Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you ask your mother for advice?

My mother passed away when I was young. I will seek advice within my community. I don't think people on DCUM will understand arranged marriages. Thanks anyway

Is there an Imam you could ask for advice?

Are you white? Because this is pretty ignorant.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope all you exhausted women don't have second kids! Will you just never see your firstborn again because you fall asleep the second you get home from work?

Primal difference between taking care of your child and going to the gym. Going to the gym takes a lot more effort, too, than making a pbj sandwich or easy dinner for a child, or sitting with your child and reading a book.

My DH took care of our DC#1 when I was exhausted with my DC#2 and working, but I didn't ignore DC#1.

Same here.

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Anonymous wrote:During early pregnancy, you are literally growing a new organ--the placenta. Your metabolic rate increases. You also have higher levels of progesterone, which makes you tired. Your blood pressure drops. All medical advice is that you should rest, because your body is using a great deal of energy.

I used to come home from work and immediately fall asleep until the next morning. I physically could not do any more. If my husband had given me grief about not cooking and doing housework, I would probably have left him, except that I couldn't drag myself off the couch.

+1000 perfect post

I remember with my first being able to make it to 8pm but then that was it. Much more tired with the second.

Honestly, I don't at all understand the cultural and family pressures that come with arranged marriages, but if my DH had acted like that when I was in my first trimester, I absolutely would have left him.

When I started falling asleep during the day, the pregnancy got real for him because it was so out of character for me. He could SEE how much it was impacting me. He was hugely supporting while I was pregnant and now he is a loving and engaged father to our kid.

This is obviously way too late for the OP, but I hope she found support. If I had been in that situation I would have considered divorce and possibly an abortion.

Anonymous wrote:This post is from 2015.

I'm sure OP and her dh have moved on by now

Exactly! The kids in high school and people are still responding to this post !

Me too.

I suspect the midwifes at the hospital whom he yelled at for having such an easy job and were keeping him from a meeting, the surgeon whom he stopped in his blood-stained clothes to complain about having to wait for check-up will be more than happy to see me come in without my ex and giving birth to a baby fathered by a human soul with feelings and empathy.

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Anonymous wrote:This post is from 2015.

I'm sure OP and her dh have moved on by now

I don't know. My youngest was born in 2014, and I am still a little resentful about my husband's attitude during my pregnancies

Friend, my kid's entering college, and I'm still salty.

Anonymous wrote:This post is from 2015.

I'm sure OP and her dh have moved on by now

I don't know. My youngest was born in 2014, and I am still a little resentful about my husband's attitude during my pregnancies

This post is from 2015.

I'm sure OP and her dh have moved on by now

Guy here - he’s a Dhead...

Anonymous wrote:but i'm so tired all the time. When i come home from work all i want to do is sit on the couch and watch TV. He wants me to clean, cook and go to the gym, like i did up until about 2 weeks ago. I freaked out on him and now we aren't talking. He so doesn't get it!! He's thinks i need to suck it up!

If this is your first child, then there is really no need to either clean or cook. The gym is your business.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry that I don't recall where but I remember reading that the energy expenditure while pregnant is the equivalent of running a marathon every day.

Tell your husband to take a flying leap!

No kidding?! Oh hell, no wonder I was so damn tired, and I'm no marathon runner.

I had a coworker who was pregnant with her first. I was pregnant with my second. I tried to explain to the coworker how tired she was going to be, tired like you've never felt before, not even like the all-nighters you may have pulled in HS or college, that no words can explain how tired she'd be. She was like "uh-huh, yea, i know". Then wham, she got hit. She said, "yea, you were right. No amount of explaining could really express the level of exhaustion." Yep.

Yeah if this was true people would be losing weight their whole pregnancy.

https://fox8.com/news/being-pregnant-is-like-running-a-40-week-marathon-study-says/

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you ask your mother for advice?

My mother passed away when I was young. I will seek advice within my community. I don't think people on DCUM will understand arranged marriages. Thanks anyway

Are you the same person who posted about a month ago about her husband who stopped using condoms without telling her? She was also in an arranged marriage and her mother had died although I think she had passed away the prior year.

Lmao...that part made me crack up. I passed right by it thinking it said birth control. Than I realized it was talking about condoms.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you ask your mother for advice?

My mother passed away when I was young. I will seek advice within my community. I don't think people on DCUM will understand arranged marriages. Thanks anyway

Sorry- disregard my last comment...