Anonymous wrote:My son would do the same thing.

We couldn't ferberize and he still doesn't STTN at 2.5. It is what it is. 10 months was the hardest for us, so it gets better. Hang in there.

This except mine is 5. She sleeps through the night of course, but we still have to lay with her. She often visits us in the middle of the night and just asked to share a room with her baby brother because she doesn't ever want to sleep alone!

Imagine that, me, the cosleeping pp and the CIO pp above seem to be in pretty good agreement. Because we actually went through it! Totally true pp that this is a hypothetical exercise for so many and it's pretty easy to have real strong opinions from the sidelines!

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Anonymous wrote:And for babies that are this ^^ bad, there are two pretty commonly accepted solutions: CIO or co-sleep. Sometimes parents have preferences, sometimes the kid has preferences. It's actually pretty easy to understand.

And so whose preferences shouldnprevail?

Have you ever cried so hard you vomited? I can't even begin to imagine how scary and awful that might be.

Hey (I'm the quoted pp) and I chose cosleeping which works well for my now 2 year old but is taking a toll on my marriage (just being honest here folks). It's a tradeoff and I didn't mean to imply it was easy to choose but rather that there really aren't that many options when your kid is literally not sleeping. Not to mention that if cosleeping hadn't provide us all with adequate sleep (which it did) I don't think I would have had a choice but to let her cry.

I'm the PP the arrows pointed to. I couldn't co-sleep with my DC. I'm a very active sleeper and have smacked people across the face in my sleep; I roll, I kick, I flail. Before we went to a modified (shorter check intervals and more intensive comforting at the checks) Ferber we tried the gentler sleep training options. But I am very, very tired of people who have newborns or whose kids nurse twice a night telling me I'm evil because my baby learned to sleep on her own via Ferber. Walk a mile in my shoes, then go all sanctimommy on me.