Anonymous
Post 05/20/2014 02:06     Subject: Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?
Anonymous wrote:The barhoppers in their mid 30s make me really sad, because the ones I know REALLY want to find someone.

I think pics of dogs suck no matter who posts them.


I'm 30, a mom, and live abroad. Lots of married 40yos with children do this in different parts of the world and its refreshing to see. I think some men and women fear getting married and becoming the couple thats always together and doing family activities.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2014 01:50     Subject: Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am a single mom with one kid. I am not envious of your blowhardy, pontificating husband. I am also not jealous of the fact that you are taking most of the career hits that come with parenting, doing all of the pediatrician's appointments, buying all of the clothes, and doing all of the research on schools, while also arranging visits to his family members and picking up his dry cleaning. I do wonder at your sense of superiority, since many of you are not capable of supporting your kids, so that the difference between you and a welfare mother is the fact that you married well.

A smug non-married boasting about not needing a man. Interesting! Well I, for one, don't take your smugness personal because I am in that MAJORITY who hit it out of the park when I chose my DH. I thank(ed) my lucky stars when he orders clothes online, researched and found an excellent daycare, picks up the dry cleaning, does ALL the laundry, decided to come off the road and accept a non-traveling position (for less pay I might add) when DS #2 came so he could be present and engaged while they were young, took off from work for six weeks when DS #2 was born, does 60% of the cooking and serves as our unpaid landscaper/house keeper. Did I mention that he has a giant ____ that still feels amazing after giving birth to two DSs?

I'll see your invisible partner and raise you one imperfect, yet awesome, blowhardy, pontificating PARTNER any day of the week.


You do realize that tomorrow he could get hit by a bus, stricken with terminal cancer, or cheat on and divorce you?
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2014 01:20     Subject: Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am a single mom with one kid. I am not envious of your blowhardy, pontificating husband. I am also not jealous of the fact that you are taking most of the career hits that come with parenting, doing all of the pediatrician's appointments, buying all of the clothes, and doing all of the research on schools, while also arranging visits to his family members and picking up his dry cleaning. I do wonder at your sense of superiority, since many of you are not capable of supporting your kids, so that the difference between you and a welfare mother is the fact that you married well.

A smug non-married boasting about not needing a man. Interesting! Well I, for one, don't take your smugness personal because I am in that MAJORITY who hit it out of the park when I chose my DH. I thank(ed) my lucky stars when he orders clothes online, researched and found an excellent daycare, picks up the dry cleaning, does ALL the laundry, decided to come off the road and accept a non-traveling position (for less pay I might add) when DS #2 came so he could be present and engaged while they were young, took off from work for six weeks when DS #2 was born, does 60% of the cooking and serves as our unpaid landscaper/house keeper. Did I mention that he has a giant ____ that still feels amazing after giving birth to two DSs?

I'll see your invisible partner and raise you one imperfect, yet awesome, blowhardy, pontificating PARTNER any day of the week.


Anonymous
Post 05/20/2014 01:16     Subject: Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?
Anonymous wrote:I am a single mom with one kid. I am not envious of your blowhardy, pontificating husband. I am also not jealous of the fact that you are taking most of the career hits that come with parenting, doing all of the pediatrician's appointments, buying all of the clothes, and doing all of the research on schools, while also arranging visits to his family members and picking up his dry cleaning. I do wonder at your sense of superiority, since many of you are not capable of supporting your kids, so that the difference between you and a welfare mother is the fact that you married well.

A smug non-married boasting about not needing a man. Interesting! Well I, for one, don't take your smugness personal because I am in that MAJORITY who hit it out of the park when I chose my DH. I thank(ed) my lucky stars when he orders clothes online, researched and found an excellent daycare, picks up the dry cleaning, does ALL the laundry, decided to come off the road and accept a non-traveling position (for less pay I might add) when DS #2 came so he could be present and engaged while they were young, took off from work for six weeks when DS #2 was born, does 60% of the cooking and serves as our unpaid landscaper/house keeper. Did I mention that he has a giant ____ that still feels amazing after giving birth to two DSs?

I'll see your invisible partner and raise you one imperfect, yet awesome, blowhardy, pontificating PARTNER any day of the week.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2014 23:52     Subject: Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am a single mom with one kid. I am not envious of your blowhardy, pontificating husband. I am also not jealous of the fact that you are taking most of the career hits that come with parenting, doing all of the pediatrician's appointments, buying all of the clothes, and doing all of the research on schools, while also arranging visits to his family members and picking up his dry cleaning. I do wonder at your sense of superiority, since many of you are not capable of supporting your kids, so that the difference between you and a welfare mother is the fact that you married well.


Your post is so transparent. You DO care, and you're bitter as all get-out.


I'm eating chocolate cookies and surfing the internet in my jammies. I don't feel bitter, but perhaps you're more in touch with my feelings than I am. I meet a lot of people here in DC who are pretty sure that that's the case, hence the proliferation of the blowhardy pontificating husband.


Jammies? How old are you?


Looks like someone's got a case of the grumps. Pass her a couple of those cookies PP, she clearly needs to rein in the bliss that is married life. .
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2014 23:48     Subject: Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?
Smug over being married?! No, never
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2014 23:47     Subject: Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?
I am so much better at being a smug parent so that is what I focus on.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2014 23:17     Subject: Re:Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?
Anonymous wrote:Love my children, love my husband, but actually, lately I'm a bit envious of my single friends who are living their dreams, traveling to cool places, training for marathons, taking weekend trips at a moment's notice, etc. I say that as I am still recovering from an overly busy, child-centric weekend that involved Little League, dance recital, swim lessons, birthday party, etc...


This is me exactly. I'm certain that I envy my single friends with exciting lives more than they envy me. At least I HOPE so.

And as far as friends posting about bar hopping, my married friends do this far more than my single friends. Usually they are at bars together at least but still...rarely do my single friends post about their wild nights out at bars (but I am 37 so maybe that's why).

I have to agree on the dog/cat, food and fitness/running/training pictures though--just don't care at all. I barely care about most people's kids pictures but I do see where their grandparents/family would care. And some of them really are cute kids.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2014 23:14     Subject: Re:Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?
Hmmm . . . Ms. Smugvillie! I bet my dog loves ME more than your kids love YOU. And I bet my dog is better looking than your kids are. What a WITCH you are. No wonder this forum gets such bad reviews - it's people like you that get this forum such bad press. I feel sorry for you and your kids. Show us a picture of how beautiful you and your family are.

Quite frankly, I am happy to be in my 30's and not have a husband and kids. I don't want the fiscal obligation of either and with the crap I see of how all of you entitled DCUM'S are, I will live with my 500k+ salary with my lovely dog and post all the pics I want. PS. Your kids ARE NOT CUTE!!!
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2014 23:04     Subject: Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am a single mom with one kid. I am not envious of your blowhardy, pontificating husband. I am also not jealous of the fact that you are taking most of the career hits that come with parenting, doing all of the pediatrician's appointments, buying all of the clothes, and doing all of the research on schools, while also arranging visits to his family members and picking up his dry cleaning. I do wonder at your sense of superiority, since many of you are not capable of supporting your kids, so that the difference between you and a welfare mother is the fact that you married well.


Your post is so transparent. You DO care, and you're bitter as all get-out.


I'm eating chocolate cookies and surfing the internet in my jammies. I don't feel bitter, but perhaps you're more in touch with my feelings than I am. I meet a lot of people here in DC who are pretty sure that that's the case, hence the proliferation of the blowhardy pontificating husband.


Jammies? How old are you?
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2014 22:58     Subject: Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am a single mom with one kid. I am not envious of your blowhardy, pontificating husband. I am also not jealous of the fact that you are taking most of the career hits that come with parenting, doing all of the pediatrician's appointments, buying all of the clothes, and doing all of the research on schools, while also arranging visits to his family members and picking up his dry cleaning. I do wonder at your sense of superiority, since many of you are not capable of supporting your kids, so that the difference between you and a welfare mother is the fact that you married well.


Your post is so transparent. You DO care, and you're bitter as all get-out.


I'm eating chocolate cookies and surfing the internet in my jammies. I don't feel bitter, but perhaps you're more in touch with my feelings than I am. I meet a lot of people here in DC who are pretty sure that that's the case, hence the proliferation of the blowhardy pontificating husband.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2014 22:54     Subject: Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I hate all pet pictures. I think some of you are missing the point on the kid pics. Many of us live far away from our moms, dads, bros, sisters, and our family and closest friends want to see the babies. Who can say this about pet pictures? Totally off topic I know, but I don't care about the smug thing. I do, however, loathe pet pictures.


We don't care about the point of kid pictures. Use your filters so gramps and grandma can see your kids without clogging up everyone else's fb. It's spam to everyone but you and your family members.


Um, OK, cat lady. Which of your 37 pets did I offend?


Happily married with zero cats. My DH has a dog if that counts. And I am not an attention whore so no need to plaster my children's photos on fb for people who do not care what they had for lunch today.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2014 22:50     Subject: Re:Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?
Anonymous wrote:Love my children, love my husband, but actually, lately I'm a bit envious of my single friends who are living their dreams, traveling to cool places, training for marathons, taking weekend trips at a moment's notice, etc. I say that as I am still recovering from an overly busy, child-centric weekend that involved Little League, dance recital, swim lessons, birthday party, etc...


Your single friends with jobs aren't doing most of these things. How much time do you think we get off from work every year? As a single person, I work, try to stay professionally relevant by taking courses once in a while, maintaining my condo w/o help (how am I going to get that couch from one side of the room to another), trying to eat healthy, etc. Single people don't spend every weekend having "girls nights".
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2014 22:45     Subject: Re:Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?
Love my children, love my husband, but actually, lately I'm a bit envious of my single friends who are living their dreams, traveling to cool places, training for marathons, taking weekend trips at a moment's notice, etc. I say that as I am still recovering from an overly busy, child-centric weekend that involved Little League, dance recital, swim lessons, birthday party, etc...
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2014 22:45     Subject: Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?
Anonymous wrote:I am a single mom with one kid. I am not envious of your blowhardy, pontificating husband. I am also not jealous of the fact that you are taking most of the career hits that come with parenting, doing all of the pediatrician's appointments, buying all of the clothes, and doing all of the research on schools, while also arranging visits to his family members and picking up his dry cleaning. I do wonder at your sense of superiority, since many of you are not capable of supporting your kids, so that the difference between you and a welfare mother is the fact that you married well.


I love this.