Anonymous wrote:My ex (37) and I were together on and off for 2.5 years (we started off casual, why the off). He had been divorced almost 3 years by the time we started seeing each other. He told me he didn’t really want to get remarried again, unless she was pregnant (his ex wife decided after they were married she didn’t want kids - why they broke up). 2 years into our relationship I got pregnant. I told him and he didn’t immediately jump for joy, or say anything really except for “okay”, so I reacted very quickly and told him I wasn’t going to keep it. To which he said, “I’ll support whatever you decide”. So, I got an abortion. Our relationship took a nose dive after this. We had been fighting before this, but after this, it got a lot worse. We had a blow up and he told me he couldn’t do it anymore in mid-July 2024.

I find out that October he was in a relationship with someone else and they started seeing each other in late August. They announced their engagement in February this year, and then announced the pregnancy a week ago. She looks so pretty far along, like 8/9 months far along. This means she’s been pregnant since last year, which also means she got pregnant within a year of them being together. Today I find out that they’re officially married? Apparently this is someone he met/has known since college.…

Honestly, I’m crushed. How could he move on so quickly and in such a major way? It hasn’t even been a full two years since we broke up. I got pregnant first but she gets the family and the marriage? My head is spinning a bit.

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry. Bad guy to encourage an abortion. You truly dodged a bullet. It may take 2 or 5 or 10 years, but the chickens always come home to roost and one day you'll be with a great guy and be thankful you didn't get stuck with this one.

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry. Bad guy to encourage an abortion. You truly dodged a bullet. It may take 2 or 5 or 10 years, but the chickens always come home to roost and one day you'll be with a great guy and be thankful you didn't get stuck with this one.

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Anonymous wrote:In no way, shape or form do I think either situation sounds like a good idea. This guy sounds like bad news.

How is he bad news? He was upfront and honest with her about what he did or didn’t want. She decided she was okay with what was presented to her. They didn’t get along so he eventually broke up with her. He moved on to someone he truly wanted, and is married with a family now. I don’t think he did anything wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A. You're a troll doing an anti-abortion thing.

B. You're stupid. He told you he divorced over his wife's decision not to have kids. You took his lukewarm reaction as a signal he didn't want kids. He moved on to someone who actually really did want kids. And now you're left all by yourself with no kids. Congrats.

Pick A or B.

Either way, you're completely ridiculous and should be ashamed of yourself.

I didn’t add this part but before I got pregnant, months prior, I mentioned us moving into together and he didn’t want to. I got spooked by his reaction even more so because I thought, if he didn’t want to live together and he didn’t automatically jump for joy, I thought he didn’t want the baby?

It’s the worst kind of Troll, the dreaded Trickle Troll. Don’t you have cats to feed?

Anonymous wrote:In no way, shape or form do I think either situation sounds like a good idea. This guy sounds like bad news.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A. You're a troll doing an anti-abortion thing.

B. You're stupid. He told you he divorced over his wife's decision not to have kids. You took his lukewarm reaction as a signal he didn't want kids. He moved on to someone who actually really did want kids. And now you're left all by yourself with no kids. Congrats.

Pick A or B.

Either way, you're completely ridiculous and should be ashamed of yourself.

I didn’t add this part but before I got pregnant, months prior, I mentioned us moving into together and he didn’t want to. I got spooked by his reaction even more so because I thought, if he didn’t want to live together and he didn’t automatically jump for joy, I thought he didn’t want the baby?

Anonymous wrote:You made the choice. He didn't.

Anonymous wrote:My ex (37) and I were together on and off for 2.5 years (we started off casual, why the off). He had been divorced almost 3 years by the time we started seeing each other. He told me he didn’t really want to get remarried again, unless she was pregnant (his ex wife decided after they were married she didn’t want kids - why they broke up). 2 years into our relationship I got pregnant. I told him and he didn’t immediately jump for joy, or say anything really except for “okay”, so I reacted very quickly and told him I wasn’t going to keep it. To which he said, “I’ll support whatever you decide”. So, I got an abortion. Our relationship took a nose dive after this. We had been fighting before this, but after this, it got a lot worse. We had a blow up and he told me he couldn’t do it anymore in mid-July 2024.

I find out that October he was in a relationship with someone else and they started seeing each other in late August. They announced their engagement in February this year, and then announced the pregnancy a week ago. She looks so pretty far along, like 8/9 months far along. This means she’s been pregnant since last year, which also means she got pregnant within a year of them being together. Today I find out that they’re officially married? Apparently this is someone he met/has known since college.…

Honestly, I’m crushed. How could he move on so quickly and in such a major way? It hasn’t even been a full two years since we broke up. I got pregnant first but she gets the family and the marriage? My head is spinning a bit.

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry. Bad guy to encourage an abortion. You truly dodged a bullet. It may take 2 or 5 or 10 years, but the chickens always come home to roost and one day you'll be with a great guy and be thankful you didn't get stuck with this one.