Op, I hope you have a boy and his wife doesn't invite you to the shower for their first kid. How about that etiquette? Give birth to a clue.

If you want trouble for the rest of your married life, which will not be very long keep up with this "my family vs his family."

Am I the only one who considered the possibility that OPs mom already had the mil and sil addresses, hence not needing to ask OP for them? OP didn't say her mom didn't invite dhs fam, only thatshe hadn't asked for the addresses which could be because she already had them...perhaps leftover from wedding invites or maybe she emailed mil and got them that way. And for the record, while I do think it's poor firm not to invite them, I don't think they should be required to. the mil can throw her own shower if it's that important to he but ops family shouldn't be forced to invite people they don't want to invite. If not throw a shower before I did that.

she cant argue her point but refuses to agree with allthe posters, thats why she wont reply now
lost cause

Here's the thing to me. When you're a mom, you can't just "show up" and be in "your place." You have to count for something and stand for something. When your child is being picked on, when the pediatrician forgets to call you back, when your child has special needs...you will need to be his advocate. This may just be the very last time you have the luxury of saying "It's not my place to do something about this." Welcome to the world of motherhood, OP. I hope you grow up fast.

Someone should start a "pick the date" betting pool on when OP and her husband are going to get divorced. My mom was a hot mess and I'd have been through the ceiling if DH treated her this way.

I hope that I don't have this kind of relationship with my adult kids. It is very odd that a daughter can't speak to her own mother about a baby shower invite. Yikes!

Something fishy about the whole story. OP seems immature and stubborn.

OP - are you still around???

I hope OP's husband reads DCUM. If you are out there husband of the OP, call your MIL and ask her to invite your mom and sister.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Looks like OP has peaced out.

Hopefully she's working to make this right and getting invitations sent to her MIL and SIL....

Nah, she's probably annoyed that she got one of the rare unanimous responses on DCUM an it was Not in her favor. Her previous reply makes it clear that she has no intention to have her mom invite her MIL and SIL to the shower. So she won't. She just came here to try to justify her assholeness and saw nobody was on her side, so she jumped ship.

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Looks like OP has peaced out.

Hopefully she's working to make this right and getting invitations sent to her MIL and SIL....

Nah, she's probably annoyed that she got one of the rare unanimous responses on DCUM an it was Not in her favor. Her previous reply makes it clear that she has no intention to have her mom invite her MIL and SIL to the shower. So she won't. She just came here to try to justify her assholeness and saw nobody was on her side, so she jumped ship.

Anonymous wrote:Looks like OP has peaced out.

Hopefully she's working to make this right and getting invitations sent to her MIL and SIL....

Looks like OP has peaced out.

Anonymous wrote:Why would you not invite your MIL and SIL? If I were your husband, I'd be pretty annoyed.

I agree.

First of all, it's tacky for your family to have a shower for you - it's self serving.

Getting past that, then your in-laws should definitely be invited. What is your family thinking?