Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 13:24     Subject: Is the obsession with private schools justified?

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Anonymous wrote:People send their kids to private for all sorts of reasons. In my opinion, college admissions should be the smallest factor. If that’s your reason, it will likely not be worth it for you.


My main objective is getting high quality education. My only point is that college placement, something that is emphasized by schools as an indicator of quality of education, is extremely misleading by athletes and legacy admissions. In any case, I am not even thinking about what is going to happen 8 years down the road. I am concerned that my DC is not even learning the basics today.


Why can't your kid learn the basics? Do you spend any time working with DC?


Yes, it is supplemented outside school. They do not learn the basics at the 50k private school.


Sounds like your kid is unfocused and screwing around.


Not really. He scores perfectly in math, outside school. The thing is that math level at school is so low, it’s unbelievable. I would have preferred having good math education at the school.


So you have failed in your main objective of getting high quality education.

Why stay?


I would frame it differently. The school has failed in providing high quality education.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 13:23     Subject: Is the obsession with private schools justified?

Anonymous wrote:All your examples are about preparing students for admissions to the next school, as opposed to the experience there/actually learning something. If that's your definition of "best school," you're going to be disappointed everywhere.


Send your kid to a local public for a few years and report back. You are paying for small classes, classmates with no behavioral issues, and to avoid the dumbing down of curriculum for "equity" purposes.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 13:23     Subject: Is the obsession with private schools justified?

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Anonymous wrote:People send their kids to private for all sorts of reasons. In my opinion, college admissions should be the smallest factor. If that’s your reason, it will likely not be worth it for you.


My main objective is getting high quality education. My only point is that college placement, something that is emphasized by schools as an indicator of quality of education, is extremely misleading by athletes and legacy admissions. In any case, I am not even thinking about what is going to happen 8 years down the road. I am concerned that my DC is not even learning the basics today.


Why can't your kid learn the basics? Do you spend any time working with DC?


Yes, it is supplemented outside school. They do not learn the basics at the 50k private school.


Sounds like your kid is unfocused and screwing around.


Not really. He scores perfectly in math, outside school. The thing is that math level at school is so low, it’s unbelievable. I would have preferred having good math education at the school.


So you have failed in your main objective of getting high quality education.

Why stay?


I am leaving. Precisely because of that.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 13:22     Subject: Is the obsession with private schools justified?

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Anonymous wrote:I observed there are some students who can go to schools with sufficient quality education rather than the highest quality education.


A bright motivated kid will do well anywhere.


+1. I wonder why the richest people in the US are typically from public schools. Think about Bill Gates.


You could not pick a worse example.


Most of the Epstein file dudes are from private schools.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 13:19     Subject: Is the obsession with private schools justified?

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Anonymous wrote:What I don’t get for people who aren’t worth 9 figures, is why nobody seems to stop and think what the $1M you spend on your kid’s education from 3-18 could actually do for them if you used it in a better way. What if you invested it, enabling them to start a business? What if you traveled the world? What if you hired a really talented tutor to teach your child everything about their specific interests? Or if you took that money and did something amazing for your immediate community, showing them how you can actually make a difference? I think those may be the kind of things that would help your child become a better person.


I stop and think about this every damn day, in fact I probably obsess over it, which is probably why I’m on DCUM so much 😅

same . . .
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 11:39     Subject: Is the obsession with private schools justified?

Anonymous wrote:What I don’t get for people who aren’t worth 9 figures, is why nobody seems to stop and think what the $1M you spend on your kid’s education from 3-18 could actually do for them if you used it in a better way. What if you invested it, enabling them to start a business? What if you traveled the world? What if you hired a really talented tutor to teach your child everything about their specific interests? Or if you took that money and did something amazing for your immediate community, showing them how you can actually make a difference? I think those may be the kind of things that would help your child become a better person.


I stop and think about this every damn day, in fact I probably obsess over it, which is probably why I’m on DCUM so much 😅
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 11:28     Subject: Is the obsession with private schools justified?

Who is obsessed? It's actually a tiny fraction of people.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 11:09     Subject: Is the obsession with private schools justified?

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Anonymous wrote:I observed there are some students who can go to schools with sufficient quality education rather than the highest quality education.


A bright motivated kid will do well anywhere.


+1. I wonder why the richest people in the US are typically from public schools. Think about Bill Gates.


You could not pick a worse example.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 11:07     Subject: Is the obsession with private schools justified?

Anonymous wrote:What I don’t get for people who aren’t worth 9 figures, is why nobody seems to stop and think what the $1M you spend on your kid’s education from 3-18 could actually do for them if you used it in a better way. What if you invested it, enabling them to start a business? What if you traveled the world? What if you hired a really talented tutor to teach your child everything about their specific interests? Or if you took that money and did something amazing for your immediate community, showing them how you can actually make a difference? I think those may be the kind of things that would help your child become a better person.


Do you really think nobody has considered the tradeoffs and alternatives, and decided private school was their preferred option?
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 11:04     Subject: Is the obsession with private schools justified?

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Anonymous wrote:People send their kids to private for all sorts of reasons. In my opinion, college admissions should be the smallest factor. If that’s your reason, it will likely not be worth it for you.


My main objective is getting high quality education. My only point is that college placement, something that is emphasized by schools as an indicator of quality of education, is extremely misleading by athletes and legacy admissions. In any case, I am not even thinking about what is going to happen 8 years down the road. I am concerned that my DC is not even learning the basics today.


Why can't your kid learn the basics? Do you spend any time working with DC?


Yes, it is supplemented outside school. They do not learn the basics at the 50k private school.


Sounds like your kid is unfocused and screwing around.


Not really. He scores perfectly in math, outside school. The thing is that math level at school is so low, it’s unbelievable. I would have preferred having good math education at the school.


So you have failed in your main objective of getting high quality education.

Why stay?
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 10:59     Subject: Is the obsession with private schools justified?

What I don’t get for people who aren’t worth 9 figures, is why nobody seems to stop and think what the $1M you spend on your kid’s education from 3-18 could actually do for them if you used it in a better way. What if you invested it, enabling them to start a business? What if you traveled the world? What if you hired a really talented tutor to teach your child everything about their specific interests? Or if you took that money and did something amazing for your immediate community, showing them how you can actually make a difference? I think those may be the kind of things that would help your child become a better person.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 10:49     Subject: Is the obsession with private schools justified?

Anonymous wrote:OP, NCRC used to be more of a pipeline to some of the highly desired schools. Times are changing, some K-12 schools want more of a variety.


Impressive that charges 40k. I think it’s borderline corrupt. To charge that amount of money in exchange for ann easy admission process.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 10:48     Subject: Is the obsession with private schools justified?

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Anonymous wrote:People send their kids to private for all sorts of reasons. In my opinion, college admissions should be the smallest factor. If that’s your reason, it will likely not be worth it for you.


My main objective is getting high quality education. My only point is that college placement, something that is emphasized by schools as an indicator of quality of education, is extremely misleading by athletes and legacy admissions. In any case, I am not even thinking about what is going to happen 8 years down the road. I am concerned that my DC is not even learning the basics today.


Why can't your kid learn the basics? Do you spend any time working with DC?


Yes, it is supplemented outside school. They do not learn the basics at the 50k private school.


Sounds like your kid is unfocused and screwing around.


Not really. He scores perfectly in math, outside school. The thing is that math level at school is so low, it’s unbelievable. I would have preferred having good math education at the school.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 10:46     Subject: Is the obsession with private schools justified?

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Anonymous wrote:I observed there are some students who can go to schools with sufficient quality education rather than the highest quality education.


A bright motivated kid will do well anywhere.


+1. I wonder why the richest people in the US are typically from public schools. Think about Bill Gates.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2026 10:17     Subject: Is the obsession with private schools justified?

Anonymous wrote:I observed there are some students who can go to schools with sufficient quality education rather than the highest quality education.


A bright motivated kid will do well anywhere.