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Anonymous wrote:What makes my marriage miserable is a wife who takes everything for granted. I bring home the occassional rose, surprise her with a gift, and take an interest and support her hobbies. But what I need is the closeness and connection that come with sex when you have it with someone you truly love. I want to take a long shower with her, towel her off, and spend an entire evening in bed. I want to drive her wild and then wrap her in my arms. It kills me that these times do not happen anymore. Personally, I am tired of reading these "what do women want" articles that talk about making her feel desired, sex, appreciated. I am tired of feeling rejected.

Maybe she is too tired taking care of the kids? Maybe some help with them instead of a rose?

Anonymous wrote:What makes my marriage miserable is a wife who takes everything for granted. I bring home the occassional rose, surprise her with a gift, and take an interest and support her hobbies. But what I need is the closeness and connection that come with sex when you have it with someone you truly love. I want to take a long shower with her, towel her off, and spend an entire evening in bed. I want to drive her wild and then wrap her in my arms. It kills me that these times do not happen anymore. Personally, I am tired of reading these "what do women want" articles that talk about making her feel desired, sex, appreciated. I am tired of feeling rejected.

Anonymous wrote:What makes my marriage miserable is a wife who takes everything for granted. I bring home the occassional rose, surprise her with a gift, and take an interest and support her hobbies. But what I need is the closeness and connection that come with sex when you have it with someone you truly love. I want to take a long shower with her, towel her off, and spend an entire evening in bed. I want to drive her wild and then wrap her in my arms. It kills me that these times do not happen anymore. Personally, I am tired of reading these "what do women want" articles that talk about making her feel desired, sex, appreciated. I am tired of feeling rejected.

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Anonymous wrote:What does 'know your place' mean?

It means that everyone has a role to play in life, and people would be much happier if they "played their role" instead of trying to force themselves into a role that doesn't fit.
A wife's role is not to compete with her husband, boss him around, complain about everything, run over him, etc. Instead she should learn the art of femininity. It's not a bad thing to be supportive, encouraging, and kind. In fact, you'll get more of what you want if you learn how to properly treat your husband. (Aside from the exceptions I mentioned before). Life will be easier for you if you learn where your power lies and how to use it...or you can keep doing what you are doing and you will be forever complaining about your husband.

Men too, have a place or a role to play. It's not to ignore their wives, belittle them, sit on the couch and play games all day, etc. Instead they need to learn how to love their wives, truly love them and make it known. She should feel like a Queen. She should feel safe with you, confident that you can make the right choices, loved, and protected.

Anonymous wrote:What makes my marriage miserable is a wife who takes everything for granted. I bring home the occassional rose, surprise her with a gift, and take an interest and support her hobbies. But what I need is the closeness and connection that come with sex when you have it with someone you truly love. I want to take a long shower with her, towel her off, and spend an entire evening in bed. I want to drive her wild and then wrap her in my arms. It kills me that these times do not happen anymore. Personally, I am tired of reading these "what do women want" articles that talk about making her feel desired, sex, appreciated. I am tired of feeling rejected.

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Anonymous wrote:Intrusive, negative MIL: My DH is her only child, she was a single parent her whole life, they are very close. She makes drama out of every little thing and if we do things our way, she panics, criticizes, manipulates until DH follows her views. She can make my husband extremely anxious in a matter of a couple of conversations and then he takes his anxiety on me. E.g., she saw the dress I was going to wear to a formal event and did not like it, could not make me change my opinion, made my husband freak out, he then refused to go if I wear the dress (the dress was fine, really). This kind of control on her part is allowed by DH and goes on in pretty every part of our life, cause "mom wishes us well". Often, I want to run far far away from the two of them.

Your DH is an enabler. He could stop this crap if he wanted to be chooses not to.

Anonymous wrote:Intrusive, negative MIL: My DH is her only child, she was a single parent her whole life, they are very close. She makes drama out of every little thing and if we do things our way, she panics, criticizes, manipulates until DH follows her views. She can make my husband extremely anxious in a matter of a couple of conversations and then he takes his anxiety on me. E.g., she saw the dress I was going to wear to a formal event and did not like it, could not make me change my opinion, made my husband freak out, he then refused to go if I wear the dress (the dress was fine, really). This kind of control on her part is allowed by DH and goes on in pretty every part of our life, cause "mom wishes us well". Often, I want to run far far away from the two of them.

Anonymous wrote:I posted earlier. If that makes any of you, wives of sleepy husbands, feel better, mine sleeps until 1 pm on weekends...this just creeps me out! He is not on any medication and sleeps from around 1 am till 9 am during the week.