Anonymous
Post 09/08/2015 10:28     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Most thoughtful: my oldest brother gifted me cash to help me afford a summer session of college so I could graduate earlier. This was after my mother forged my signature on some of her investments and caused financial problems.

Least thoughtful: so many gifts from my mil. Let's see, one year I got cheap body lotion so "I could smell just like her", a free pen she got from an investment firm, dollar store pantyhose in her size. She's 5.2". I'm not.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2015 07:52     Subject: Re:What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think we should trust the poster and not judge her. It may be that this girl was not that grief stricken and just thoughtless all the time. Anyhow let's all give it a rest.
nope. Poster is hateful and you are callous to assume the girl with dead mother wasn't grieving and op gets a oasis on insensitivity and self-absorption. In any event, maybe the girl loved the candle so much that she bought one like it as a gift.


This girl was back in her dorm room and I assume going to class and functioning. She chose to celebrate Secret Santa and opted to give a thoughtless regift instead of putting in a thoughtful effort. Yes, her grief was understandable but grief does not give you the excuse to kill other people's joy (you never know what they might be struggling with or what depressing thing they are dealing with). The world does not revolve around you.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2015 00:15     Subject: Re:What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Anonymous wrote:I think we should trust the poster and not judge her. It may be that this girl was not that grief stricken and just thoughtless all the time. Anyhow let's all give it a rest.
nope. Poster is hateful and you are callous to assume the girl with dead mother wasn't grieving and op gets a oasis on insensitivity and self-absorption. In any event, maybe the girl loved the candle so much that she bought one like it as a gift.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2015 11:34     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Most thoughtful: personalized blanket for my baby when he was in the NICU (to go over his isolette)

Least thoughtful: boots (like work boots) 3+ sizes too small (I wear an 8.5, these were a size 5)
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2015 11:24     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For Christmas my one year my MIL gave us a professionally done 8x10 photo of her and her new husband. It was beautifully wrapped and when we opened it my husband and I had the hardest time stifling our laughter.

For about a year it was shoved in a bookshelf and I'd pull it out before she visited. Finally my husband outed me and it's been on the bookcase permanently since then.


Wow. That's a good one.


My MIL sent us all portraits of herself, too. It's in my daughter's room.

I can't stand to look at it.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2015 11:22     Subject: Re:What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
I think we should trust the poster and not judge her. It may be that this girl was not that grief stricken and just thoughtless all the time. Anyhow let's all give it a rest.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2015 10:46     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I got regifted a lemon candle as a secret santa gift in college. It wasn't on my idea list and I didn't get it until Christmas was well over, almost into February. I know it was regifted because it was one of the items my roommate had given her to help cheer her up after her mother had died a few months earlier.


Cool story bro. Tell it again.

(That situation definitely calls for a pass.)


Um no. Her mom had died the previous summer (several months before the secret santa). And she could have opted out of the Secret Santa entirely if she still wasn't up to participating.


You're a total ass. If she got the candle when her mother died, she probably was in a fog and forgot where it came from. Also, did you know that sometimes when parents die that can cause financial issues? Or maybe grief can even last "several months"? Geez. I'd re-gift to you too.


Thanks for your kind words but it's not about the candle, it was just how the whole thing played out. While I know she had a difficult time with her mom passing, the entire thing was very typical of her personality (flaky), which is how she was even before what happened with her mother. There's no need to go into other details here, but I'm pretty sure she just didn't give a crap rather than grief or financial hardship playing any major role in what happened. You'd have to meet her to understand I guess.


New poster here -- You're just digging yourself in deeper. The fact that you're still focused on this year's later says more about you and your lack of compassion for someone going through a hard time.


eh, I think you are being hard on pp. This girl did not have to participate in this secret Santa gift exchange - she chose to do so. She had a justifiable reason to be extremely sad but that didn't give her a pass to be thoughtless towards others. Not that I think that the lemon scented candle was a bad gift. Not at all. It was more a matter of regifting that candle to the original giver's very own roommate.


If your mother died, would you remember who gave you what at the time? She probably didn't realize it was regifting to the giver's roommate.


She probably knew that it had been a sympathy gift from someone on her dorm floor though. So it was thoughtless of her to regift the candle to someone in that particular group of people. It was like a slap saying "As you can tell, this Did Not cheer me up!". If she had instead regifted it to a friend in her hometown that would have been o.k. because she would have known that the friend was not the source of the gift.

Of course, she gets a pass because grief stricken people do.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2015 10:04     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I got regifted a lemon candle as a secret santa gift in college. It wasn't on my idea list and I didn't get it until Christmas was well over, almost into February. I know it was regifted because it was one of the items my roommate had given her to help cheer her up after her mother had died a few months earlier.


Cool story bro. Tell it again.

(That situation definitely calls for a pass.)


Um no. Her mom had died the previous summer (several months before the secret santa). And she could have opted out of the Secret Santa entirely if she still wasn't up to participating.


You're a total ass. If she got the candle when her mother died, she probably was in a fog and forgot where it came from. Also, did you know that sometimes when parents die that can cause financial issues? Or maybe grief can even last "several months"? Geez. I'd re-gift to you too.


Thanks for your kind words but it's not about the candle, it was just how the whole thing played out. While I know she had a difficult time with her mom passing, the entire thing was very typical of her personality (flaky), which is how she was even before what happened with her mother. There's no need to go into other details here, but I'm pretty sure she just didn't give a crap rather than grief or financial hardship playing any major role in what happened. You'd have to meet her to understand I guess.


New poster here -- You're just digging yourself in deeper. The fact that you're still focused on this year's later says more about you and your lack of compassion for someone going through a hard time.


eh, I think you are being hard on pp. This girl did not have to participate in this secret Santa gift exchange - she chose to do so. She had a justifiable reason to be extremely sad but that didn't give her a pass to be thoughtless towards others. Not that I think that the lemon scented candle was a bad gift. Not at all. It was more a matter of regifting that candle to the original giver's very own roommate.


If your mother died, would you remember who gave you what at the time? She probably didn't realize it was regifting to the giver's roommate.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2015 10:02     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I work very hard as a nanny caring for a special-needs child. The pay is low, but I have grown to love the kid.

For my birthday, they gifted me a "Groupon" for a hair service. Well it put me in an awkward position because once the salon found out I had a Groupon, they instantly became less welcoming to me and then kept me waiting longer than I should have.


OMG that is like TOTALLY embarrassing. Did you DIE or what?


She shouldn't have been embarrassed. The salon workers should treat people differently based on a Groupon...their management was who offered the discount. That's poor customer service.


it's probably a place that does Groupons a lot and the salon workers have found that the Groupon holders don't tip very well.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2015 09:13     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I got regifted a lemon candle as a secret santa gift in college. It wasn't on my idea list and I didn't get it until Christmas was well over, almost into February. I know it was regifted because it was one of the items my roommate had given her to help cheer her up after her mother had died a few months earlier.


Cool story bro. Tell it again.

(That situation definitely calls for a pass.)


Um no. Her mom had died the previous summer (several months before the secret santa). And she could have opted out of the Secret Santa entirely if she still wasn't up to participating.


You're a total ass. If she got the candle when her mother died, she probably was in a fog and forgot where it came from. Also, did you know that sometimes when parents die that can cause financial issues? Or maybe grief can even last "several months"? Geez. I'd re-gift to you too.


Thanks for your kind words but it's not about the candle, it was just how the whole thing played out. While I know she had a difficult time with her mom passing, the entire thing was very typical of her personality (flaky), which is how she was even before what happened with her mother. There's no need to go into other details here, but I'm pretty sure she just didn't give a crap rather than grief or financial hardship playing any major role in what happened. You'd have to meet her to understand I guess.


New poster here -- You're just digging yourself in deeper. The fact that you're still focused on this year's later says more about you and your lack of compassion for someone going through a hard time.


eh, I think you are being hard on pp. This girl did not have to participate in this secret Santa gift exchange - she chose to do so. She had a justifiable reason to be extremely sad but that didn't give her a pass to be thoughtless towards others. Not that I think that the lemon scented candle was a bad gift. Not at all. It was more a matter of regifting that candle to the original giver's very own roommate.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2015 09:05     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
When I was on short term disability, there was a knock at the door one day. I opened it and found two ladies from a local cleaning company. They came in and cleaned my entire apartment in arrangement by my BFF. Then, as they were leaving, there was another knock and it was a Peapod grocery delivery!

The most thoughtless gift I received was a food I am allergic to from my former MIL.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2015 09:00     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I got regifted a lemon candle as a secret santa gift in college. It wasn't on my idea list and I didn't get it until Christmas was well over, almost into February. I know it was regifted because it was one of the items my roommate had given her to help cheer her up after her mother had died a few months earlier.


Cool story bro. Tell it again.

(That situation definitely calls for a pass.)


Um no. Her mom had died the previous summer (several months before the secret santa). And she could have opted out of the Secret Santa entirely if she still wasn't up to participating.


You're a total ass. If she got the candle when her mother died, she probably was in a fog and forgot where it came from. Also, did you know that sometimes when parents die that can cause financial issues? Or maybe grief can even last "several months"? Geez. I'd re-gift to you too.


Thanks for your kind words but it's not about the candle, it was just how the whole thing played out. While I know she had a difficult time with her mom passing, the entire thing was very typical of her personality (flaky), which is how she was even before what happened with her mother. There's no need to go into other details here, but I'm pretty sure she just didn't give a crap rather than grief or financial hardship playing any major role in what happened. You'd have to meet her to understand I guess.


New poster here -- You're just digging yourself in deeper. The fact that you're still focused on this year's later says more about you and your lack of compassion for someone going through a hard time.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2015 08:02     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Anonymous wrote:Shampoo is actually a thoughtful gift I received. My husband's aunt has always had health, money, and emotional problems, but found something to give us anyway. I received a bottle of suave shampoo. My husband received a bottle of zest body wash. She either bought those with her welfare check or got them at a food pantry. Something about it just had true Christmas joy.

Worst: As I opened a bottle of wine she said, "I know you and your husband don't drink, but this is low alcohol content." She gets it free from her job.


I am the PP that got shampoo. What you describe is very different than me.
Anonymous
Post 09/06/2015 23:47     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Shampoo is actually a thoughtful gift I received. My husband's aunt has always had health, money, and emotional problems, but found something to give us anyway. I received a bottle of suave shampoo. My husband received a bottle of zest body wash. She either bought those with her welfare check or got them at a food pantry. Something about it just had true Christmas joy.

Worst: As I opened a bottle of wine she said, "I know you and your husband don't drink, but this is low alcohol content." She gets it free from her job.
Anonymous
Post 09/06/2015 22:21     Subject: Re:What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Anonymous wrote:Most thoughtful: an organ donation.

Most thoughtless: don't care. see above.


Talk about being able to keep perspective on life.