Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think we all choose are vices. For some it is french fries. For some it is medication during birth. For some it is occasional wine. For some it is not exercising. For some it is coffee. For some it is lots of refined sugar. I think that in general pregnant women should try to eliminate the vices that they don't enjoy and minimize the amount the do the ones that add joy to their lives and make them feel more normal. No one is perfect.
I agree with this perspective. And at some point you do have to live your life. Which isn't to say that if your life involves daily drinking, you don't need to cut back during pregnancy; probably you do. But if your life involves a single drink once a month, I just don't see the big deal. And to be honest, I think I'd feel the same about a single cigarette or a single joint -- and I have never smoked either. But there's a difference between something like listeria which can be deadly to the fetus if contracted a single time, and something like alcohol or tobacco which requires repeated exposure. Honestly, I probably have done more harm by eating a piece of chocolate every day than by drinking a total of two glasses of wine during the entire pregnancy. I also probably have done some harm by not cutting back on stressful projects at work -- but I need to earn a living, it won't help the kid to have a mother who is unemployed. I would never intentionally do something that I thought would harm the baby, but it is still my life, and I can't lock myself in a hermetically sealed room for 9 months. I could do everything right and still wind up, G-d forbid, with a child with autism, severe allergies, other disabilities, or a horrible personality. I can't stress about that, and I am not going to stress about too much else, either. I do the best I can, as I am sure we all do. Some people's best is no doubt better than mine. That's just the way it is. It will be that way when the baby is born, too; I am not super-mom, just an ordinary mortal. I will be the best mom I can be, but I'm sure there will be many others who are better by some objective standard.
Anonymous wrote:Oh my god, people. Drinking alcohol during pregnancy is a completely different level of risk to a developing fetus than refined sugar, french fries or not exercising. Alcohol is a neurotoxin to a developing fetus. For those of you who think the data is somehow hysterically overprotective and produced by "biased" organizations, you might want to read the following from the National Institutes of Health.
http://www.niaaa.nih.gov/sites/default/files/ARNDConferenceConsensusStatementBooklet_Complete.pdf
I deal with a kid who suffers from the effects of prenatal alcohol exposure. It is heart-breaking. Why would you even consider creating this type of risk for your baby when it is completely 100% avoidable?
Anonymous wrote:Oh my god, people. Drinking alcohol during pregnancy is a completely different level of risk to a developing fetus than refined sugar, french fries or not exercising. Alcohol is a neurotoxin to a developing fetus. For those of you who think the data is somehow hysterically overprotective and produced by "biased" organizations, you might want to read the following from the National Institutes of Health.
http://www.niaaa.nih.gov/sites/default/files/ARNDConferenceConsensusStatementBooklet_Complete.pdf
I deal with a kid who suffers from the effects of prenatal alcohol exposure. It is heart-breaking. Why would you even consider creating this type of risk for your baby when it is completely 100% avoidable?
Anonymous wrote:I think we all choose are vices. For some it is french fries. For some it is medication during birth. For some it is occasional wine. For some it is not exercising. For some it is coffee. For some it is lots of refined sugar. I think that in general pregnant women should try to eliminate the vices that they don't enjoy and minimize the amount the do the ones that add joy to their lives and make them feel more normal. No one is perfect.
Anonymous wrote:It isn't just the "safety" factor. It's the "healthy" factor. I could likely smoke a joint and no harm would ever come to the baby, but I wouldn't do that because it isn't GOOD for the baby. I get that folks are better at being good when it comes to certain things. I think we all get that.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nope, that's not it, PP. It has more to do with what I hope is a small minority of women struggling to justify their drinking during pregnancy who then turn around and pontificate on the importance of breast feeding (ya know, since it's better for the baby), and intervention-free childbirth (ya know, since it's better for the baby). Or the organic vegan yoga mom who has a baby plan and a glass of wine each night. It's the irony that makes us wonder about these folks and their choices. That's all.
EXACTLY. My friend drank a good amount during her pregnancy and refuses to vaccinate her child. Can someone please explain this to me?
Anonymous wrote:I think we all choose are vices. For some it is french fries. For some it is medication during birth. For some it is occasional wine. For some it is not exercising. For some it is coffee. For some it is lots of refined sugar. I think that in general pregnant women should try to eliminate the vices that they don't enjoy and minimize the amount the do the ones that add joy to their lives and make them feel more normal. No one is perfect.
Anonymous wrote:Nope, that's not it, PP. It has more to do with what I hope is a small minority of women struggling to justify their drinking during pregnancy who then turn around and pontificate on the importance of breast feeding (ya know, since it's better for the baby), and intervention-free childbirth (ya know, since it's better for the baby). Or the organic vegan yoga mom who has a baby plan and a glass of wine each night. It's the irony that makes us wonder about these folks and their choices. That's all.
Anonymous wrote:Why do I get the feeling that those who are so adamant about other people abstaining 100% (why not just worry about yourself?) are in some way almost angry that the "bad" mothers who had occasional beer/wine ended up with healthy children? It really seems that way, like they feel that its not fair that they do the "right" thing and have healthy kids but also those who do the "wrong" thing have healthy kids..............it almost reads like they wish bad things would happen to babies just so they could be "right".
Which is disgusting.