Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NO! Are you nuts?! Of course it's not inevitable in every relationship! My father (who has a temper) never once physically harmed my mother and they've been together for 45 years.

Sorry - I meant is it inevitable if there is a history?

Was he convicted?

I remember the time the wife and I just fully remodeled our house and she came home piss drunk tracking clumps of mud throughout the place. I asked her what the hell she was doing, then shit spit in my face, then I put her head through the wall..not one, but twice.

I was so pissed that she had mud everywhere and now there was two head sized hole in the drywall. Luckly the studs kept her head from going all the way through, so it wasn't that bad to repair them.

That was 20 yrs ago, boy time flies!

I think in a lot of relationships, you'll have times when you *want* to hit the person because they do or say something that really makes you mad. But a healthy person doesn't go through with that urge.

I have known women that were crazy enough to make up a fake domestic violence charge. So the guy could have been telling the truth if there was just one charge. But more than one charge, from different people? if that's the case, this guy is likely an abuser or a rehabilitated abuser.

My neighbor was recently arrested for domestic violence. Their young child called 911 and said Daddy is hitting Mom again and throwing knives at her.

He's an orthopedic surgeon and the wife is a big time real estate agent.

I can't answer if it is inevitable but I can say if you lay one finger on me in anger, you forfeit any right to live in the home with me and the kids. Period.