Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you were asked you should have replied exactly as you said here - that you were looking forward to a week of cousin time and a chance to visit with four generations of your own family. You didn't voice your opinion so I'm afraid your brother is right, they did ask and you held your tongue. What's done is done.

This is all well and good but in reality if she had said no the SIL would have been furious. I can see why OP was put on the spot with this one.

Or maybe not even furious (not everyone has such contentious relations with their IL!) but really hurt. I know in my position that I would prefer to do "my side" and "his side" extended family trips (plus there are so many of us combining them would be hard) but if this came up in my family I would put those preferences aside because I wouldn't want to hurt my SIL feelings because I care for her and if she wants her parents there, there is some kid of reason I would think.