Anonymous
Post 08/19/2015 21:24     Subject: Pittsburgh Steeler Returns His Kids "Participation" Trophies
Anonymous wrote:Wow a lot of these posts really show why we live in such a f****** up over competitive world.
Making fun of kids with anxiety, calling kids mediocre.
Some real nice raging horror shows some of you.


Funny, I was think all those for trophies just for showing up, shows how F's up our coddling generation is.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2015 20:58     Subject: Pittsburgh Steeler Returns His Kids "Participation" Trophies
Anonymous wrote:I think the father is very wise, according to this article ...
http://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2015/03/09/parents-stop-overvaluing-your-kid-you-may-create-a-future-narcissist-study-says/




Actually, I would think that this article says the opposite:

the_article wrote:
“People with high self-esteem think they’re as good as others, whereas narcissists think they’re better than others,”



Seems to me that having your child see that every kid gets the same award gives the message that all kids are equally valued. In my experience, parents who argue against participation trophies do so because they expect that their individual kid will get some kind of more meaningful trophy. If anything, that's the kind of "overvaluing" that the study opposes.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2015 20:44     Subject: Pittsburgh Steeler Returns His Kids "Participation" Trophies
Wow a lot of these posts really show why we live in such a f****** up over competitive world.
Making fun of kids with anxiety, calling kids mediocre.
Some real nice raging horror shows some of you.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2015 20:06     Subject: Re:Pittsburgh Steeler Returns His Kids "Participation" Trophies
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Another mom of a kid with anxiety. To get up the guts to show up for a game takes everything he has and then some. Given the league is geared towards teaching kids and getting them to love the sport, I think medals for all makes sense. His effort is as great or greater than the kid who is naturally good.

I really appreciate the coaches that take the time to recognize the improvement in each child and not just the ones that are the best.

I realize as they get older, and the games get competitive the trophies should go to the best players. But at a young age, kids need encouragement to try. They will never get good if they do not at first try.


I am starting to think the moms with kids that have anxiety are just coddling overprotective smother mothers who think just walking out the door deserves a medal. Way to set the bar super low.


F you.

I hope you experience anxiety, so you know what you're talking about.


I have a kid with anxiety and I sure don't want to encourage them to do something "because you will get a trophy no matter what."
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2015 13:02     Subject: Pittsburgh Steeler Returns His Kids "Participation" Trophies
Anonymous wrote:I will let the kids accept trophies but I do have an issue with them. I feel like it is hard for the kids to develop intrinsic motivation when they are always thinking about what they will get.


Yes, when one kid shows up to 2 practices and a handful a games gets the same award as the kids who was there the whole time, the kids start to realize very quickly that you don't have to do much to get the same. But we now live in an incredibly PC world.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2015 10:32     Subject: Pittsburgh Steeler Returns His Kids "Participation" Trophies
I will let the kids accept trophies but I do have an issue with them. I feel like it is hard for the kids to develop intrinsic motivation when they are always thinking about what they will get.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2015 10:21     Subject: Pittsburgh Steeler Returns His Kids "Participation" Trophies
Wow some crazy helicopter mom posted about 10 posts in a row. Gotta make sure everyone knows the mediocre kid "deserves" trophies.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2015 09:06     Subject: Pittsburgh Steeler Returns His Kids "Participation" Trophies
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a tween with SN who will never earn a "real" trophy. He is proud of his participation trophies because they represent him trying his best.

Haters gotta hate on something benign all the damn time.


Thanks for sharing this. I hope it helps people pull their head out off their behind about the issue.


I find the PP pretty lame in thinking their SN child will never win a "real" award. Geez.


And I find you pretty ableist, since you use the word "Lame", esp. in a context where a special need child was mentioned. Check your privilege, please.

The parent knows what the kid's situation is. If s/he said that, s/he must have a reason to.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2015 04:11     Subject: Pittsburgh Steeler Returns His Kids "Participation" Trophies
Anonymous wrote:When I read stuff like this I just sit back and relax thinking my kids are in a bubble inside their little Montessori school learn to develop their interests for the pleasure of working and not looking for recognition coming from outside.

*phew*


And your kid will have the pleasure of working for mine.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2015 03:54     Subject: Pittsburgh Steeler Returns His Kids "Participation" Trophies
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a tween with SN who will never earn a "real" trophy. He is proud of his participation trophies because they represent him trying his best.

Haters gotta hate on something benign all the damn time.


Thanks for sharing this. I hope it helps people pull their head out off their behind about the issue.


I find the PP pretty lame in thinking their SN child will never win a "real" award. Geez.


The child could have a physical condition that makes him un-athletic and unlikely to win any kind of sports trophy.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2015 01:33     Subject: Pittsburgh Steeler Returns His Kids "Participation" Trophies
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a tween with SN who will never earn a "real" trophy. He is proud of his participation trophies because they represent him trying his best.

Haters gotta hate on something benign all the damn time.


Thanks for sharing this. I hope it helps people pull their head out off their behind about the issue.


I find the PP pretty lame in thinking their SN child will never win a "real" award. Geez.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2015 17:48     Subject: Pittsburgh Steeler Returns His Kids "Participation" Trophies
Anonymous wrote:I think the father is very wise, according to this article ...
http://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2015/03/09/parents-stop-overvaluing-your-kid-you-may-create-a-future-narcissist-study-says/




James Harrison and "very wise" don't belong in the same sentence.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2015 17:44     Subject: Pittsburgh Steeler Returns His Kids "Participation" Trophies
I think the father is very wise, according to this article ...
http://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2015/03/09/parents-stop-overvaluing-your-kid-you-may-create-a-future-narcissist-study-says/


Anonymous
Post 08/18/2015 16:55     Subject: Re:Pittsburgh Steeler Returns His Kids "Participation" Trophies
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Another mom of a kid with anxiety. To get up the guts to show up for a game takes everything he has and then some. Given the league is geared towards teaching kids and getting them to love the sport, I think medals for all makes sense. His effort is as great or greater than the kid who is naturally good.

I really appreciate the coaches that take the time to recognize the improvement in each child and not just the ones that are the best.

I realize as they get older, and the games get competitive the trophies should go to the best players. But at a young age, kids need encouragement to try. They will never get good if they do not at first try.


I am starting to think the moms with kids that have anxiety are just coddling overprotective smother mothers who think just walking out the door deserves a medal. Way to set the bar super low.


F you.

I hope you experience anxiety, so you know what you're talking about.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2015 16:54     Subject: Re:Pittsburgh Steeler Returns His Kids "Participation" Trophies
Anonymous wrote:Another mom of a kid with anxiety. To get up the guts to show up for a game takes everything he has and then some. Given the league is geared towards teaching kids and getting them to love the sport, I think medals for all makes sense. His effort is as great or greater than the kid who is naturally good.

I really appreciate the coaches that take the time to recognize the improvement in each child and not just the ones that are the best.

I realize as they get older, and the games get competitive the trophies should go to the best players. But at a young age, kids need encouragement to try. They will never get good if they do not at first try.


ITA with you.