Anonymous
05/13/2015 23:11
Subject: If your spouse has become a 'roommate' and you are just friends...
Anonymous wrote:I am a low sex drive DW. I wish that I was more into it but I work a full time job, run after two small kids and have an elderly parent. At the end of the day I REALLY don't want any more demands on my time or me. Truth be told though I was never that in to sex. I used to enjoy it but I didn't need to have it. Now I would rather veg on the couch at the end of a long day than go through the motions with DH. But I love my DH, he is a good man, fit, kind, great father and pulls more than his fair share at home. Is there any way to increase my sex drive? I honestly wish there were a pill or something. I'm just not that into it. Would rather sleep or watch TV
NP here and in the same boat. I know some women have used prescription testosterone cream and found that it make a big difference but of course there are other side effects. my husband had/has low drive and was tested and had super low testosterone. The cream makes a difference in him within a couple of weeks. I feel like I need to try it. I have absolutely no desire for sex. not in years.
Anonymous
05/13/2015 22:36
Subject: If your spouse has become a 'roommate' and you are just friends...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain to me why sex is so important?? Honestly I love my DH but I resent having to service his needs when I am tired. I just honestly don't get why it is so important to him or if it is just a physical need that he has to take care of - kind of like when you get grumpy because you are hungry? I'm not trying to be an ass, I would just appreciate hearing the point of view from a DH who is unhappy with the lack of frequent sex. Thanks.
It's a bonding thing, not just a physical release. Sex = love to a guy. And don't you have physical needs as well?
This! That's what I don't understand- did these women always feel this way about sex? Was it never something they did just for their own pleasure? Unless they always felt disinterested, in which case the husband can't complain, I just don't understand the huge change of heart around all things sex related.
They changed, but they don't want it to be their fault. So they rewrite it as "not a big deal" so they can blame their husbands for being so worked up about such a minor detail.
Anonymous
05/13/2015 21:59
Subject: If your spouse has become a 'roommate' and you are just friends...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain to me why sex is so important?? Honestly I love my DH but I resent having to service his needs when I am tired. I just honestly don't get why it is so important to him or if it is just a physical need that he has to take care of - kind of like when you get grumpy because you are hungry? I'm not trying to be an ass, I would just appreciate hearing the point of view from a DH who is unhappy with the lack of frequent sex. Thanks.
It's a bonding thing, not just a physical release. Sex = love to a guy. And don't you have physical needs as well?
This! That's what I don't understand- did these women always feel this way about sex? Was it never something they did just for their own pleasure? Unless they always felt disinterested, in which case the husband can't complain, I just don't understand the huge change of heart around all things sex related.
Anonymous
05/13/2015 21:56
Subject: If your spouse has become a 'roommate' and you are just friends...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is it, ladies. What you're looking for isn't out there. Unless you are looking for the single life, that is.
Tell that to the women who have come out happily on the other side of this- there are plenty.
They lie.
OP, stick it out for the kids. You owe them.
Happily divorced women are not a figment of your imagination. They exist.
Their existence most often revolves around finding ways not to be divorced anymore. Then it starts all over again. PP a few pages ago was right. What you are looking for does not exist. You cannot relive your youthful infatuation. If you are willing to put your family through hell for a chance to feel it with someone else for a short while... have yourself an affair and stop being such a selfish POS to your kids.
wtf? I'm not the PP you think I am. I'm just a person who lives in a world where there are happily divorced women and men, and where people realize that not every marriage should be "saved". Pull yourself together.
Anonymous
05/13/2015 21:08
Subject: If your spouse has become a 'roommate' and you are just friends...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain to me why sex is so important?? Honestly I love my DH but I resent having to service his needs when I am tired. I just honestly don't get why it is so important to him or if it is just a physical need that he has to take care of - kind of like when you get grumpy because you are hungry? I'm not trying to be an ass, I would just appreciate hearing the point of view from a DH who is unhappy with the lack of frequent sex. Thanks.
I don't get it either.
If you don't understand why it's important, than I guess you'd be okay with your spouse having sex with other people?
This. My wife has always said she would divorce me if I ever had an affair, but we have had sex twice in the last 6 months...
Anonymous
05/13/2015 20:52
Subject: If your spouse has become a 'roommate' and you are just friends...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain to me why sex is so important?? Honestly I love my DH but I resent having to service his needs when I am tired. I just honestly don't get why it is so important to him or if it is just a physical need that he has to take care of - kind of like when you get grumpy because you are hungry? I'm not trying to be an ass, I would just appreciate hearing the point of view from a DH who is unhappy with the lack of frequent sex. Thanks.
I don't get it either.
If you don't understand why it's important, than I guess you'd be okay with your spouse having sex with other people?
Anonymous
05/13/2015 20:29
Subject: If your spouse has become a 'roommate' and you are just friends...
Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain to me why sex is so important?? Honestly I love my DH but I resent having to service his needs when I am tired. I just honestly don't get why it is so important to him or if it is just a physical need that he has to take care of - kind of like when you get grumpy because you are hungry? I'm not trying to be an ass, I would just appreciate hearing the point of view from a DH who is unhappy with the lack of frequent sex. Thanks.
I don't get it either.
Anonymous
05/13/2015 09:46
Subject: If your spouse has become a 'roommate' and you are just friends...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is it, ladies. What you're looking for isn't out there. Unless you are looking for the single life, that is.
Tell that to the women who have come out happily on the other side of this- there are plenty.
They lie.
OP, stick it out for the kids. You owe them.
Happily divorced women are not a figment of your imagination. They exist.
Their existence most often revolves around finding ways not to be divorced anymore. Then it starts all over again. PP a few pages ago was right. What you are looking for does not exist. You cannot relive your youthful infatuation. If you are willing to put your family through hell for a chance to feel it with someone else for a short while... have yourself an affair and stop being such a selfish POS to your kids.
Anonymous
05/13/2015 09:43
Subject: If your spouse has become a 'roommate' and you are just friends...
Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain to me why sex is so important?? Honestly I love my DH but I resent having to service his needs when I am tired. I just honestly don't get why it is so important to him or if it is just a physical need that he has to take care of - kind of like when you get grumpy because you are hungry? I'm not trying to be an ass, I would just appreciate hearing the point of view from a DH who is unhappy with the lack of frequent sex. Thanks.
It's a bonding thing, not just a physical release. Sex = love to a guy. And don't you have physical needs as well?