Anonymous wrote:I think your SIL is naive. She shouldn't have accepted your mom's promise to take care of her kid, think about the situation; that house already has YOU and YOUR KID depending upon your mom for help and something tells me you guys are first in the pecking order. There is no way your mom can take are of both, it was dishonest for her to commit to help. So, when the time came and resources were taken from you and given to her, all hell broke loose. Your SlL should have politely declined the invitation, such a dumb woman.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. As a FTM, it's possible OP isn't comfortable caring for both children. Think back to when you had your firstborn, in the first few months of their life; it's somehow all-encompassing - remember when you could barely brush your teeth or sit downfor a decent meal? In retrospect, when we get into a groove, our child gets older and particularly when we add another child to the mix, it's hard to remember how and why it felt so hard, and like so much work - but c'mon, we've all been there. I remember sometimes feeding could take up to an hour with my firstborn, then a couple hours I was hearing up to feed him again. So maybe cut OP a bit of slack as a FTM.

If that's the case, then OP is clearly wrong coming here and blaming the SIL for her mother's exhaustion. OP has been there a week, enjoying her mother's hospitality and help and wearing out her mother. SIL has been there one day after taking a redeye with a toddler then getting a few hours of sleep while her MIL watched her son as promised. She came out early to visit because her MIL wanted to spend time with her grandson and agreed to watch the grandson while she worked. So, she took a nap instead of working. OP still is in the wrong blaming SIL for the problems. OP needs to either be an adult and take responsibility for helping her mother cope or admit that she's part of the problem instead of trying to blame it all on the SIL.

Additionally, while I would agree with you for a newborn, but by 7-8 months, it's already starting to get better. At 10 months, yes, it's still a lot of work, but it shouldn't be at the same level as the first couple of months with the sleep deprivation. At that point, most children are sleeping at least 4-6 hours at a stretch instead of 2-3 hours. Plus, she's had her mother helping her for a week.

Right now, OP is just a spoiled entitled child who is getting catty, territorial and won't share her mother with her SIL and nephew.

OP has a 10 week old, not a 10 month old, so OP, as a FTM, is clearly still in the newborn phase with the sleep deprivation.

I sit corrected. One would hope that this would explain why she's being so bitchy, but judging by her subsequent posts, she's really just bitchy and not merely the victim of sleep-deprivation.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. As a FTM, it's possible OP isn't comfortable caring for both children. Think back to when you had your firstborn, in the first few months of their life; it's somehow all-encompassing - remember when you could barely brush your teeth or sit downfor a decent meal? In retrospect, when we get into a groove, our child gets older and particularly when we add another child to the mix, it's hard to remember how and why it felt so hard, and like so much work - but c'mon, we've all been there. I remember sometimes feeding could take up to an hour with my firstborn, then a couple hours I was hearing up to feed him again. So maybe cut OP a bit of slack as a FTM.

If that's the case, then OP is clearly wrong coming here and blaming the SIL for her mother's exhaustion. OP has been there a week, enjoying her mother's hospitality and help and wearing out her mother. SIL has been there one day after taking a redeye with a toddler then getting a few hours of sleep while her MIL watched her son as promised. She came out early to visit because her MIL wanted to spend time with her grandson and agreed to watch the grandson while she worked. So, she took a nap instead of working. OP still is in the wrong blaming SIL for the problems. OP needs to either be an adult and take responsibility for helping her mother cope or admit that she's part of the problem instead of trying to blame it all on the SIL.

Additionally, while I would agree with you for a newborn, but by 7-8 months, it's already starting to get better. At 10 months, yes, it's still a lot of work, but it shouldn't be at the same level as the first couple of months with the sleep deprivation. At that point, most children are sleeping at least 4-6 hours at a stretch instead of 2-3 hours. Plus, she's had her mother helping her for a week.

Right now, OP is just a spoiled entitled child who is getting catty, territorial and won't share her mother with her SIL and nephew.

OP has a 10 week old, not a 10 month old, so OP, as a FTM, is clearly still in the newborn phase with the sleep deprivation.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound tired, which is reasonable for a FTM of an infant. Go on care.com and hire a babysitter to watch both your infant and your nephew and all of you should go to bed for a while. Your SIL isn't being unreasonable and has made an effort to come to your MILs house, which is a really big trek with a toddler - something you can't quite understand yet because you don't have a toddler. You were nice to pick them up at the airport and your mom was nice to watch your baby so you could do this. Nobody is in the wrong here, it just sounds like you are all stretched too thin caring for kids and working.

This is a situation where you need to throw money at it and buy yourselves some time to sleep and catch up on work. Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:OP again- God no wonder all of your mother in laws hate you people. You just view them as free child care for your exhausted selves- you don't realize what entitled pains you are by dropping off the kids at grandma's house. You don't seem to realize that maybe grandma could use a hand with the dishes after watching your kids all day.