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Anonymous wrote:Interesting I had never previously thought about the fact that you really don;t see these kinds of bragging stickers to the same extent in other parts of the country.

I'm pretty comfortable in my belief that you can be proud of your children without slapping a sticker on your car. I also think you can be "extremely accomplished" without bragging about it on anonymous discussion boards. Its how i was raised. Be proud but don't brag. And I'm always incredibly impressed when I meet people and then find out from others how "incredibly accomplished" they are because they wouldn't ever brag about it themselves.

Bragging about your kids seems even worse to me because in some ways its a burden to them, all this living out their parents' fantasies and being displayed for their bragging rights. I don't feel a need to do this -- my kids have their lives, the things they love to do and that they do well, and its their business. Their accomplishments are not for me to brag.

As I said, I was raised differently. My "extremely accomplished" parents were humble and kind.

BS! No accomplished person with very accomplished parents begrudges anyone a sticker on his car or 'bragging' about their children.

You are clearly an UNDERachiever who can't even measure up to the teens of the obviously accomplished adults on this board.

Try again with someone who doesn't know the mindset of accomplished people. They don't begrudge anyone their success or their right to mention it.

Anonymous wrote:DD got accepted to UVA and JMU, decided to go to UVA. No aid, which, even though is in-state for us, tuition will be a challenge as a public schools employee. But she earned acceptance, wants to go, and we'll make it work for her. No stickers on my car---not my thing for any reason--but don't begrudge those who do.

Anonymous wrote:Interesting I had never previously thought about the fact that you really don;t see these kinds of bragging stickers to the same extent in other parts of the country.

I'm pretty comfortable in my belief that you can be proud of your children without slapping a sticker on your car. I also think you can be "extremely accomplished" without bragging about it on anonymous discussion boards. Its how i was raised. Be proud but don't brag. And I'm always incredibly impressed when I meet people and then find out from others how "incredibly accomplished" they are because they wouldn't ever brag about it themselves.

Bragging about your kids seems even worse to me because in some ways its a burden to them, all this living out their parents' fantasies and being displayed for their bragging rights. I don't feel a need to do this -- my kids have their lives, the things they love to do and that they do well, and its their business. Their accomplishments are not for me to brag.

As I said, I was raised differently. My "extremely accomplished" parents were humble and kind.

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Anonymous wrote:NP whose children aren't old enough to be looking at colleges yet, but who nevertheless some questions:

Does it have to be "bragging" if I post on an internet board where my DC was accepted and is going? What if I post that my child has been accepted at 5 nondescript, unremarkable schools? Is that bragging or just stating a fact? Is it only "bragging" if the schools are perceived as "brag-worthy?"

Likewise, does it have to be bragging if I put a college sticker on my car? Is it only "bragging" if it is the college sticker of my child? What if it is *my* college sticker, does that make the brag (if it is a brag) okay? What if it's not a "brag-worthy" school, is the sticker okay then? Is this only relevant to college stickers, or is any bumper sticker effectively a brag of some kind?

Exactly! And I'd love to read the answers to those questions. Many people in the area are very competitive. They're only bothered when they can't compete and fall short. Everyone sees the posts as stated facts except those whose egos are bruised.

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You are like most parents in other areas. Travel in just about any direction from the DC region and you'll see the profusion of HS/college stickers start to decline radically. Not as many helicopter parents, and not as many people who view both themselves and other members of their family as walking resumes.

I have lived in Chicago, Portland, OR, the bay area, DC, and Austin. There are plenty of stickers in all of these places. Where you don't see a lot of stickers is working class neighborhoods in any area of the country. Go to any upper middle class neighborhood in any reasonably large city and it's college stickers galore.

Anonymous wrote:NP whose children aren't old enough to be looking at colleges yet, but who nevertheless some questions:

Does it have to be "bragging" if I post on an internet board where my DC was accepted and is going? What if I post that my child has been accepted at 5 nondescript, unremarkable schools? Is that bragging or just stating a fact? Is it only "bragging" if the schools are perceived as "brag-worthy?"

Likewise, does it have to be bragging if I put a college sticker on my car? Is it only "bragging" if it is the college sticker of my child? What if it is *my* college sticker, does that make the brag (if it is a brag) okay? What if it's not a "brag-worthy" school, is the sticker okay then? Is this only relevant to college stickers, or is any bumper sticker effectively a brag of some kind?

You are like most parents in other areas. Travel in just about any direction from the DC region and you'll see the profusion of HS/college stickers start to decline radically. Not as many helicopter parents, and not as many people who view both themselves and other members of their family as walking resumes.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting I had never previously thought about the fact that you really don;t see these kinds of bragging stickers to the same extent in other parts of the country.

I'm pretty comfortable in my belief that you can be proud of your children without slapping a sticker on your car. I also think you can be "extremely accomplished" without bragging about it on anonymous discussion boards. Its how i was raised. Be proud but don't brag. And I'm always incredibly impressed when I meet people and then find out from others how "incredibly accomplished" they are because they wouldn't ever brag about it themselves.

Bragging about your kids seems even worse to me because in some ways its a burden to them, all this living out their parents' fantasies and being displayed for their bragging rights. I don't feel a need to do this -- my kids have their lives, the things they love to do and that they do well, and its their business. Their accomplishments are not for me to brag.

As I said, I was raised differently. My "extremely accomplished" parents were humble and kind.

I always think it's hilarious when people post on this forum about how THEY view the world---as if anybody gives a flying one!

Stay mum on your children if that works for you. You're entitled to it.

And others are entitled to brag and slap stickers on their cars.

Your way of doing things don't bother me, so why would mine bother you????

Anonymous wrote:Interesting I had never previously thought about the fact that you really don;t see these kinds of bragging stickers to the same extent in other parts of the country.

I'm pretty comfortable in my belief that you can be proud of your children without slapping a sticker on your car. I also think you can be "extremely accomplished" without bragging about it on anonymous discussion boards. Its how i was raised. Be proud but don't brag. And I'm always incredibly impressed when I meet people and then find out from others how "incredibly accomplished" they are because they wouldn't ever brag about it themselves.

Bragging about your kids seems even worse to me because in some ways its a burden to them, all this living out their parents' fantasies and being displayed for their bragging rights. I don't feel a need to do this -- my kids have their lives, the things they love to do and that they do well, and its their business. Their accomplishments are not for me to brag.

As I said, I was raised differently. My "extremely accomplished" parents were humble and kind.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Duke!

Congratulations to your DC! That is AWESOME!

What made DC choose Duke?

Highly ranked academics

Lots of study abroad options, including some unique programs that a funded by the University

Warmer climate

A decent social life on campus; DC felt it offered more balance than some of the Ivies

An attractive financial aid package

Close to DC but not too close.

Forgot to add "thank you" for the congratulations. We are extremely happy for DC. To the other PP -- no we aren't living vicariously through our children. We don't run around bragging about this except to close family. This is an anonymous forum, so I feel safe indulging a little of my parental pride.

Anonymous wrote:Interesting I had never previously thought about the fact that you really don;t see these kinds of bragging stickers to the same extent in other parts of the country.

I'm pretty comfortable in my belief that you can be proud of your children without slapping a sticker on your car. I also think you can be "extremely accomplished" without bragging about it on anonymous discussion boards. Its how i was raised. Be proud but don't brag. And I'm always incredibly impressed when I meet people and then find out from others how "incredibly accomplished" they are because they wouldn't ever brag about it themselves.

Bragging about your kids seems even worse to me because in some ways its a burden to them, all this living out their parents' fantasies and being displayed for their bragging rights. I don't feel a need to do this -- my kids have their lives, the things they love to do and that they do well, and its their business. Their accomplishments are not for me to brag.

As I said, I was raised differently. My "extremely accomplished" parents were humble and kind.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Duke!

Congratulations to your DC! That is AWESOME!

What made DC choose Duke?

Highly ranked academics

Lots of study abroad options, including some unique programs that a funded by the University

Warmer climate

A decent social life on campus; DC felt it offered more balance than some of the Ivies

An attractive financial aid package

Close to DC but not too close.