Yeah those 18 year old college students are adults---until it comes time to choose someone to handle your estate. Won't hand that over to your 18 year old will ya?

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That is whygraduates do not find work. They never have worked in their life and a potential employer will tather consider a candidate that did not have daddy to pay for everything. At least one like that can work

Really? THIS is why graduates can't find work? You sound silly!

Who's asking about monthly allowances during a job interview?

I'm certain my child's unpaid summer internships will make him more appealing than the kid who worked in the school cafeteria for spending money.

internships are not as grand as they used to be. Everyone knows you just made the coffee.
The kid that juggled a job and college must surely be way more mature.
Employers do not care about gpa. Just are you the right person for this particular job

You sound very silly, as many--if not most--internships provide REAL LIFE experience. And resumes/references allow prospective employees to flush out what the applicant actually did. But it's cute that you think you know what all employers think and want.

And it's YOUR assumption that the kid who worked must be more mature. And it's obviously a flawed assumption because many, many, many kids who did not work during college end up getting jobs. They don't go into the interview looking burned out and sounding as if they have a chip on their shoulders. But again, your assumption about what all employers think--based on your limited perspective--is cute.

And now employers don't care about GPA (BS. Otherwise they wouldn't request them.) They just care that you are the right person for this job. BINGO! THAT'S what they care about. Not whether or not you worked and juggled school.

Again, my child's internships and study abroad will make him a much more attractive candidate than the one who struggles to juggle work with college just so they can afford some down time at the movies.

We give our son (rising senior) $125/mo plus a used car to drive and use of our gas card (which we pay). He's expected to pay for anything over that on his own, either through his work study job, summer internship, or savings in the bank. He's complaining lately that he's running short, so we'll probably raise the monthly allowance to $175.

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That is whygraduates do not find work. They never have worked in their life and a potential employer will tather consider a candidate that did not have daddy to pay for everything. At least one like that can work

Really? THIS is why graduates can't find work? You sound silly!

Who's asking about monthly allowances during a job interview?

I'm certain my child's unpaid summer internships will make him more appealing than the kid who worked in the school cafeteria for spending money.

internships are not as grand as they used to be. Everyone knows you just made the coffee.
The kid that juggled a job and college must surely be way more mature.
Employers do not care about gpa. Just are you the right person for this particular job

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Anonymous wrote:You all need some perspective. When I started college in the late 1990s, my parents didn't pay for any of it. I had a scholarship and some small loans to pay for housing. My mother scraped together $100 to give me as start up cash, dropped me off, and that was it.

I know, I know...the horror. But I live to tell.

So what? When I started college in 1995 my parents paid for everything that financial aid didn't cover AND sent me money once a month. I'm sorry you had to take out loans, I'm sorry your mom couldn't give you more than $100, I'm sorry you didn't get more financial support. But you probably didn't get it because your mom didn't have it to give. My parents had more to give, so they gave it. I have a very strong work ethic despite that, and despite moving home after college for a couple of years. Don't we want better for our children? I want mine to struggle even less than I did. I really believe that can be balanced with teaching them the strong work ethic my brother and I have.

+100

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Anonymous wrote:I couldn't agree more with the parents that said 0. After paying for tuition (especially if it is out of state), room and board, books and meal plans... why should they get allowances for personal items? When they come back home to visit or when I go visit them, I can give them some money but I certainly will not set aside a set amount of money for them monthly.

They should get summer jobs. Stop spoiling your adult children people!

'Adult children' have college degrees, a career, and don't come home for the summer.

Those people we send off to college are not adults.

That is whygraduates do not find work. They never have worked in their life and a potential employer will tather consider a candidate that did not have daddy to pay for everything. At least one like that can work

Really? THIS is why graduates can't find work? You sound silly!

Who's asking about monthly allowances during a job interview?

I'm certain my child's unpaid summer internships will make him more appealing than the kid who worked in the school cafeteria for spending money.

His internships and high GPA he was able to achieve because he had more time to focus on his studies.

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Anonymous wrote:I couldn't agree more with the parents that said 0. After paying for tuition (especially if it is out of state), room and board, books and meal plans... why should they get allowances for personal items? When they come back home to visit or when I go visit them, I can give them some money but I certainly will not set aside a set amount of money for them monthly.

They should get summer jobs. Stop spoiling your adult children people!

'Adult children' have college degrees, a career, and don't come home for the summer.

Those people we send off to college are not adults.

That is whygraduates do not find work. They never have worked in their life and a potential employer will tather consider a candidate that did not have daddy to pay for everything. At least one like that can work

Really? THIS is why graduates can't find work? You sound silly!

Who's asking about monthly allowances during a job interview?

I'm certain my child's unpaid summer internships will make him more appealing than the kid who worked in the school cafeteria for spending money.

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18 year olds are legal adults, by definition. You're raising yours to be dependent, entitled, immature adults; that's fine. But they're still adults.

None of them are adults when their parents are on here itemizing the cost of their tampons.

Jesus.

I went to a fantastic college where my parents paid three years of tuition/room and board, but I worked my ass off at two jobs every summer and between 10 and 20 hours a week during the school year to afford whatever else I wanted. Including books, which as I recall were $400 per semester? Teach your child to budget. And that Brazilians are not a "necessity."

Nothing teaches how to budget like a monthly allowance.

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18 year olds are legal adults, by definition. You're raising yours to be dependent, entitled, immature adults; that's fine. But they're still adults.

None of them are adults when their parents are on here itemizing the cost of their tampons.

Jesus.

I went to a fantastic college where my parents paid three years of tuition/room and board, but I worked my ass off at two jobs every summer and between 10 and 20 hours a week during the school year to afford whatever else I wanted. Including books, which as I recall were $400 per semester? Teach your child to budget. And that Brazilians are not a "necessity."

+1000 I'd like to be your friend.

Anonymous wrote:You all need some perspective. When I started college in the late 1990s, my parents didn't pay for any of it. I had a scholarship and some small loans to pay for housing. My mother scraped together $100 to give me as start up cash, dropped me off, and that was it.

I know, I know...the horror. But I live to tell.

So what? When I started college in 1995 my parents paid for everything that financial aid didn't cover AND sent me money once a month. I'm sorry you had to take out loans, I'm sorry your mom couldn't give you more than $100, I'm sorry you didn't get more financial support. But you probably didn't get it because your mom didn't have it to give. My parents had more to give, so they gave it. I have a very strong work ethic despite that, and despite moving home after college for a couple of years. Don't we want better for our children? I want mine to struggle even less than I did. I really believe that can be balanced with teaching them the strong work ethic my brother and I have.

18 year olds are legal adults, by definition. You're raising yours to be dependent, entitled, immature adults; that's fine. But they're still adults.

None of them are adults when their parents are on here itemizing the cost of their tampons.

Jesus.

I went to a fantastic college where my parents paid three years of tuition/room and board, but I worked my ass off at two jobs every summer and between 10 and 20 hours a week during the school year to afford whatever else I wanted. Including books, which as I recall were $400 per semester? Teach your child to budget. And that Brazilians are not a "necessity."

You all need some perspective. When I started college in the late 1990s, my parents didn't pay for any of it. I had a scholarship and some small loans to pay for housing. My mother scraped together $100 to give me as start up cash, dropped me off, and that was it.

I know, I know...the horror. But I live to tell.

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Anonymous wrote: . . . . also have to spend money taking your daughter out on dates.

Good thing DD has the birth control pills taken care of then.

Those are free at the College clinic.

Not free at Georgetown.

Under Obama Care it is if your on your parents health insurance.

Prescription drugs are covered under most insurance policies. One pays a premium for the insurance. Hence the services, including prescriptions, are covered per the policy - they aren't free. How long are people going to repeat this ignorant canard.

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Anonymous wrote:I couldn't agree more with the parents that said 0. After paying for tuition (especially if it is out of state), room and board, books and meal plans... why should they get allowances for personal items? When they come back home to visit or when I go visit them, I can give them some money but I certainly will not set aside a set amount of money for them monthly.

They should get summer jobs. Stop spoiling your adult children people!

'Adult children' have college degrees, a career, and don't come home for the summer.

Those people we send off to college are not adults.

That is whygraduates do not find work. They never have worked in their life and a potential employer will tather consider a candidate that did not have daddy to pay for everything. At least one like that can work

No but they can work during the school year too.