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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, it’s not tacky. Cooking for 10 people, guests and your family, takes a lot of time and money. I’d expect everyone to help, with money and effort.

You can send an email to all the parents saying you’ll have eat at a restaurant once a day which they’ll need money for, what kind of entertaining budget is needed, and ask for a meals contribution, I’d think $250 is reasonable.

Just because you invited someone to your beach house is not an excuse for freeloading and an all expenses paid vacation, it only means you’ll provide rooms. If parents don’t have the decency to offer, it’s ok to remind them, and they are free to excuse their teen out of the whole trip.

I agree with this whole heartedly. We have a pool and host regular drop off pool parties for older ES kids. No parents ever contribute anything or even offer to unless I explicitly state that they need to. People in this area are so entitled. Like heating the pool and buying pizza and drinks for the kids adds up!!! Especially when we do it almost weekly. We love hosting AND expect people to contribute in some way. It's not a lot to ask!!

Completely disagree. I host a lot and almost everyone asks what they can bring. I tell them just themselves but some inevitably bring a hostess gift or a bottle of wine. Always appreciated but never expected.

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Anonymous wrote:So if this was a girls’ trip—a group of old college friends, say— and one of them happened to have a beach house that they offered up, you would assume that that friend was also covering all of your meals for the week?

But these are children who are not self-supporting, rather than grown women.

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all the responses - I was torn and it was good to get a second opinion.

FWIW- it was my parents beach house and they passed so not “ultra wealthy” like some posters have said- but definitely lucky and thankful we can do this!

Yes, you are ultra wealthy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, it’s not tacky. Cooking for 10 people, guests and your family, takes a lot of time and money. I’d expect everyone to help, with money and effort.

You can send an email to all the parents saying you’ll have eat at a restaurant once a day which they’ll need money for, what kind of entertaining budget is needed, and ask for a meals contribution, I’d think $250 is reasonable.

Just because you invited someone to your beach house is not an excuse for freeloading and an all expenses paid vacation, it only means you’ll provide rooms. If parents don’t have the decency to offer, it’s ok to remind them, and they are free to excuse their teen out of the whole trip.

I agree with this whole heartedly. We have a pool and host regular drop off pool parties for older ES kids. No parents ever contribute anything or even offer to unless I explicitly state that they need to. People in this area are so entitled. Like heating the pool and buying pizza and drinks for the kids adds up!!! Especially when we do it almost weekly. We love hosting AND expect people to contribute in some way. It's not a lot to ask!!

Completely disagree. I host a lot and almost everyone asks what they can bring. I tell them just themselves but some inevitably bring a hostess gift or a bottle of wine. Always appreciated but never expected.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, it’s not tacky. Cooking for 10 people, guests and your family, takes a lot of time and money. I’d expect everyone to help, with money and effort.

You can send an email to all the parents saying you’ll have eat at a restaurant once a day which they’ll need money for, what kind of entertaining budget is needed, and ask for a meals contribution, I’d think $250 is reasonable.

Just because you invited someone to your beach house is not an excuse for freeloading and an all expenses paid vacation, it only means you’ll provide rooms. If parents don’t have the decency to offer, it’s ok to remind them, and they are free to excuse their teen out of the whole trip.

I agree with this whole heartedly. We have a pool and host regular drop off pool parties for older ES kids. No parents ever contribute anything or even offer to unless I explicitly state that they need to. People in this area are so entitled. Like heating the pool and buying pizza and drinks for the kids adds up!!! Especially when we do it almost weekly. We love hosting AND expect people to contribute in some way. It's not a lot to ask!!

Anonymous wrote:OP is thinking about this as asking the parents. The kid should be asking his friends to bring something. I host in the summers and I love it when my friend makes her delicious dinners, but I would never accept her money.

Anonymous wrote:It's pretty tacky. On the other hand, if I were one of the teens' parents, I would have proactively asked for your Venmo and insisted on sending a contribution.

Anonymous wrote:Our friends hosted my DD and 6 friends, and the host asked for Venmo for grocery money for everyone. I thought nothing of it and happily Venmoed her!

Anonymous wrote:So if this was a girls’ trip—a group of old college friends, say— and one of them happened to have a beach house that they offered up, you would assume that that friend was also covering all of your meals for the week?

Anonymous wrote:Our friends hosted my DD and 6 friends, and the host asked for Venmo for grocery money for everyone. I thought nothing of it and happily Venmoed her!

Anonymous wrote:No, it’s not tacky. Cooking for 10 people, guests and your family, takes a lot of time and money. I’d expect everyone to help, with money and effort.

You can send an email to all the parents saying you’ll have eat at a restaurant once a day which they’ll need money for, what kind of entertaining budget is needed, and ask for a meals contribution, I’d think $250 is reasonable.

Just because you invited someone to your beach house is not an excuse for freeloading and an all expenses paid vacation, it only means you’ll provide rooms. If parents don’t have the decency to offer, it’s ok to remind them, and they are free to excuse their teen out of the whole trip.

Anonymous wrote:DH and I were talking last night and I’d love a third-party perspective.

Our 17-year-old son is planning to have around 7 friends stay at our beach house for five nights this summer, and we’re more than happy to host. I’ll plan on having breakfast, lunch, and dinner for the boys (and probably ordering pizza one night), plus having snacks around etc… though I’m sure the boys will also grab food when they’re out.

My question is: would it be tacky to ask each parent to Venmo a small amount to help cover food for the week? If so, how much I am leaning towards yes. DH brought it up- I wouldn’t think twice about covering it if it were a one-time thing, but last summer we had kids in and out nearly every weekend. I love having the kids there and am always happy to have extra kids around so I don’t want this to imply any different.