Anonymous wrote:OP here.
The grooms brother got married in January. They didn't ask his fiancé, now wife to sign.
I don't know why. But this would REALLY REALLY cheese me off.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
The grooms brother got married in January. They didn't ask his fiancé, now wife to sign.
I don't know why. But this would REALLY REALLY cheese me off.

How much is your fiancé willing to sever ties with his family if this type of interference continues throughout the life of your marriage?

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
The grooms brother got married in January. They didn't ask his fiancé, now wife to sign.
I don't know why. But this would REALLY REALLY cheese me off.

Anonymous wrote:I would. I did not marry so I can be somehow into my husbands work life. Why would I care what happened at his work. I have a job and I support myself plus a few others.

His job is not my job. I could no imagine my H showing up at my work just because he is married to me.

Bizarre, what does the bride want to be CEO or vice president or something.

Doesn't she have a job already?

Anonymous wrote:Given the tensions that have already developed between bride to be and her future in-laws, I'd say the outlook for marital bliss is slim to none especially if her future husband is close to his family.

If the prenup - or rather the lack of one - is that important to her, I'd suggest that she move on. Otherwise, I have no doubt that she or someone on behalf will be posting on this forum about how her marriage has turned out to be a disaster and what should she do about it.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the family should have the husband sign a pre-nup with them. Maybe some sort of business agreement. Take it off the bride, put it on the husband.

Anonymous wrote:Here is the problem with the no prenup arguement.

There is a prenup, even if you don't create your own.

The prenup was created by the government. The government does not know your particular situation so it is wishy washy and basically lame.

Divorce laws are very lame.

All a prenup shows is that both parties are mature and that they do not leave it up to the government to decide how their assets will be divided in the off chance there is a divorce.

I also have a Power of Attorney (even though I most likely will be able to make all decisions before I die), I have a Power of Medical Attorney (even though I may never need anybody to make these decisions for me. I sure as hell don't want the government making these decisions) hence I have a Living Will (even though I may never be on life support). I also have named guardians for my kids because I don't want the government deciding that either.

Grow up and take the future in your own hands.

It is not "true love" to let the government laws determine your future.

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I dont think the bride really wants anything to do with working at the company.

I didn't think I did either, but my husband needed my help, and I wound up liking the work more than I thought I would. The point is, I would be reluctant to close myself out, since you don't know what is going to happen. Perhaps if there was a provision included that said something along the lines of "provided that she did not hold a position above the level of X for X number of years with the company."

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He could also take all their savings and buy his mistress an apartment. Um! Yes. They need a prenup so that all parties agree before marriage what is a fair way to deal with assets.

The prenup might actually protect her in the end.

I won't even get into she needs her own money and way to support herself.


My point, though, is that if there is so much distrust/concern, don't get married.

What makes you assume the bride cannot support herself?

Because she can't wait to get her greedy hands on somebody else's company that she did not build. It is not hers. Sign the prenup and worry about your own career.