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Anonymous wrote:I admit, I clicked on this just to make sure it wasn't my neighbors. My DD LOVES the next door neighbor kids (toddler/preschool age) and follows them around when they're outside, including into their yard. their kids are a bit too young to supervise her so it means I tag along as well. We got "oh yeah, sure, it's fine!" about a year ago when dd started walking, but I always wonder if it still is and try to look for signals and cut it short if I get any.

yes, it's your neighbor because this is exactly how your neighbor feels.

look First time mommy, older kids don't want to play with your baby because they then have to listen to "be careful! watch out!" and the mom doesn't want to spend her time policing the kids because she wants them to run around and get their energy out. And honestly what is your neighbor supposed you wander into her yard and go on and on about how cute your little one is.

who cares that your DD love the other kids. They don't love her. Stay in your own yard or go for a walk and stop being so rude.

Anonymous wrote:We live in a very friendly neighborhood and love almost all of our neighbors.

However, we have one family that freely (without asking) is continually coming through our fence and hanging out in out backyard. I've glanced up from my kitchen and there one is looking at me from my back patio.

We do have a fence--doesn't matter. This is also a family that we are not as close to and they have never invited a single other family to their home. Conversely- they have been to quite a few events at our house which makes it even more annoying. Its been a few years too. I've never seen the inside of their house. They have never hosted and everyone else in the neighbirhoid routinely does.

My kid are much older--elementary school. They have an infant and toddler.

We just redid our entire backyard and it is very nice back there. If I am hanging out with my own kids --they'll just come through the gate and not leave.

I grew up in a house with a yard and the unspoken KNOWN rule is you don't go in other peoples yards (especially through a back fence) unless you are invited--or at the very least we are there. I am totally fine with kids retrieving balls, etc. my own kids friends will come over when they hear my kids and that's fine too.

But adults/families just using my yard like it's their own- not ok. We also have a fantastic neighbirhood park that is filled with kids their age yet they seem to never go there and prefer to use my yard for personal enjoyment.

So since they aren't listening--wtf do I do?

Anonymous wrote:I admit, I clicked on this just to make sure it wasn't my neighbors. My DD LOVES the next door neighbor kids (toddler/preschool age) and follows them around when they're outside, including into their yard. their kids are a bit too young to supervise her so it means I tag along as well. We got "oh yeah, sure, it's fine!" about a year ago when dd started walking, but I always wonder if it still is and try to look for signals and cut it short if I get any.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't like labeling the neighbor. She doesn't have to be an awful person, be an idiot, be creepy or have autism. The family is just doing something that you don't like or want to have happen. I like the honest approach of trying to bet balize what you want and need. Say, I woukdnorefer that the kids not come over all the time unattended or without asking. Or I don't feel that itMs safe for them to be there an attended could you call first? Or you're kids are great but they come over a bit too much. Could we try to talk frost before they come over so I can say if it is a good time?


It doesn't have to be rude or hostile or make you a jerk. You just have to be calm, honest and straightforward about what you want. GL.

eh, the woman is being rude and presumptuous to walk into a neighbor's fenced in yard like that. At best she's pushy at worst she's trying to push Op's buttons. How would this woman like it of Op routinely bursted through her front door and headed straight to use the bathroom w/o even asking....

And Op better watch it or that's the next thing this woman will be doing. Nip it.

+1

I see you have been there, too. It is no fun. People like this make other people their 'sport". It is tiresome and predictable. But they don't like to be called out, that is for damn sure.

I've never dealt with anything quite like this, no. But I've dealt with pushy people before and there is no way that I would put up with somebody hanging out in my fenced in yard like that. I actually don't know anyone that would put up with that.

Anonymous wrote:I think I'd lie topless on my lounge chair, have empty booze bottles strewn around and or show pornos on my newly installed inflatable screen...and just wait.

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Anonymous wrote:When Did hot tubs start being called "spas"? That is too hilarious. It's not a spa. A spa is a business you go to for massage, facials, treatments, etc...

A hot tub, is a hot tub. Really. Pretentious much?

I have heard the terms "hot tub" and "spa" used interchangeably for years. It's not a new thing.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hot_tub

I am pretty sure spa is the term they use when the item is part of the Showcase Showdown.

HAHAHAHAHAHA FTW

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Anonymous wrote:When Did hot tubs start being called "spas"? That is too hilarious. It's not a spa. A spa is a business you go to for massage, facials, treatments, etc...

A hot tub, is a hot tub. Really. Pretentious much?

I have heard the terms "hot tub" and "spa" used interchangeably for years. It's not a new thing.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hot_tub

I am pretty sure spa is the term they use when the item is part of the Showcase Showdown.

Anonymous wrote:Lock on the gate.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't like labeling the neighbor. She doesn't have to be an awful person, be an idiot, be creepy or have autism. The family is just doing something that you don't like or want to have happen. I like the honest approach of trying to bet balize what you want and need. Say, I woukdnorefer that the kids not come over all the time unattended or without asking. Or I don't feel that itMs safe for them to be there an attended could you call first? Or you're kids are great but they come over a bit too much. Could we try to talk frost before they come over so I can say if it is a good time?


It doesn't have to be rude or hostile or make you a jerk. You just have to be calm, honest and straightforward about what you want. GL.

eh, the woman is being rude and presumptuous to walk into a neighbor's fenced in yard like that. At best she's pushy at worst she's trying to push Op's buttons. How would this woman like it of Op routinely bursted through her front door and headed straight to use the bathroom w/o even asking....

And Op better watch it or that's the next thing this woman will be doing. Nip it.

+1

I see you have been there, too. It is no fun. People like this make other people their 'sport". It is tiresome and predictable. But they don't like to be called out, that is for damn sure.