Drew Barrymore looks great and so does Jason segal, and they’re both wrinkly.

Anonymous wrote:In my sixties, botoxing, using fillers, small amount of plastic surgery.

I’m tired of it, never ending. I’ve decided to age naturally, wrinkles and all. It will be tough, all my friends are sculpted.

Anyone else tired of beautifying?

I never started.

Anonymous wrote:In my sixties, botoxing, using fillers, small amount of plastic surgery.

I’m tired of it, never ending. I’ve decided to age naturally, wrinkles and all. It will be tough, all my friends are sculpted.

Anyone else tired of beautifying?

Sort of.

I'm 54 and do Botox but have decided I'm not increasing my amount of Botox and not starting on fillers or the like. Botox is barely in the budget and I've noticed Botox creep is really normal - used to be your 11's. Then your forehead. Then your crow's feet. Now it's "bunny lines." Basically the whole upper half of the face is frozen and smoothed out. I find it really noticeable in Kate Hudson and Michelle Monaghan:





I still color my hair. I'm not sure I want to go fully gray. I'm also still working and frankly believe keeping up my looks and not appearing too old are things I need for my job/industry. Once college tuitions are paid I will reconsider.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm aging gracefully with Botox, hair dye, and whatever else makes me feel good.

+1 million

I don’t know why some ascribe moral high ground to not using various superficial tools. It’s just Botox and hair dye. Yes it’s pricey and requires time and maintenance and money, but what’s the big deal?

Use these tools or don’t. But keep morality out of it. So ridiculous.

You WANT to believe people are “ascribing” morality to this and they aren’t. Stop being a b. Itch if women don’t go down this road. It’s an “investment” of literally thousands of dollars, likely tens of thousands, over time, and even here most people can’t afford it. And since you’re a grimy azzhole, Beauty and Fashion can involve things besides injectables, procedures, surgery, or even hair dye.

Anonymous wrote:I'm aging gracefully with Botox, hair dye, and whatever else makes me feel good.

+1 million

I don’t know why some ascribe moral high ground to not using various superficial tools. It’s just Botox and hair dye. Yes it’s pricey and requires time and maintenance and money, but what’s the big deal?

Use these tools or don’t. But keep morality out of it. So ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:I dye my hair. I don't want Botox or fillers. However, I might get tempted down the road with a facelift. Although, I suspect my fear of general anesthesia will prevail and I'll never actually take that step...

You sound like you’re 39 and enjoying this thread because you feel young.

This made me laugh out loud 😂

None of the things you mention make you look any better or any younger. They just don't. Aging is inevitable, with or without botox and the rest. I'm not using it. My mother never did either and people would mistake us for sister for the longest time. Look at Lauren Sanchez -- horror story of a face. I don't know how Bezos can kiss that things. Yuck.

Im Black and I’m going to do what I need to do.

Currently chemical peels and Arazlo (Tarazotene) are working miracles.

Anonymous wrote:I think you can often tell when people have had things done. They have wrinkle free faces, that are freakishly smooth yet their hands look like an old woman and if you see them in shorts their arms and legs often show their age.

When the face doesn’t match the rest of the body I think it’s just weird.

Eh, I started wearing spf 50 on my face year round at 30, but didn’t do it to my hands until I was 50 so that’s not necessarily a tell.

The woman who said “doing stuff” would make her “stand out in a bad way”‘didn’t say the women who don’t would make her feel bad. This is stuff we carry around and it’s pretty disgusting to decide that every woman who doesn’t try to stave off aging for whatever reason (and financial reasons are real) are a problem for their peers who do use procedures and similar. It’s really mean-spirited.

My mom is 70 and very judgmental about this sort of thing.
No woman should ever leave the house without lipstick, but any eye makeup is trying too hard.
No woman should let her hair go gray, but it also shouldn’t be long enough to touch her shoulders if she’s over 35.
Women should diet if they are obese, but any form of “working out” is vain.
Absolutely no medical interventions with the exception of a neck lift if the turkey neck is really bad.
Women should be ashamed of themselves for going out in sweats, but also shouldn’t be wearing short skirts or anything remotely “young” coded past 30.
Make it make sense. I’m 40 and the stuff I do to try and stave off aging really annoys her. She is always asking if I’m doing it for “him” (I.e. my husband.) I think in her mind the ideal woman is a 90s mom with a Princess Di bob, big sweater and mom jeans.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps to live in the DMV where I’ve never seen a woman wear makeup. I guess if I lived in CA or TX I might be reaching for these interventions more.

+1. My office is full of 40-65 year old women, and no one does anything. I feel like doing anything would make me stand out in a weird way.

This is why the DMV sucks so bad. You don't have to have a Mar-a-lago face to look nice. I dress up everyday and do wear makeup. I certainly stand out in the office. I also get a LOT of compliments because I act like I give a sh*t.

I do all the things. Botox, micro-needling, chemical peels, really good skincare. I recently had filler dissolved that was initially under my eyes for hallows, but it moved into my cheeks. If you didn't know you wouldn't notice b/c I have high cheekbones, but it bothered me. Much happier without it.

I also dress nicely and am thin. I am very fit. I'm 56. I'm not trying to look younger, just really good for my age.

Actually, the world sucks so bad because of your stank twat attitude. It’s wonderful that you do ALL THE THINGS. It’s also wonderful that women for whom those things are out of reach try to feel ok about their appearance in a culture where signs of age are tantamount to “giving up.” The conflation of self-love and what you look like has always been false.

Good luck chasing the dragon. You’ll get it in the end.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps to live in the DMV where I’ve never seen a woman wear makeup. I guess if I lived in CA or TX I might be reaching for these interventions more.

+1. My office is full of 40-65 year old women, and no one does anything. I feel like doing anything would make me stand out in a weird way.

This is why the DMV sucks so bad. You don't have to have a Mar-a-lago face to look nice. I dress up everyday and do wear makeup. I certainly stand out in the office. I also get a LOT of compliments because I act like I give a sh*t.

I do all the things. Botox, micro-needling, chemical peels, really good skincare. I recently had filler dissolved that was initially under my eyes for hallows, but it moved into my cheeks. If you didn't know you wouldn't notice b/c I have high cheekbones, but it bothered me. Much happier without it.

I also dress nicely and am thin. I am very fit. I'm 56. I'm not trying to look younger, just really good for my age.

Some people just have better genetics.

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Anonymous wrote:lol at the poster who thinks she’s spared for being Asian. Every Asian woman past menopause…

Yeah I work with all Asian women, the 30 something’s look like teens, the 40 something’s look 30 something, and the older ones all look exactly their age.

Can't figure out how to post from my phone but there is a funny meme about exactly this.