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Anonymous wrote:I look great and I'm 33 with a toddler. I regularly get mistaken for mid twenties.

My friend who is 37 and childless actually looks amazing, like she is 30.

I think this is generally true. I feel like I'm an exception here but I definitely have stretch marks and loose skin on my tummy. My tits are still hot, even after 2 years of nursing.

And modest too!

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Anonymous wrote:Those single women in their 40's might look great, but MANY of them live with the daily agony of "what might have been".

I would take my pot belly and wrinkles over having never wed and bred any day!

I disagree. The women I know who are single for the most part seem pleased with their choices and happy. Most are highly successful in the careers and have an active social life. The only single friend I have who is really unhappy regrets not getting a graduate degree and being stuck in a low paying field.

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Anonymous wrote:That's not always the case, I'm 40 and got mistaken for 27 two nights ago, two kids.

Were they really mistaken or just trying to make a 40 year old feel good for a second.

I am 47 and was carded yesterday when I bought a bottle of wine. I had my 9 yo with me.

Sadly, I think she was just a rule follower! lol

I'm 43 and routinely get carded. Pretty positive they are just doing their job. I was always young looking fort age--but 22 years over the age requirement...I am fairly certain no matter how good I look there can be no confusion I'm over 21

I own a bar and our policy is to card literally everyone. The reason is that I don't want my bartenders and servers guessing peoples' ages (and God forbid, overestimating someone's age), but I also don't want people to be offended. I had a customer several years ago accuse us of racism because we carded her (she looked very young - like barely out of high school) and not her much older looking friends. Turns out the woman was in her 30s. But it was a reminder that selectively carding could be perceived as based on race or appearance. I don't want anyone to feel that way.

So whether the customer looks 20 or 60, we card all of our patrons before serving them alcohol.

Anonymous wrote:I have 2 kids under 2. One of my dear friends is 47 (I'm 35). I look at pictures of us from 3 years ago and damn, I was a hot piece. She looked good but I looked GREAT. Now, not so much and she looks EXACTLY the same. I look like I've been ridden hard and put away wet.

Anonymous wrote:Hmmmmm...I'm 47. Five kids. I am 5'5 and 117 pounds. I work out, take care of myself, and try really hard to look my best every day. I don't think I look old. People are normally really surprised when they find out I am well over 40. But my single friends without kids look pretty damn good too. And I'm positive they look better than I do naked!

I think it's all in how you take care of yourself. Having kids can make finding the time to work out, shop, do make-up and hair....a lot more challenging! But if it's truly important to you, you'll find a way to make it happen.

Anonymous wrote:I look great and I'm 33 with a toddler. I regularly get mistaken for mid twenties.

My friend who is 37 and childless actually looks amazing, like she is 30.

I think this is generally true. I feel like I'm an exception here but I definitely have stretch marks and loose skin on my tummy. My tits are still hot, even after 2 years of nursing.

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Anonymous wrote:Hmmmmm...I'm 47. Five kids. I am 5'5 and 117 pounds. I work out, take care of myself, and try really hard to look my best every day. I don't think I look old. People are normally really surprised when they find out I am well over 40. But my single friends without kids look pretty damn good too. And I'm positive they look better than I do naked!

I think it's all in how you take care of yourself. Having kids can make finding the time to work out, shop, do make-up and hair....a lot more challenging! But if it's truly important to you, you'll find a way to make it happen.

You also live in middle America or maybe Utah where it's not even close to being as stressful as living in a large city

Anonymous wrote: Look the youngest and most relaxed. Seriously, my friends. coworkers and even just people I knew who never married and didn't have or adopt kids look about 10 years younger than the rest of us who married and had kids. I noticed that with my parents' single friends back in the day. I have no regrets with my life choices, I just am always surprised by how striking the difference is. These are not people using botox or getting plastic surgery either.

Have you noticed this?

Anonymous wrote:Here is your typical single women in her 40s

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Anonymous wrote:Those bitches are getting older every day. I would not want to be single in my 50s. (Not even 40s)-- the men their age are looking at younger women.

A single friend of mine who is 45 has given up on trying to meet men her age because of this. She is now involved with a man who is 70.

Anonymous wrote:The two most important factors in affecting appearance as you age are genetics and lifestyle choices.

They inter-relate your entire life, but it starts to show more as you age.

Stress and responsbiity ages you on the inside, but how that affects the outside is probably more related to the above two than anything else.

For example, the woman with the killer workout regimen probably does not have time to drink heavily between the workouts and the hot husband sex, oh, and with feeling so great about how great she looks and being able to afford expensive face creams and flattering clothes (cringe) she probably just doesnt have a lot of negative thoughts, or possibly any thoughts of any depth whatsoever- but thats just conjecture.

Her mom probably aged well too.

At 46 with a very stressful life, a depressed husband and wonderful young child I get taken for about 10 years younger IF I have had enough rest and IF I am feeling like life is pretty ok despite the stress.

But if I am tired and everthing sucks, I swear I look awful. And I very well might. Or maybe its my negative thoughts...