Anonymous
Post 01/19/2015 14:10     Subject: Re:How do you develop a self-motivated child? A kindergartener who can work independently?
Repeating a grade does not help learning problems--however, time usually takes care of a lack of maturity.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2015 14:09     Subject: Re:How do you develop a self-motivated child? A kindergartener who can work independently?

OP, his mother, seems to think there is a problem and she *thinks* the teachers think there is a problem since she says they are hinting at holding her child back.


You generally don't help kids back for learning problems. You generally hold them back for lack of maturity.




Anonymous
Post 01/19/2015 13:55     Subject: Re:How do you develop a self-motivated child? A kindergartener who can work independently?
Anonymous wrote:Geez. The kid is five and the youngest in his class. He is capable and is in school for a loooong day-and, in an immersion class, to boot. And, you think he needs therapy?


OP, his mother, seems to think there is a problem and she *thinks* the teachers think there is a problem since she says they are hinting at holding her child back.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2015 13:52     Subject: Re:How do you develop a self-motivated child? A kindergartener who can work independently?
Geez. The kid is five and the youngest in his class. He is capable and is in school for a loooong day-and, in an immersion class, to boot. And, you think he needs therapy?
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2015 13:47     Subject: How do you develop a self-motivated child? A kindergartener who can work independently?
Also, most therapists will not accept a child who refuses to participate/compliance issues. I speak from experience.

OP needs to get her kid evaluated.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2015 13:40     Subject: How do you develop a self-motivated child? A kindergartener who can work independently?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, he needs more support than he's currently getting. This means MORE one-on-one work, not less. You can see a cognitive behavioral therapist for anxiety, but you are also going to need services in the classroom - that's where the IEP comes in. The kinds of supports my son has received have ranged from a paraprofessional who sits beside him in class and coaches him through the assignment, to checklists, to special folders and systems for papers, to modified assignments, laptop instead of paper and pencil, etc.

Lots of kids with these needs are plenty bright. But being bright isn't enough. You also need other skills, like organization and persistence, and some kids don't have the ability to develop these on their own without help. I would ask about an evaluation by your school and start there.


Seeing a CBT for a 5/6 yr old isn't going to work. They are simply too young to get much out of therapy. Your best bet is getting an evaluation and seeing what is causing the anxiety and going from there. You don't know what supports will work until you know the cause.


We started seeing a CBT therapist partway through my son's kindergarten year. It was life changing and made more of a difference than any other single thing we did. He was not too young for the tools she used.


In all likelihood, OP's kid will be non-compliant and refuse to participate in the therapy just like he is refusing to do the work at school. Maybe later after they work on the non-compliance, CBT will help.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2015 13:29     Subject: Re:How do you develop a self-motivated child? A kindergartener who can work independently?
He's obviously had a non-compliance problem for awhile and she hasn't asked for an evaluation from the school.


OP--did his preschool teacher recommend holding him out a year?
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2015 13:12     Subject: Re:How do you develop a self-motivated child? A kindergartener who can work independently?
agree maturity. My son (pk4) just vibes in a big group. Kinda watches others but mostly just experiences being around so many squirmy bodies. He's made NO progress in Montessori curriculum. He just kinda hangs out. Follows teacher around. Halfheartedly does his work while watching others. I'm not too worried. He's a late june birthday and just a young young 4.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2015 13:11     Subject: Re:How do you develop a self-motivated child? A kindergartener who can work independently?
Anonymous wrote:

Also, there are plenty of kids with summer birthdays including September birthdays sent on time and most do just fine especially since basically none of their peers are red shirted.


OP can evaluate that--do we know that for sure that there are no redshirted kids in the class?






Just the nature of dual language programs. People don't red shirt for duel language.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2015 13:10     Subject: Re:How do you develop a self-motivated child? A kindergartener who can work independently?
Anonymous wrote:

She will have to if she wants to hold him back just for maturity reasons.


Well, if she thinks he has maturity issues now--just wait until high school.




If the lack of maturity is due to other factors like ADHD/executive functioning issues holding the kid back or taking him out of the immersion program isn't going to solve the problem. You can't age yourself out of a medical issue. OP's reluctance to get her kid evaluated is troubling. He's obviously had a non-compliance problem for awhile and she hasn't asked for an evaluation from the school.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2015 13:04     Subject: Re:How do you develop a self-motivated child? A kindergartener who can work independently?

She will have to if she wants to hold him back just for maturity reasons.


Well, if she thinks he has maturity issues now--just wait until high school.




Anonymous
Post 01/19/2015 13:03     Subject: Re:How do you develop a self-motivated child? A kindergartener who can work independently?

Also, there are plenty of kids with summer birthdays including September birthdays sent on time and most do just fine especially since basically none of their peers are red shirted.


OP can evaluate that--do we know that for sure that there are no redshirted kids in the class?




Anonymous
Post 01/19/2015 12:58     Subject: Re:How do you develop a self-motivated child? A kindergartener who can work independently?
Anonymous wrote:Maybe she should remove him from the immersion program.


She will have to if she wants to hold him back just for maturity reasons.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2015 12:57     Subject: How do you develop a self-motivated child? A kindergartener who can work independently?
Also, there are plenty of kids with summer birthdays including September birthdays sent on time and most do just fine especially since basically none of their peers are red shirted.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2015 12:56     Subject: Re:How do you develop a self-motivated child? A kindergartener who can work independently?
Maybe she should remove him from the immersion program.