about preferences I wouldn't expect an entire meal to revolve around me. I also would have found a way to eat something other than bread. That's being a drama queen and a ,martyr. MIL took OP's list into consideration. It's beyond me that a woman who is soon to be a mother could not have her meat reheated or her eggs cooked appropriately.
What OP mostly suffers from is a case of the delicate damsel.
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Np here- to the above poster.
Are you always this insufferable, or do you just save it for the holidays? I feel sorry for your DH...

Sure, OP could and should have worked with the situation. But that isn't really what this is about. It's the fact that mil seemingly gave her pregnant daughter in law a big "f you" with the holiday meal. Super rude, but I'd let it go. Not worth the energy to be angry about it.

Op let it go. Do you really want to start a war with your MIL? I bet a lot of the thing were "Christmas traditions" in their house.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^If she asked for the food restrictions/preferences she was indeed obligated to either 1) provide something beyond bread that the Op COULD eat or 2) tell Op what the menu would be in advance.

Look down the road in 20 years. Maybe one day MIL won't be able to eat crunchy food or anything too chewy (like steak). Will it be o.k. for Op to ask MIL over for dinner, ask politely about her food restrictions/preferences and then (pay backs!) serve exactly the foods that MIL has said that she can't eat?

No she wasn't.

One erson does not get to dictate an entire menu. I'm sorry if this is what you were brough up to believe and are raising your kids to believe.

She did provide alternatives. OP is two horrible things a princess and a picky eater on top of being pregnant. OP chose to sulk instead of figuring something out like an adult.

I doubt OP needs to worry about caring for her MIL 20 years in the future, because I doubt she will be the current DIL by then.

Ha. Op did not ASK to dictate the menu. MIL is the one who ASKED for the list of food restrictions/preferences.. It is incredibly rude for MIL to then not take those preferences into consideration while planning her menu. If you don't want to deal with it, don't ASK for the list.

Is this the way you treat your all of dinner guests or is this special treatment reserved for pregnant DILs? Just wondering.

I don't have a DIL. I am one., and if my MIL asked about preferences I wouldn't expect an entire meal to revolve around me. I also would have found a way to eat something other than bread. That's being a drama queen and a ,martyr. MIL took OP's list into consideration. It's beyond me that a woman who is soon to be a mother could not have her meat reheated or her eggs cooked appropriately.
What OP mostly suffers from is a case of the delicate damsel.
I

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^If she asked for the food restrictions/preferences she was indeed obligated to either 1) provide something beyond bread that the Op COULD eat or 2) tell Op what the menu would be in advance.

Look down the road in 20 years. Maybe one day MIL won't be able to eat crunchy food or anything too chewy (like steak). Will it be o.k. for Op to ask MIL over for dinner, ask politely about her food restrictions/preferences and then (pay backs!) serve exactly the foods that MIL has said that she can't eat?

No she wasn't.

One erson does not get to dictate an entire menu. I'm sorry if this is what you were brough up to believe and are raising your kids to believe.

She did provide alternatives. OP is two horrible things a princess and a picky eater on top of being pregnant. OP chose to sulk instead of figuring something out like an adult.

I doubt OP needs to worry about caring for her MIL 20 years in the future, because I doubt she will be the current DIL by then.

Ha. Op did not ASK to dictate the menu. MIL is the one who ASKED for the list of food restrictions/preferences.. It is incredibly rude for MIL to then not take those preferences into consideration while planning her menu. If you don't want to deal with it, don't ASK for the list.

Is this the way you treat your all of dinner guests or is this special treatment reserved for pregnant DILs? Just wondering.

Anonymous wrote:^If she asked for the food restrictions/preferences she was indeed obligated to either 1) provide something beyond bread that the Op COULD eat or 2) tell Op what the menu would be in advance.

Look down the road in 20 years. Maybe one day MIL won't be able to eat crunchy food or anything too chewy (like steak). Will it be o.k. for Op to ask MIL over for dinner, ask politely about her food restrictions/preferences and then (pay backs!) serve exactly the foods that MIL has said that she can't eat?

No she wasn't.

One erson does not get to dictate an entire menu. I'm sorry if this is what you were brough up to believe and are raising your kids to believe.

She did provide alternatives. OP is two horrible things a princess and a picky eater on top of being pregnant. OP chose to sulk instead of figuring something out like an adult.

I doubt OP needs to worry about caring for her MIL 20 years in the future, because I doubt she will be the current DIL by then.

^If she asked for the food restrictions/preferences she was indeed obligated to either 1) provide something beyond bread that the Op COULD eat or 2) tell Op what the menu would be in advance.

Look down the road in 20 years. Maybe one day MIL won't be able to eat crunchy food or anything too chewy (like steak). Will it be o.k. for Op to ask MIL over for dinner, ask politely about her food restrictions/preferences and then (pay backs!) serve exactly the foods that MIL has said that she can't eat?

1. Just because she asked for your food preferences/ restrictions doesn't mean she is obligated to plan an entire menu around you.

2. I doubt all the veggies were wrapped in bacon or just the veggies that you have decided you can eat. Or maybe she didn't see it would be a huge issue for you to pick the bacon off. She probably assumed you were a grownup who not opposed to pork for religious reasons would not throw a tantrum about pig essence. Another thought how do you know the bacon was pig bacon and not turkey bacon?


3. You or your husband could have heated or microwaved the rib and the eggs to your standard. Instead you chose to sulk.


4. People change Christmas menus all the time my MIL has been serving turkey since I know them. This year we got ham.


5. I don't read much into your DH taking up for you plenty of men are just as insufferable as their wives.


6. As a heads up to your future your MIL will also probably not alter meals to enhance your breastfeeding diet, not baby-proof her house to your standards for when you deem it okay to have your baby visit for 2 hours, and not serve organic chickpeas for the benefit of your snowflake when he or she is eating solids at age 4.

Happy New Year!

Anonymous wrote:Seriously. Why is Op so formal with her MIL?

That's a good question. She has known her in-laws for at least 15 years and she has never been invited to their house for dinner before now? Or is she only talking about Christmas dinner?

It does seem like there is some history there that isn't clear.

Seriously. Why is Op so formal with her MIL?