Anonymous wrote:Stand up to her now, because you will not see your grandkids otherwise. The woman sounds like a B***h

We really need some more facts. What does the ops custody agreement with his ex wife provide? Is OP required to take his daughter in for the entire summer? She's going to be 18 but I'd going to college. So we don't know if the custodial agreement. covers the upcoming summer. But it might.

It kind of sounds like the original plan was for his daughter to either live with the custodial ex wife until college starts not with the OP. Why does the daughter need to spend the entire summer with OP?

If ex wife has custody for the summer per the custody agreement, did she agree to provide any money to OP For the summer to cover their daughters expenses?

Springing this on Ops new wife as an unexpected surprise is not fair to the new wife.

And why not a compromise Op? Do you have to house your daughter for the entire summer? Who says so?

But let's start with what your custody agreement says about where your daughter is supposed to be living this summer.

What dies it say if anything about that? Easiest thing to do is to just stick with what the custody agreement says

Right?

Stand up to her now, because you will not see your grandkids otherwise. The woman sounds like a B***h

hy does your daughter want to stay with you?

Does your daughter behave correctly in your home, ie, is reasonably polite to everyone living in the house, does a few chores, cleans up her mess and avoid perturbing other people's life, like not coming home at midnight and making a racket?


Um, she is a teenager wanting to spend time with her father before she leaves for college, not a house Guest. She gets to come home at midnight, sometimes make a mess and have a bad. day. That is normal life for somebody living in their home, which her father's house should be. She should not have to be on best guest behavior 24/7!

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Anonymous wrote:This is so sad. They happened to my son. He wanted to stay with his dad for the summer, but the new wife said no - she said “it’s either him or me”. Mind you, he was a good kid. Just wanted more time with dad - he has me and his sisters at home.
Dad chose new wife. Son hasn’t spoken to his dad for 6 years since then.

There is clearly more to the story. How did you and your son treat her? Was it her house and she paid for it? How often did he visit or have contact prior! Was she going to be the primary caretaker and not asked?

Yup. A lot more to that PPs story. Such as she is criticizing her ex his new squeeze for not wanting to spend the full summer with the kid, but conveniently omitting that she didn't want to either. Otherwise she would have suggested some compromise, such as maybe a month, or maybe two weeks in June and two weeks in August. If the custody agreement said that the mom is responsible for their kid for the summer, then that's what it says. She finds out that dealing with a teenage boy who is not in school isn't a piece of cake so drums it into the kids head that he needs to sie d the summer with Dad. Just like she encouraged the parental alienation. If there was no custody agreement then no, the father is not obligated to take a teenaged boy off your hands for an entire summer. I note you did nothing to encourage your daughters to spend any summer time with their Dad. Why not?

Anonymous wrote:This is so sad. They happened to my son. He wanted to stay with his dad for the summer, but the new wife said no - she said “it’s either him or me”. Mind you, he was a good kid. Just wanted more time with dad - he has me and his sisters at home.
Dad chose new wife. Son hasn’t spoken to his dad for 6 years since then.

There is clearly more to the story. How did you and your son treat her? Was it her house and she paid for it? How often did he visit or have contact prior! Was she going to be the primary caretaker and not asked?

Anonymous wrote:OP the fact that your daughter wants to stay with you the summer before college is HUGE! It either means she has a close relationship with you OR it means that she thinks there are no rules at your house and she can do what she wants (and so perhaps stepmom your new wife doesn't want that.). You need to find out exactly why your new wife doesn't want this and why do you think your daughter does. Have a conversation. She's about to turn 18. You shouldn't say no to her unless she is going to be disrespectful to the rules of your house, do drugs, etc.

This is a troll. But if not maybe it is her house not his and lots of reasons why. What does mom say?

Also, if your son stayed with your ex for the entire summer, did you agree to voluntarily rebate a pronrata share of your child support payments?

Anonymous wrote:This is so sad. They happened to my son. He wanted to stay with his dad for the summer, but the new wife said no - she said “it’s either him or me”. Mind you, he was a good kid. Just wanted more time with dad - he has me and his sisters at home.
Dad chose new wife. Son hasn’t spoken to his dad for 6 years since then.

A convenient excuse for Dad. I'm sure he loves your son but that doesn't mean he wants him around for an entire summer. Since you didn't either, I think you should be understand your exes feelings. No middle ground generally makes it hard to achieve a workable compromise. No doubt one of the reasons you are divorced.

oh ship; Pp just read the previous post. wow.

Anonymous wrote:I have a daughter who’ll be 18 on the 26th. She wants to spend the summer here before college. She’s responsible, respectful, and has never had any issues. My wife doesn’t want her staying but won’t give a reason. My daughter had huge birthday plans, isn’t unhappy now, very hurt, and has been crying a lot.

What’s the best way to handle this?

I didn't read the thread and this is crazy.
My MIL did this to my husband after he graduated from college and he felt betrayed/deserted and he's not that close to her. And he's an only so tell the Mrs. to be careful with her life decisions. Also, she's really young.

Anonymous wrote:It's the stepmom troll posing as dad.

If the stepmom is saying the stepdaughter can't stay, why would she post as the dad? Most normal people are not going to agree with the stepmom in this case.

Whatever the case, stepmom does not get to unilaterally decide. Though, if it's the stepmom's house and they have never gotten along, acts entitled and/or is generally bratty, then I could see putting a foot down.

Not enough info to say who is right.

Anonymous wrote:I have a daughter who’ll be 18 on the 26th. She wants to spend the summer here before college. She’s responsible, respectful, and has never had any issues. My wife doesn’t want her staying but won’t give a reason. My daughter had huge birthday plans, isn’t unhappy now, very hurt, and has been crying a lot.

What’s the best way to handle this?

Your wife is basically asking you to choose between her and your daughter.
Don't be a simp. Choose your daughter and dump that woman.