Anonymous
Post 02/24/2026 06:42     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
my DH does stuff like this all of the time and it can really drive me crazy. over time I've realized he's just not really paying attention or thinking about the onus that he's placing on me. which is annoying, but I try to let a lot of it go lest I would be yelling at him all of the time. if something really bothers me I will talk to him about it calmly and explain and usually it improves. if your DH can't take criticism - which I don't really think this is - that's the real issue here to address.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2026 06:26     Subject: Re:Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Even if I wasn’t postpartum I would be angry at my husband if he did something like this.

Does he often get lazy & leave messes behind??

Anonymous
Post 02/23/2026 21:29     Subject: Re:Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update! After the towels sat on the floor the entire day yesterday, I (calmly, in a non-confrontational manner) asked DH what was up with the towels. According to DH, he DID put the towels on top of the dryer, but they all fell off onto the floor. I find it a little hard to believe that an entire load of laundry fell off the top of the dryer, but DH does have a tendency to overload it which causes it to shake more than usual - so I guess it’s possible. In any event, DH was aware that all the towels were on the floor all day yesterday and did nothing about it until I asked him to please pick them up so I can rewash them.

For the posters asking why the towels weren’t moved to a laundry basket - DH recently took over the laundry basket that we use for clean towels. He is now using two of our laundry baskets for his clean laundry. I guess it’s time to order more laundry baskets!


WTF. Why are you rewashing towels just because they were on the floor? Are you batshit insane? Dear GOD. That's just loco. You must be extremely difficult to live with.


I don’t agree with the insults here, but I do think it’s nutty to re-wash the towels. Unless your laundry room is crazy dirty, I don’t see the point.


I agree but we have some real germaphobes on DCUM.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2026 21:28     Subject: Re:Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update! After the towels sat on the floor the entire day yesterday, I (calmly, in a non-confrontational manner) asked DH what was up with the towels. According to DH, he DID put the towels on top of the dryer, but they all fell off onto the floor. I find it a little hard to believe that an entire load of laundry fell off the top of the dryer, but DH does have a tendency to overload it which causes it to shake more than usual - so I guess it’s possible. In any event, DH was aware that all the towels were on the floor all day yesterday and did nothing about it until I asked him to please pick them up so I can rewash them.

For the posters asking why the towels weren’t moved to a laundry basket - DH recently took over the laundry basket that we use for clean towels. He is now using two of our laundry baskets for his clean laundry. I guess it’s time to order more laundry baskets!


I agree with pp: four is fine.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2026 18:07     Subject: Re:Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update! After the towels sat on the floor the entire day yesterday, I (calmly, in a non-confrontational manner) asked DH what was up with the towels. According to DH, he DID put the towels on top of the dryer, but they all fell off onto the floor. I find it a little hard to believe that an entire load of laundry fell off the top of the dryer, but DH does have a tendency to overload it which causes it to shake more than usual - so I guess it’s possible. In any event, DH was aware that all the towels were on the floor all day yesterday and did nothing about it until I asked him to please pick them up so I can rewash them.

For the posters asking why the towels weren’t moved to a laundry basket - DH recently took over the laundry basket that we use for clean towels. He is now using two of our laundry baskets for his clean laundry. I guess it’s time to order more laundry baskets!


WTF. Why are you rewashing towels just because they were on the floor? Are you batshit insane? Dear GOD. That's just loco. You must be extremely difficult to live with.


I don’t agree with the insults here, but I do think it’s nutty to re-wash the towels. Unless your laundry room is crazy dirty, I don’t see the point.


Some people have dogs and cats in their laundry. So yeah, it could really be filthy.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2026 17:37     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Funny to see this topic - just yesterday, I pulled a load of my wife's laundry out of the dryer and threw them in her laundry basket so I could use the dryer for my laundry. I didn't fold her stuff and was briefly tempted to think I was doing something wrong.

But that was just a flash back to when the kids were little and their stuff would often be in the laundry. Back then, I'd definitely be folding their stuff. Joint responsibilities and all of that. (Same goes for towels.)

For a load of only her clothes, she wouldn't fold mine and doesn't expect me to fold hers.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2026 17:17     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Anonymous wrote:

My husband does bonehead annoying stuff, too (as do I), and he made me especially crazy during postpartum. But I LIKE him, and I don't want to make him feel bad. I'd rather us quickly resolve whatever issue we're having, regardless of whose fault it is.


This^. Happy wife, happy life=Happy husband, happy life. Don't sweat over small stuff.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2026 16:13     Subject: Re:Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update! After the towels sat on the floor the entire day yesterday, I (calmly, in a non-confrontational manner) asked DH what was up with the towels. According to DH, he DID put the towels on top of the dryer, but they all fell off onto the floor. I find it a little hard to believe that an entire load of laundry fell off the top of the dryer, but DH does have a tendency to overload it which causes it to shake more than usual - so I guess it’s possible. In any event, DH was aware that all the towels were on the floor all day yesterday and did nothing about it until I asked him to please pick them up so I can rewash them.

For the posters asking why the towels weren’t moved to a laundry basket - DH recently took over the laundry basket that we use for clean towels. He is now using two of our laundry baskets for his clean laundry. I guess it’s time to order more laundry baskets!



Girl. Your man is a liar.


It was obviously a very localized earthquake and he is still traumatized by he surprise of it all so he will need time off from chores to regroup. Let’s be more understanding. He could have died!


😩
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2026 16:04     Subject: Re:Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update! After the towels sat on the floor the entire day yesterday, I (calmly, in a non-confrontational manner) asked DH what was up with the towels. According to DH, he DID put the towels on top of the dryer, but they all fell off onto the floor. I find it a little hard to believe that an entire load of laundry fell off the top of the dryer, but DH does have a tendency to overload it which causes it to shake more than usual - so I guess it’s possible. In any event, DH was aware that all the towels were on the floor all day yesterday and did nothing about it until I asked him to please pick them up so I can rewash them.

For the posters asking why the towels weren’t moved to a laundry basket - DH recently took over the laundry basket that we use for clean towels. He is now using two of our laundry baskets for his clean laundry. I guess it’s time to order more laundry baskets!


WTF. Why are you rewashing towels just because they were on the floor? Are you batshit insane? Dear GOD. That's just loco. You must be extremely difficult to live with.


I don’t agree with the insults here, but I do think it’s nutty to re-wash the towels. Unless your laundry room is crazy dirty, I don’t see the point.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2026 15:53     Subject: Re:Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update! After the towels sat on the floor the entire day yesterday, I (calmly, in a non-confrontational manner) asked DH what was up with the towels. According to DH, he DID put the towels on top of the dryer, but they all fell off onto the floor. I find it a little hard to believe that an entire load of laundry fell off the top of the dryer, but DH does have a tendency to overload it which causes it to shake more than usual - so I guess it’s possible. In any event, DH was aware that all the towels were on the floor all day yesterday and did nothing about it until I asked him to please pick them up so I can rewash them.

For the posters asking why the towels weren’t moved to a laundry basket - DH recently took over the laundry basket that we use for clean towels. He is now using two of our laundry baskets for his clean laundry. I guess it’s time to order more laundry baskets!



Girl. Your man is a liar.


It was obviously a very localized earthquake and he is still traumatized by he surprise of it all so he will need time off from chores to regroup. Let’s be more understanding. He could have died!



😂😂😂😂

OP I hope you responded with a visible level of sarcasm. And make him rewash those towels, how else will he learn??
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2026 15:47     Subject: Re:Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update! After the towels sat on the floor the entire day yesterday, I (calmly, in a non-confrontational manner) asked DH what was up with the towels. According to DH, he DID put the towels on top of the dryer, but they all fell off onto the floor. I find it a little hard to believe that an entire load of laundry fell off the top of the dryer, but DH does have a tendency to overload it which causes it to shake more than usual - so I guess it’s possible. In any event, DH was aware that all the towels were on the floor all day yesterday and did nothing about it until I asked him to please pick them up so I can rewash them.

For the posters asking why the towels weren’t moved to a laundry basket - DH recently took over the laundry basket that we use for clean towels. He is now using two of our laundry baskets for his clean laundry. I guess it’s time to order more laundry baskets!


WTF. Why are you rewashing towels just because they were on the floor? Are you batshit insane? Dear GOD. That's just loco. You must be extremely difficult to live with.