Anonymous
Post 08/07/2012 15:47     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
I'm one of these women. We are very traditional so it works for us and we do plan to have kids.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2012 15:43     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
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Anonymous wrote:Indentured servitude. Hope he doesn't die or leave you. What kills me is that stay-at-homers with grad degrees their parents paid for. Good use of money!


I know one of these. First in her law class at Harvard - spends her time playing tennis and doing crafts at church. What a waste of $$.


It's not a waste of money. I think of my brain as a place I have to be all the time. I want it to be an interesting place. So I like to learn things. Otherwise, when I'm waiting for a friend who's running late, I'd just zone out. Instead, I can think up a new business and then, thanks to my education, mentally write the business plan for it. Much more fun.


This is such a ridiculous response I don't even know where to begin.


You are the ridiculous one. Are you also saying that women who have college degrees and choose to eventually stay at home have wasted money? I, for one, don't think education is ever a waste. My DH went to a top law school and paid a pretty penny. Afterwards he realized law school wasn't for him. He now makes more money than he ever would have in law, and, most importantly, loves what he does.


I said graduate degrees. Shockingly, you misunderstood/misread it.


Also, your argument makes absolutely no sense. This thread is about people who never worked, so your "eventually" comment holds no water. As mentioned above, I said graduate degrees. And your comment about your DH makes no sense either! Was LAW not for him? Or law SCHOOL? And what does that have to do with him eventually making more money? Oh my lord, you are dense. Good thing you're not in the workforce.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2012 15:40     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Indentured servitude. Hope he doesn't die or leave you. What kills me is that stay-at-homers with grad degrees their parents paid for. Good use of money!


I know one of these. First in her law class at Harvard - spends her time playing tennis and doing crafts at church. What a waste of $$.


It's not a waste of money. I think of my brain as a place I have to be all the time. I want it to be an interesting place. So I like to learn things. Otherwise, when I'm waiting for a friend who's running late, I'd just zone out. Instead, I can think up a new business and then, thanks to my education, mentally write the business plan for it. Much more fun.


This is such a ridiculous response I don't even know where to begin.


You are the ridiculous one. Are you also saying that women who have college degrees and choose to eventually stay at home have wasted money? I, for one, don't think education is ever a waste. My DH went to a top law school and paid a pretty penny. Afterwards he realized law school wasn't for him. He now makes more money than he ever would have in law, and, most importantly, loves what he does.


I said graduate degrees. Shockingly, you misunderstood/misread it.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2012 15:40     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:I recently met a young woman (a neighbor) who quit her job once she was married. No children and it seems none forthcoming. I was taken aback - i have 3 kids and work full time - but then i said - good for you that you can make it work. She said her marriage was the most important thing and she didn't think she would be a good wife if she worked. Kind of cute but then i wondered if this is the trend.


Might be religious. Heard this from several young born-agains.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2012 15:21     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Indentured servitude. Hope he doesn't die or leave you. What kills me is that stay-at-homers with grad degrees their parents paid for. Good use of money!


I know one of these. First in her law class at Harvard - spends her time playing tennis and doing crafts at church. What a waste of $$.


It's not a waste of money. I think of my brain as a place I have to be all the time. I want it to be an interesting place. So I like to learn things. Otherwise, when I'm waiting for a friend who's running late, I'd just zone out. Instead, I can think up a new business and then, thanks to my education, mentally write the business plan for it. Much more fun.


This is such a ridiculous response I don't even know where to begin.


You are the ridiculous one. Are you also saying that women who have college degrees and choose to eventually stay at home have wasted money? I, for one, don't think education is ever a waste. My DH went to a top law school and paid a pretty penny. Afterwards he realized law school wasn't for him. He now makes more money than he ever would have in law, and, most importantly, loves what he does.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2012 15:15     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Indentured servitude. Hope he doesn't die or leave you. What kills me is that stay-at-homers with grad degrees their parents paid for. Good use of money!


I know one of these. First in her law class at Harvard - spends her time playing tennis and doing crafts at church. What a waste of $$.


So she graduated first in her class at Harvard Law then got married and just plays tennis and does crafts? Never worked or had kids? Something doesn't add up here.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2012 15:06     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Indentured servitude. Hope he doesn't die or leave you. What kills me is that stay-at-homers with grad degrees their parents paid for. Good use of money!


I know one of these. First in her law class at Harvard - spends her time playing tennis and doing crafts at church. What a waste of $$.


It's not a waste of money. I think of my brain as a place I have to be all the time. I want it to be an interesting place. So I like to learn things. Otherwise, when I'm waiting for a friend who's running late, I'd just zone out. Instead, I can think up a new business and then, thanks to my education, mentally write the business plan for it. Much more fun.


This is such a ridiculous response I don't even know where to begin.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2012 15:00     Subject: Re:women who don't work or raise kids
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Anonymous wrote:I know someone who quit her job when she got married. Her DH became a big law partner and she shopped all day, everyday. She finally popped out two kids but has a housekeeper and nanny. I'm not jealous. They are in couples counseling. Actually, she's pretty nice but I don't think very highly of her. If you are not working and don't have kids you do not need a housekeeper. They didn't live in a big house. She was just lazy and a gold digger. Her husband got the trophy wife he always wanted (and her eating disorder too).


I think you are jealous. Why else would you say such catty things about a woman who is pretty nice to you and "popped out" two children?


I guess I hit a little too close to home for you, PP. She is a child who took no responsibility before her husband gave her an ultimatum. She can't hold a job because she lacks basic coping skills among other things. She did nothing all day but shop, before she had children. She was given a choice to have children or go back to work. She begrudgingly had children to save her marriage which is on the rocks anyway. The DH is just as much to blame IMO. Trust me, I'm not jealous. What she doesn't realize is that everyone can see through her pretend world. I wanted my children, am competent enough to work and have a wonderful relationship with my DH. She is all filler with no substance, just a full closet that still can't fill her inner emptiness. What angers me is that she is screwing up her kids now
too.


No, you missed me by a mile. Your original description of her gave very few details to justify your animus towards her.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2012 14:56     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
I recently met a young woman (a neighbor) who quit her job once she was married. No children and it seems none forthcoming. I was taken aback - i have 3 kids and work full time - but then i said - good for you that you can make it work. She said her marriage was the most important thing and she didn't think she would be a good wife if she worked. Kind of cute but then i wondered if this is the trend.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2012 14:54     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Indentured servitude. Hope he doesn't die or leave you. What kills me is that stay-at-homers with grad degrees their parents paid for. Good use of money!


I know one of these. First in her law class at Harvard - spends her time playing tennis and doing crafts at church. What a waste of $$.


It's not a waste of money. I think of my brain as a place I have to be all the time. I want it to be an interesting place. So I like to learn things. Otherwise, when I'm waiting for a friend who's running late, I'd just zone out. Instead, I can think up a new business and then, thanks to my education, mentally write the business plan for it. Much more fun.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2012 14:48     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked that there are women who actually enjoy the stress and headache of working 40+ THEN doing all the SAHM stuff.

What time are you working Moms getting home? It it after 5PM?



Can we stop using the term SAHM??? If you could read and looked at the title of the thread you would see that we are NOT talking about SAHMs. We are talking about women who do not have children yet stay at home and do not work. Big difference. I'm sure that many of us working moms have a ton of respect and appreciation for women that choose to be SAHMs. We are questioning those that are SAH Wives.

There are many women that would choose to stay home with their children if money were no issue. THAT is not what this thread is about people. READ.


First off, calm the hell down. This thread has discussed both...perhaps you should learn to read past the thread title.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2012 14:46     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked that there are women who actually enjoy the stress and headache of working 40+ THEN doing all the SAHM stuff.

What time are you working Moms getting home? It it after 5PM?



Can we stop using the term SAHM??? If you could read and looked at the title of the thread you would see that we are NOT talking about SAHMs. We are talking about women who do not have children yet stay at home and do not work. Big difference. I'm sure that many of us working moms have a ton of respect and appreciation for women that choose to be SAHMs. We are questioning those that are SAH Wives.

There are many women that would choose to stay home with their children if money were no issue. THAT is not what this thread is about people. READ.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2012 14:20     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
I'm shocked that there are women who actually enjoy the stress and headache of working 40+ THEN doing all the SAHM stuff.

What time are you working Moms getting home? It it after 5PM?
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2012 14:18     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
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Anonymous wrote:I never really thought about it - my mother was a housewife and quit her job as soon as she got married, and so that's the expectation I had for myself when I got married too. Working isn't all that great. I have a much better time waking up when I want, not having to rush through workouts and errands and meals and phone calls, can wear whatever I'm in the mood to wear.

There's plenty to do to fill up the day. I like not working.


How ambitious of you! Honestly, its 2012, not 1950.


Right, which means women can CHOOSE if they want to work or not. This poster obviously has CHOSEN what she wants, and has found a way to lead her life in a way that makes her happy.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2012 14:17     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:Indentured servitude. Hope he doesn't die or leave you. What kills me is that stay-at-homers with grad degrees their parents paid for. Good use of money!


I know one of these. First in her law class at Harvard - spends her time playing tennis and doing crafts at church. What a waste of $$.