Anonymous wrote:The worst are people like the OP. Its time to grow up. You do not have a right to impose your childish food taste on others. Why do you think you have the right to kill the fun of everyone else. Go eat your bowl of gruel some where else.

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Anonymous wrote:Pretty major point here that no one has brought up - OP says this:
"[I] know you're supposed to mention any dietary restrictions when you RSVP."

I don't think this is the case at all, unless you are specifically asked.

I think you do mention it. I have no idea if it's the etiquette or not, but I'd rather have the 2 seconds of embarrassment of saying that I don't consume pork or alcohol (Muslim) than to not say a word and find that the main entrée is ham. Believe me I would have no problem just eating the sides if that were to happen, but it makes the host uncomfortable or embarrassed or sometimes they feel they quickly have to scrounge up something else. Much easier to say it and then the host sticks to beef, chicken, fish etc.

NP here - you mention it if you have a serious allergy, or maybe if you have a religious concern. Personally, though I come from a Muslim background and don't eat pork, most people either (1) know this (most people who know me, or know Muslims/Jews, know they don't eat pork) or (2) I work around it at meal time, and just avoid pork dishes. Unless I'm going to get seriously sick or die, it's my problem to deal with.

Mentioning mere "dislikes" to a host is absurd. If food issues prevent someone from normal eating with others, then they need to deal with that on their own and not expect others to accommodate you.

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Anonymous wrote:Pretty major point here that no one has brought up - OP says this:
"[I] know you're supposed to mention any dietary restrictions when you RSVP."

I don't think this is the case at all, unless you are specifically asked.

I think you do mention it. I have no idea if it's the etiquette or not, but I'd rather have the 2 seconds of embarrassment of saying that I don't consume pork or alcohol (Muslim) than to not say a word and find that the main entrée is ham. Believe me I would have no problem just eating the sides if that were to happen, but it makes the host uncomfortable or embarrassed or sometimes they feel they quickly have to scrounge up something else. Much easier to say it and then the host sticks to beef, chicken, fish etc.

Anonymous wrote:Pretty major point here that no one has brought up - OP says this:
"[I] know you're supposed to mention any dietary restrictions when you RSVP."

I don't think this is the case at all, unless you are specifically asked.

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Anonymous wrote:Geez, what is up with people calling OP unrefined, immature and the like? If OP genuinely can't eat even mildly spicy food or else have a reaction, how is that OP's fault?? And unrefined? As if eating certain foods makes you refined? What a joke.

OP, if you were my good friend, I would like to know your restrictions and would try to serve a few items that you could eat.

I have to agree with this. When you grow up with undiagnosed food intolerances / allergies, it tends to make you a VERY picky eater. I know so many people like this, myself included. As a kid, the only words you have are "I don't like it". That gets you labels like "picky", "high maintenance", "immature". I felt so much shame but no one really understood that I wasn't just trying to be a pain in the ass. It is not an easy way to live, as the OP knows. Nobody relishes being "picky".

OP, if you haven't ever worked with a nutritionist or had allergy testing, I would highly recommend it.

But as for the dinner party-- I would just go ahead and decline. If the host is going to be constantly monitoring and commenting on your food choices, that just sounds stressful for everyone involved.

Uh no, please don't make unsubstantiated claims regarding food intolerances. I grew up with undiagnosed Celiac. I ate almost anything. I would take a pass on pasta if given a choice because it made me so sick. But as a kid, I was often served pasta for dinner and ate it anyway. To this day, I will eat anything provided it is gluten free. So your statement is a broad generalization.

If one has any class, you have a couple of bites of food you don't like because we live in a society with others. The social rule is to be a gracious guest.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, OP -- water and tortilla chips? You really couldn't bring yourself to try anything else on the menu?

Yours is more than a food preference or aversion, it's an illness. Adults learn to broaden their palette and try new things.

I HAVE tried new things. I just don't like a lot of them. The first time I ate strawberries with vinegar on them I (didn't know about the vinegar and) thought they'd gone horribly rotten. When I was in Mexico I tried chicken mole even though it looked like liquid shit on top of chicken. It tasted fine. I had an Indian roommate and tried her food numerous times and always wound up gulping tons of water. I was once given a complementary glass of OJ at a restaurant. When I took a sip it tasted wrong and mentioned it to the friend I was brunching with - she tasted it and laughed at me - it had champagne in it. I tried quinoa (didn't like it), some pasta dish my sister made (it would have been okay without the white sauce) - I try things regularly.

You are incredibly immature. The way you describe traditional Mexican mole sause says all we need to know about you.

How old are you? Because if I did not know better from the context of the exchange, I would honestly put you at 13.

Anonymous wrote:Geez, what is up with people calling OP unrefined, immature and the like? If OP genuinely can't eat even mildly spicy food or else have a reaction, how is that OP's fault?? And unrefined? As if eating certain foods makes you refined? What a joke.

OP, if you were my good friend, I would like to know your restrictions and would try to serve a few items that you could eat.

Anonymous wrote:On this one, you're both wrong. You have got to learn how to get by in the real world, but she shouldn't notice and comment on what you're eating. She shouldn't be having a dinner with the intent of "making you eat stuff". You're an annoying guest, but if I generally enjoy your company, I will invite you and just ignore you sitting there eating bread and water.

Anonymous wrote:The worst are people like the OP. Its time to grow up. You do not have a right to impose your childish food taste on others. Why do you think you have the right to kill the fun of everyone else. Go eat your bowl of gruel some where else.