Anonymous
10/21/2014 13:19
Subject: "Party girl" reputation
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's peculiar that "having respect for yourself" is often code for "acting in conformity with someone else's more conservative moral code."
I think it's peculiar that people think they should be able to escape the consequences for their bad behavior by attacking those who call them out on it.
Lemme ask you something Mr-High-and-Mighty: who exactly does this "bad behavior" harm? Why is it bad behavior? Like, show me the harm to random passers by that this behavior causes that makes it 'bad". The woman and the men who make out with her aren't random passers-by - they're willing participants. You sound like the straight morons who complain that "gay marriage" is a threat to your straight relationship. I've got news: if you and your spouse are really straight - truly, not just closet cases in hardcore self-denial - then what gay people do has zero effect on you or your marriage.
The women who slut shame are angry that these "easy" women are more attractive to men and the men who slut shame just want women who they think they have no risk of losing. It's all about sexual property and ownership.
Anonymous
10/21/2014 13:17
Subject: "Party girl" reputation
Anonymous wrote:PP @10:30 again - the main slut-shamers of women in our society are other women.
Of course, like stealing from the gov't, women hate competition.
Anonymous
10/21/2014 13:17
Subject: "Party girl" reputation
Nothing wrong with being a party girl, just keep your work life and personal life separate. Dh and I were both super drunk when we met at a party.
Anonymous
10/21/2014 13:16
Subject: "Party girl" reputation
No man wants to smell the earlier deposit of another man in his mate
Anonymous
10/21/2014 13:14
Subject: "Party girl" reputation
Anonymous wrote:As guys age, they are better able to get and maintain erections with familiar people with whom they are comfortable.
Are you kidding? You completely contradict yourself in the next breath:
Committing to professionals to get your kink on is a recipe for divorce for most people. Go read the relationship board on DCUM. You'll find tons of people complaining that their DH is bored or they are bored and their sex life has died on the vine. There are tons of people who want a little adventure but their spouse isn't up for it. None of them are willing to allow DH or DW to visit a professional or step out on the marriage.
Anonymous
10/21/2014 13:11
Subject: "Party girl" reputation
Anonymous wrote:
it is more beneficial to rent skills (via dating or paying a pro) than to buy a depreciating asset. especially something his depreciation curve is exponential and not linear.
Completely agree!
Anonymous
10/21/2014 13:07
Subject: "Party girl" reputation
Anonymous wrote:
Not OP, but because I have mad skills in bed.
I get it, you also think you have a golden vagina.
Anonymous
10/21/2014 13:07
Subject: "Party girl" reputation
"Being deliberately obtuse" = "challenging assumptions I'd rather leave unexamined."
Anonymous
10/21/2014 13:06
Subject: "Party girl" reputation
You're just wrong about self-respect. There may be a correlation between lack of self-respect and people who get drunk and screw. But it's a tenuous correlation. I respect myself tremendously and am, nevertheless, a fan of getting drunk and having sex when they seem like fun things to do.
Anonymous
10/21/2014 12:38
Subject: "Party girl" reputation
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's peculiar that "having respect for yourself" is often code for "acting in conformity with someone else's more conservative moral code."
I think it's peculiar that people think they should be able to escape the consequences for their bad behavior by attacking those who call them out on it.
Why do you think having sex is "bad" behavior? Does it make Baby Jesus cry or something?
There is a difference between having sex and getting drunk and hooking up with random guys at work.
Don't be deliberately obtuse.
Please articulate the non-religious reason why sex while intoxicated with short-term or one-time relationships is inherently bad. For whatever it's worth, I'll say up front that I'll find rationales that rely on the subjective opinions of third parties to be less than persuasive inasmuch as the "badness" could easily be attributed to those third parties and not the drunk sex itself.
It shows - as I said - a lack of self-respect. Getting drunk by itself shows a lack of respect for your body. Do you have no clue about the short or long term effects of alcohol on people? You think that a hangover is a sign that your body was getting the nutrients it needs? Getting stupid drunk is something stupid people do.
Additionally, hooking up with people that you don't even know or necessarily like is also showing a lack of self-respect. This isn't choosing sex because you are a sexual person. This is choosing sex because you are stupid drunk and have impaired judgment.
You cannot put words in my mouth. I have never said that having sex is per se bad behavior. I said getting drunk and hooking up shows a lack of self-respect. Again, stop being deliberately obtuse.
Anonymous
10/21/2014 12:18
Subject: "Party girl" reputation
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's peculiar that "having respect for yourself" is often code for "acting in conformity with someone else's more conservative moral code."
I think it's peculiar that people think they should be able to escape the consequences for their bad behavior by attacking those who call them out on it.
Why do you think having sex is "bad" behavior? Does it make Baby Jesus cry or something?
There is a difference between having sex and getting drunk and hooking up with random guys at work.
Don't be deliberately obtuse.
Please articulate the non-religious reason why sex while intoxicated with short-term or one-time relationships is inherently bad. For whatever it's worth, I'll say up front that I'll find rationales that rely on the subjective opinions of third parties to be less than persuasive inasmuch as the "badness" could easily be attributed to those third parties and not the drunk sex itself.
Anonymous
10/21/2014 12:13
Subject: "Party girl" reputation
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am real. And yeah I'm starting to realize I should've kept the hook-ups secret and outside of work. Ugh.
Um yeah. Little late for that. Because not only have those stories circulated, the've grown in detail. A hot makeout session has turned into you dropping to your knees. Simple sex has morphed into you doing anal and begging for more. Watch how the guys in the office are watching you. Some of them want to find out for themselves what's fact and what's fiction.
PP, you sound like a gross pervert.
Why? Does it sting that PP is just telling OP how it really is? Oh wait, she doesn't want to be held accountable for her actions and it's the men who are the problem
Having explicit fantasies about your co-worker says more about you and your lack of action in real life. Also anyone who spills details about their office hookups, male or female, is to be avoided at all costs. Discretion is not just the responsibility of the woman.
I think you missed the return trip on the Mayflower with the other puritans. You are most definitely on the wrong board
and women don't do the same exact thing? GFs don't kiss and tell and go on about every detail of their sex lives - whether its a hookup, BF, DH? please, if you think the behavior is limited to men only, sorry sister, you're living in an laternate universe.
Ha, I am not a puritan at all; in fact, I posted early as a party girl who eventually settled down. But men who sit around manufacturing explicit sexual fantasies and discussing them at work are gross beyond belief. I work in IT and hear it all the time; I also know that none of them are getting any action other than with themselves. Sad.
Anonymous
10/21/2014 12:08
Subject: "Party girl" reputation
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's peculiar that "having respect for yourself" is often code for "acting in conformity with someone else's more conservative moral code."
I think it's peculiar that people think they should be able to escape the consequences for their bad behavior by attacking those who call them out on it.
Why do you think having sex is "bad" behavior? Does it make Baby Jesus cry or something?
There is a difference between having sex and getting drunk and hooking up with random guys at work.
Don't be deliberately obtuse.
Anonymous
10/21/2014 12:07
Subject: "Party girl" reputation
Anonymous wrote:a key that opens many locks is a master key.
a lock that is opened by many keys is a useless lock.
A woman's genitals are not a lock. They are a body part.
Anonymous
10/21/2014 12:06
Subject: "Party girl" reputation
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am real. And yeah I'm starting to realize I should've kept the hook-ups secret and outside of work. Ugh.
Um yeah. Little late for that. Because not only have those stories circulated, the've grown in detail. A hot makeout session has turned into you dropping to your knees. Simple sex has morphed into you doing anal and begging for more. Watch how the guys in the office are watching you. Some of them want to find out for themselves what's fact and what's fiction.
PP, you sound like a gross pervert.
Lol, nope, but I am good at what I do behind closed doors =)
How YOU doin'?