Anonymous
02/21/2026 13:55
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am 43F and have a BMI of 34 at 5'3". I stand and walk all day due to work and not losing any weight at all. Activity has nothing to do, your body reacts to hormones in a completely different way.
you need to make some changes, something is not working and you are in obese category.
NP.
I am at 26. 2 at 5.5"
I am on a beta blocker, and have no thyroid, oh, and post menopausal.
I eat about 1100 to 1320 cal a day, exercise every damn day and am on my feet.
The weight will not drop. If I even eat 200 cal even one day or do not track for a few days, I will shoot up immediately.
That God I am not married to an a$$wife like OP.
Dp
It does not sound like you are logging calories correctly.
Either that or your body sciences different than every other organism on the planet.
No, I am certainly logging everything correctly . Your widget in widget out philosophy just doesn't pan out for millions of people, or maybe you do not have these problems, such as no thyroid and cardiac issues stemming from no thyroid. Some of us aren't like every organism on the planet and most post menopausal women will be happy to corroborate. Oh, I should mention that I am a vegan, too.
It’s not a “philosophy”. It’s a thermodynamic law. Nothing you mentioned is an exception to physics. If you think you have found an exception, publish the paper and submit it to peer review.
You are just in a plateau. If you maintain a deficit you will lose weight.
Well I have been in a plateau for 2 years.
Tell me that you don't understand metabolism, thyroid disease, and pharmacological beta blockers and arrythmia agents without saying it. Just doesn't work the way you think, buddy. Hope you are not someone's personal trainer, because you are not informed. I don't have to publish papers, there's plenty written on this topic, but you have to actually learn to read. Here's a way to get started
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8000220/
https://heartrhythmdoc.com/beta-blockers-weight-gain-inevitable/
Like I said. You hit a plateau. You’d know that if you read the response you quoted while you were typing that condescending response about learning to read.
If you increased your calories you’d likely augment weight gain due to hormones and the fact that your body will store the extra energy.
Anonymous
02/21/2026 13:48
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am 43F and have a BMI of 34 at 5'3". I stand and walk all day due to work and not losing any weight at all. Activity has nothing to do, your body reacts to hormones in a completely different way.
you need to make some changes, something is not working and you are in obese category.
NP.
I am at 26. 2 at 5.5"
I am on a beta blocker, and have no thyroid, oh, and post menopausal.
I eat about 1100 to 1320 cal a day, exercise every damn day and am on my feet.
The weight will not drop. If I even eat 200 cal even one day or do not track for a few days, I will shoot up immediately.
That God I am not married to an a$$wife like OP.
Dp
It does not sound like you are logging calories correctly.
Either that or your body sciences different than every other organism on the planet.
No, I am certainly logging everything correctly . Your widget in widget out philosophy just doesn't pan out for millions of people, or maybe you do not have these problems, such as no thyroid and cardiac issues stemming from no thyroid. Some of us aren't like every organism on the planet and most post menopausal women will be happy to corroborate. Oh, I should mention that I am a vegan, too.
It’s not a “philosophy”. It’s a thermodynamic law. Nothing you mentioned is an exception to physics. If you think you have found an exception, publish the paper and submit it to peer review.
You are just in a plateau. If you maintain a deficit you will lose weight.
The human body is not a closed system of thermodynamics. I’m pretty sure that this is accepted fact and doesn’t need a published paper.
Conservation of energy applies over time. You hit a plateau.
Anonymous
02/21/2026 13:41
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am 43F and have a BMI of 34 at 5'3". I stand and walk all day due to work and not losing any weight at all. Activity has nothing to do, your body reacts to hormones in a completely different way.
you need to make some changes, something is not working and you are in obese category.
NP.
I am at 26. 2 at 5.5"
I am on a beta blocker, and have no thyroid, oh, and post menopausal.
I eat about 1100 to 1320 cal a day, exercise every damn day and am on my feet.
The weight will not drop. If I even eat 200 cal even one day or do not track for a few days, I will shoot up immediately.
That God I am not married to an a$$wife like OP.
Dp
It does not sound like you are logging calories correctly.
Either that or your body sciences different than every other organism on the planet.
No, I am certainly logging everything correctly . Your widget in widget out philosophy just doesn't pan out for millions of people, or maybe you do not have these problems, such as no thyroid and cardiac issues stemming from no thyroid. Some of us aren't like every organism on the planet and most post menopausal women will be happy to corroborate. Oh, I should mention that I am a vegan, too.
It’s not a “philosophy”. It’s a thermodynamic law. Nothing you mentioned is an exception to physics. If you think you have found an exception, publish the paper and submit it to peer review.
You are just in a plateau. If you maintain a deficit you will lose weight.
Well I have been in a plateau for 2 years.
Tell me that you don't understand metabolism, thyroid disease, and pharmacological beta blockers and arrythmia agents without saying it. Just doesn't work the way you think, buddy. Hope you are not someone's personal trainer, because you are not informed. I don't have to publish papers, there's plenty written on this topic, but you have to actually learn to read. Here's a way to get started
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8000220/
https://heartrhythmdoc.com/beta-blockers-weight-gain-inevitable/
Anonymous
02/21/2026 13:38
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am 43F and have a BMI of 34 at 5'3". I stand and walk all day due to work and not losing any weight at all. Activity has nothing to do, your body reacts to hormones in a completely different way.
you need to make some changes, something is not working and you are in obese category.
NP.
I am at 26. 2 at 5.5"
I am on a beta blocker, and have no thyroid, oh, and post menopausal.
I eat about 1100 to 1320 cal a day, exercise every damn day and am on my feet.
The weight will not drop. If I even eat 200 cal even one day or do not track for a few days, I will shoot up immediately.
That God I am not married to an a$$wife like OP.
Dp
It does not sound like you are logging calories correctly.
Either that or your body sciences different than every other organism on the planet.
No, I am certainly logging everything correctly . Your widget in widget out philosophy just doesn't pan out for millions of people, or maybe you do not have these problems, such as no thyroid and cardiac issues stemming from no thyroid. Some of us aren't like every organism on the planet and most post menopausal women will be happy to corroborate. Oh, I should mention that I am a vegan, too.
It’s not a “philosophy”. It’s a thermodynamic law. Nothing you mentioned is an exception to physics. If you think you have found an exception, publish the paper and submit it to peer review.
You are just in a plateau. If you maintain a deficit you will lose weight.
The human body is not a closed system of thermodynamics. I’m pretty sure that this is accepted fact and doesn’t need a published paper.
Anonymous
02/21/2026 13:28
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Oh man. I would be super excited to go on a vacation with my husband to the Caribbean. Assuming he is a normal functioning adult, I would not care or say anything about his physical appearance or health if he did not indicate he wanted me to do so. Geez.
Anonymous
02/21/2026 12:29
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am 43F and have a BMI of 34 at 5'3". I stand and walk all day due to work and not losing any weight at all. Activity has nothing to do, your body reacts to hormones in a completely different way.
you need to make some changes, something is not working and you are in obese category.
NP.
I am at 26. 2 at 5.5"
I am on a beta blocker, and have no thyroid, oh, and post menopausal.
I eat about 1100 to 1320 cal a day, exercise every damn day and am on my feet.
The weight will not drop. If I even eat 200 cal even one day or do not track for a few days, I will shoot up immediately.
That God I am not married to an a$$wife like OP.
Dp
It does not sound like you are logging calories correctly.
Either that or your body sciences different than every other organism on the planet.
No, I am certainly logging everything correctly . Your widget in widget out philosophy just doesn't pan out for millions of people, or maybe you do not have these problems, such as no thyroid and cardiac issues stemming from no thyroid. Some of us aren't like every organism on the planet and most post menopausal women will be happy to corroborate. Oh, I should mention that I am a vegan, too.
It’s not a “philosophy”. It’s a thermodynamic law. Nothing you mentioned is an exception to physics. If you think you have found an exception, publish the paper and submit it to peer review.
You are just in a plateau. If you maintain a deficit you will lose weight.
Anonymous
02/20/2026 20:55
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am 43F and have a BMI of 34 at 5'3". I stand and walk all day due to work and not losing any weight at all. Activity has nothing to do, your body reacts to hormones in a completely different way.
you need to make some changes, something is not working and you are in obese category.
NP.
I am at 26. 2 at 5.5"
I am on a beta blocker, and have no thyroid, oh, and post menopausal.
I eat about 1100 to 1320 cal a day, exercise every damn day and am on my feet.
The weight will not drop. If I even eat 200 cal even one day or do not track for a few days, I will shoot up immediately.
That God I am not married to an a$$wife like OP.
Dp
It does not sound like you are logging calories correctly.
Either that or your body sciences different than every other organism on the planet.
No, I am certainly logging everything correctly . Your widget in widget out philosophy just doesn't pan out for millions of people, or maybe you do not have these problems, such as no thyroid and cardiac issues stemming from no thyroid. Some of us aren't like every organism on the planet and most post menopausal women will be happy to corroborate. Oh, I should mention that I am a vegan, too.
Anonymous
02/20/2026 19:06
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
I was on a beta blocker Toprol XL. I gained weight slowly. My cardio asked me if I thought I was gaining. I said oh thank you for asking! Yes! He cut my dose and 10 pounds vanished quickly no other changes.
Anonymous
02/20/2026 18:18
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:I am 43F and have a BMI of 34 at 5'3". I stand and walk all day due to work and not losing any weight at all. Activity has nothing to do, your body reacts to hormones in a completely different way.
woah! you seriously need to do something about this.
Anonymous
02/20/2026 16:50
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am 43F and have a BMI of 34 at 5'3". I stand and walk all day due to work and not losing any weight at all. Activity has nothing to do, your body reacts to hormones in a completely different way.
you need to make some changes, something is not working and you are in obese category.
NP.
I am at 26. 2 at 5.5"
I am on a beta blocker, and have no thyroid, oh, and post menopausal.
I eat about 1100 to 1320 cal a day, exercise every damn day and am on my feet.
The weight will not drop. If I even eat 200 cal even one day or do not track for a few days, I will shoot up immediately.
That God I am not married to an a$$wife like OP.
Dp
It does not sound like you are logging calories correctly.
Either that or your body sciences different than every other organism on the planet.
Anonymous
02/20/2026 16:45
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am a married man who is in shape and wife is not.
Still love her, but yes - it sucks OP.
Obviously people can get cosmetic surgery to look better; but being fit just takes some minor discipline. Eating half decent and maybe 6-7 hours a week to be active/exercise.
It is not that hard.
Getting a 6 pack abs type in shape is next level, but to not have a belly or back fat is easy.
I’ve always been an exerciser. I have a normal BMI. I have a belly and back fat.
Sorry, BMI means nothing.
Belly and back fat are not attractive in swimsuits or tropical attire.
The question isn’t whether that’s attractive. The question is whether back and belly fat are easy to get rid of.
Where your body prefers to store fat is highly genetic.
I’m in good shape (cardio and strength training), eat healthfully, and have healthy body weight and body fat. I still store fat in those areas.
If you have a flabby stomach and back fat it is not attractive. At any age.
Being a female at 20-30% does mean if you are on the higher end of “healthy”, sure you will carry it differently than some women who win the genetic lottery and carry it in their boobs or something. But if you’re at 30% and need to get to 25 to lose that stubborn fat then short of surgery that is what you have to do.
So to be attractive you probably need to get closer to 20 than 30. Or be happy at 30, healthy and not look good for warm weather/swimsuit vacations.
Below 20 is like professional athlete for a female and if you are there you are looking at an 8 pack or 6 pack.
Nobody cares what you think is attractive. The question is whether it’s easy to lose belly and back fat. It’s not.
Anonymous
02/20/2026 16:43
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:Ughh…you’re the woman? If you think you are pissed now, wait four weeks. Dollars to donuts, he actually will change his body in four weeks as much as you did with six months of real effort. And the kicker, all he will do is cut out soda and alcohol and go to the gym 15 times.
Hah! This is too real. Men get it pretty easy when it comes to weight loss. Stupid having hormones!
Anonymous
02/20/2026 16:42
Subject: Re:Did not try to get in shape
I hate the very idea of using a vacation as incentive for anything other than learning how to relax and enjoy life. The fact that you're mad that your spouse didn't meet some kind of weightloss goal (you set) before daring to take some time off from regular life suggests you're insufferably competitive and high-strung.
I hate the idea of losing weight for an event, and a vacation just took the top spot for "events to not lose weight for", right after weddings, parties, etc. If you want to lose weight, go do that. But don't hang your vacation happiness on your size, and definitely don't put that kind of pressure on your partner. Absolutely gross behavior, OP.
I hate the idea of losing weight for an event, and a vacation just took the top spot for "events to not lose weight for", right after weddings, parties, etc. If you want to lose weight, go do that. But don't hang your vacation happiness on your size, and definitely don't put that kind of pressure on your partner. Absolutely gross behavior, OP.
Anonymous
02/20/2026 14:27
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Let's remember OP started with snorkeling and badic tourist stuff then added high elevation hike with elevation gain to roster. So Blue Mountains or something.
Her DH may do as well as she does despite her "training" for it. FFS I am over 65 and hiked up mountain trails at elevation in Utah and Colorado without training for it. Didn't post my selfies though.m
Her DH may do as well as she does despite her "training" for it. FFS I am over 65 and hiked up mountain trails at elevation in Utah and Colorado without training for it. Didn't post my selfies though.m
Anonymous
02/20/2026 14:02
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am 43F and have a BMI of 34 at 5'3". I stand and walk all day due to work and not losing any weight at all. Activity has nothing to do, your body reacts to hormones in a completely different way.
you need to make some changes, something is not working and you are in obese category.
NP.
I am at 26. 2 at 5.5"
I am on a beta blocker, and have no thyroid, oh, and post menopausal.
I eat about 1100 to 1320 cal a day, exercise every damn day and am on my feet.
The weight will not drop. If I even eat 200 cal even one day or do not track for a few days, I will shoot up immediately.
That God I am not married to an a$$wife like OP.