Anonymous wrote:Called me an Aryan. DH and his family are Jewish.

Anonymous wrote:My MIL gives our son wrapped framed pictures of herself as gifts. Just of her. No one else in the pictures.

Awful. Ok, I laughed at this, but only because I'm guessing you have a very young DC? I am imagining the framed photos, too - huge, mall-created glamor shots of grandma at her most glamorous, to include holding a rose in her mouth. Ugh. Stuff of nightmares. What do you do with these pictures? Tell me that your dc doesn't have to sleep in a room filled with framed grandma photo collages like a portrait gallery?

My MIL gives our son wrapped framed pictures of herself as gifts. Just of her. No one else in the pictures.

Let herself into my house uninvited (we were out) and start cleaning. I was terrified when I got home and heard someone.

Snarky/ bullying comments about my parents being poor (they are wealthy), me being physically dirty (not true), c-sections, daycare, my ds being fat (he was 6 months and ebf), etc

We are in a much better place these days and she can also be wonderful!

A close friend of mine lost her young child suddenly two years ago. My MIL had met this friend of mine (and her child) at family functions and holiday celebrations many times over the years.

My MIL has never, ever asked me about how my friend is doing in the aftermath or expressed any concern. It's as if my friend died, too.

MIL gives me things for the kitchen expecting them to be here for her to use when she visits ~ like 7 spatulas. I don't need 7 different size spatulas.

Overall, she's a good gal

Anonymous wrote:Told my relative at my wedding that she hopes this marriage lasts.

What a monster.

My MIL told me repeatedly that when she retired she would "raise her grandchildren." At the time, I was a fairly new SAHM of her only two grandchildren and had been "raising them" with DH without any pleas for assistance from MIL or anyone else. Weird.

At least these comments made me wake up and realize that I HAD to establish boundaries and set limits with MIL.

Anonymous wrote:Scheduled father in laws funeral 3 years ago on my birthday. She knew it was my birthday and had other dates to choose from.

How rude of him to die right before ur birthday.

My MIL is all about appearances. The once or twice a year we see her (she lives nearby), it is so she can have bragging rights. She is completely not involved with her small grandchildren, and has the oddest oddball personality I have ever seen. If she weren't so cold, there might be some hope of her wanting a relationship with her small grandchildren.

Anyway, I know certain kinds of MIL's like to try to blame the DIL, somehow, so I try not to expect much. She is bitter and depressed; I swear she has wanted to be dead for the past 20+ years. So bizarre.

Not to preach, but if your MIL is warm and engaged (with boundaries, I suppose), be grateful.

Told my relative at my wedding that she hopes this marriage lasts.

Asked whether my pregnancy was planned.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Scheduled father in laws funeral 3 years ago on my birthday. She knew it was my birthday and had other dates to choose from.

Are you serious???? Grow up.

+1

This is really petty. The world does not stop for your birthday, especially as an adult. You sound very entitled and immature.

It could be the times she's worked on trying to fix her son up with other women. Never mind about me and our kids, or what's right. I don't fit her plans and vision, so I'm just a pawn to be knocked off her chessboard.

It could be when she announced that she was moving in with us and ordered us to give her and some other relatives keys so they could all get moved right in. We live in a very small place.

It could be the times she made comments on how I was unattractive, how I wasn't from the right race, and made threats about how all men of her culture always cheat, and how I can be thrown out at any time.

It could be the many times she pointedly refused to speak to me, because I wouldn't cave in to any of the above nonsense.

She's totally fake about it to others, and if there's someone there to watch, she calls me her sweet, wonderful daughter-in-law. She will have nothing to do with her grandkids, either, when it comes down to it. People don't realize and think she's a saint.

Anonymous wrote:We went to dinner at my now MIL's house the Christmas after my DH and I got engaged. When I arrived she handed me this lovely wrapped gift and said Merry Christmas. When I attempted to put it aside she insisted that I open. I agreed and opened the box and out came a tiny black negligee complete with G string. I looked at her in horror and she smiled and said "guess you two better get going on those grandkids".

BTW, her house was packed with other members of DH's extended family. The woman knows no boundaries.

This is hilarious!!