Years ago I went to a childfree wedding where the bride had tantrum because her widowed cousin brought her 14 year old daughter as her +1 to the ceremony and reception. A little different from OP's situation, but goes to show you that people who insist on childfree weddings can be quite insane and you shouldn't agitate them.

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Anonymous wrote:No ruder than them excluding one of your family members. [url]

False. I don’t want children at my wedding. They are too disruptive. And it costs too much.

[b]What a lucky man your imaginary husband is.

What is your problem? They made a valid point. Children aren’t invited on purpose.

If my kids aren’t welcome or family to a relatives wedding, neither am I and I’m not interested in going. This is not a young child.

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Excluding 10+ year olds is very different from excluding babies and toddlers. There's something off about adults who can't even tolerate a big kid or teen.

There's not! It's usually a question of numbers. Most people do not invite kids to weddings. If OP had four kids, that would be four additional plates. Many of their guests probably have kids -- where do you draw the line?

This is the origin story for all the offspring in the adult child forum who moved back home because they don't like working and their apartments

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Anonymous wrote:All of the people castigating OP for not leaving her tween daughter alone are the same people who would be castigating her if she left the daughter alone and some accident, injury, or crime befell her.

Nope. My tween has been home alone for a few hours, including over dinnertime. In OP's position, I wouldn't necessarily stay until the end of the reception, but I'd absolutely go.

Agree. It's generally the helicopter "any risk is too much risk" group worrying about random kidnappings and other outlier events who point the finger when something bad happens in part to justify their own parenting choices and that whatever tragedy would NEVER happen to their kid.

Why didn’t you secure child care prior to your RSVP to this wedding ?

You should just not attend.

Anonymous wrote:All of the people castigating OP for not leaving her tween daughter alone are the same people who would be castigating her if she left the daughter alone and some accident, injury, or crime befell her.

It doesn't have to be alone, it could be with a babysitter.

But either way, not being able to leave your child for a maximum of 5 hours is creepy and helicoptering.

Anonymous wrote:All of the people castigating OP for not leaving her tween daughter alone are the same people who would be castigating her if she left the daughter alone and some accident, injury, or crime befell her.

Nope. My tween has been home alone for a few hours, including over dinnertime. In OP's position, I wouldn't necessarily stay until the end of the reception, but I'd absolutely go.

All of the people castigating OP for not leaving her tween daughter alone are the same people who would be castigating her if she left the daughter alone and some accident, injury, or crime befell her.

do people really invite the children of work colleagues to their weddings? it is one thing to invite the children of family members but the older children of work colleagues? that seems unnecessary.

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Anonymous wrote:No ruder than them excluding one of your family members. [url]

False. I don’t want children at my wedding. They are too disruptive. And it costs too much.

[b]What a lucky man your imaginary husband is.

What is your problem? They made a valid point. Children aren’t invited on purpose.

Babies and toddlers get disinvited because they cry and whine too much. Valid.

Tweens get disinvited because because the bride and groom are maladjusted weirdos who spend too much time on the childfree subreddit, an insane asylum.

So RSVP no and don't go. But you don't get to decide that Larla is invited on your own accord, even though she is not.

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Anonymous wrote:No ruder than them excluding one of your family members. [url]

False. I don’t want children at my wedding. They are too disruptive. And it costs too much.

[b]What a lucky man your imaginary husband is.

What is your problem? They made a valid point. Children aren’t invited on purpose.

Babies and toddlers get disinvited because they cry and whine too much. Valid.

Tweens get disinvited because because the bride and groom are maladjusted weirdos who spend too much time on the childfree subreddit, an insane asylum.

Anonymous wrote:any mom who cannot leave a tween either home alone or with a babysitter in order to go to a wedding has serious issues.

assuming tween is not violent, does not have a feeding tube, etc, - it's ridiculous that you are insisting you cannot leave her at home

you're just being a drama crybaby about a no kids wedding. grow up. the world does not revolve around your kid.

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It's giving enmeshed.

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Anonymous wrote:No ruder than them excluding one of your family members. [url]

False. I don’t want children at my wedding. They are too disruptive. And it costs too much.

[b]What a lucky man your imaginary husband is.

What is your problem? They made a valid point. Children aren’t invited on purpose.

If my kids aren’t welcome or family to a relatives wedding, neither am I and I’m not interested in going. This is not a young child.

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Excluding 10+ year olds is very different from excluding babies and toddlers. There's something off about adults who can't even tolerate a big kid or teen.

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Anonymous wrote:Skip the wedding and spend as little time as possible at reception. Put your child first.

This is lunacy. A tween can be away from her mom for 2-3 hours.

This!

Slip out of the reception on the early side, but also view it as a growth opportunity for your tween. Kids need to learn to do things that make them uncomfortable.