Anonymous
Post 02/27/2026 09:50     Subject: What happens when you and your husband disagree about your lottery order?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If he wants to keep it on the list, what is he willing to do to make it work? Handling more transportation, hiring private aftercare provider, arranging tutoring? And I agree with those who suggested ranking it lower than he would like.


OP here - I think this is the answer. What is he willing to do to make it work? I'll take that angle the next time we talk.


And he has to own it. Don't agree to this with giving him a near term deliverable so he can show you he is serious. Men love to say it will all work out, but what they mean is that their wife will deal with it.



Now this is a word.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 22:30     Subject: What happens when you and your husband disagree about your lottery order?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If he wants to keep it on the list, what is he willing to do to make it work? Handling more transportation, hiring private aftercare provider, arranging tutoring? And I agree with those who suggested ranking it lower than he would like.


OP here - I think this is the answer. What is he willing to do to make it work? I'll take that angle the next time we talk.


And he has to own it. Don't agree to this with giving him a near term deliverable so he can show you he is serious. Men love to say it will all work out, but what they mean is that their wife will deal with it.


+1

This is why I decide most things.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 22:23     Subject: What happens when you and your husband disagree about your lottery order?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. CRITICAL UPDATE: We have agreement!

Just submitted our apps! Final list is:

Ross
Garrison
ITDS
EL Haynes
John Lewis
Lee Montessori Brookland

We just talked through the details of the commute for Garrison vs. ITDS AND the lottery/waitlist stats that show that with three kids and two years to lotto, when our oldest gets to 5th/6th, we can essentially go there for middle school if we want and revisit this then.

I was honest with him that this list meant we almost certainly won’t be going to ITDS (realistically, it’ll be Garrison or John Lewis) and he’s fine with it. And if something crazy happens and we end up at ITDS, I’ll take that as a Sign from Fate and buy the damn e-bike.

Thanks everyone for your support during this weirdly stressful time!!


Sweet satisfaction!
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 22:20     Subject: What happens when you and your husband disagree about your lottery order?
OP here. CRITICAL UPDATE: We have agreement!

Just submitted our apps! Final list is:

Ross
Garrison
ITDS
EL Haynes
John Lewis
Lee Montessori Brookland

We just talked through the details of the commute for Garrison vs. ITDS AND the lottery/waitlist stats that show that with three kids and two years to lotto, when our oldest gets to 5th/6th, we can essentially go there for middle school if we want and revisit this then.

I was honest with him that this list meant we almost certainly won’t be going to ITDS (realistically, it’ll be Garrison or John Lewis) and he’s fine with it. And if something crazy happens and we end up at ITDS, I’ll take that as a Sign from Fate and buy the damn e-bike.

Thanks everyone for your support during this weirdly stressful time!!
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 20:47     Subject: What happens when you and your husband disagree about your lottery order?
Anonymous wrote:Are the immersion options Marie Reed, Oyster-Adams, Bancroft all out for you? Have you thought about ranking Eaton, Hearst, Stoddert, etc. Maybe even Seaton? Those all seem a lot closer than ITDS.


Good idea but the swing space location makes Seaton difficult for OP. It's on Bryant St near the reservoir.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 20:42     Subject: What happens when you and your husband disagree about your lottery order?
Anonymous wrote:Are the immersion options Marie Reed, Oyster-Adams, Bancroft all out for you? Have you thought about ranking Eaton, Hearst, Stoddert, etc. Maybe even Seaton? Those all seem a lot closer than ITDS.


Marie Reed is a very good call. Did you consider this one?
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 20:39     Subject: What happens when you and your husband disagree about your lottery order?
Are the immersion options Marie Reed, Oyster-Adams, Bancroft all out for you? Have you thought about ranking Eaton, Hearst, Stoddert, etc. Maybe even Seaton? Those all seem a lot closer than ITDS.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 20:22     Subject: What happens when you and your husband disagree about your lottery order?
I would put Garrison 1. You can walk, bus, bike with little kids through the elementary school years without getting a car or hating your life because of the commute. Being carfree is great (saves money etc.) but it is also a choice that pretty much requires a nearby school commute. Tradeoffs.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 16:23     Subject: What happens when you and your husband disagree about your lottery order?
If you can buy a car and work from home most of the time, do it. If not, do not do it.

Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 16:20     Subject: What happens when you and your husband disagree about your lottery order?
Why on earth can't you hire someone? Three kids in aftercare at ITDS will be really expensive. Like $1000 a month.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 16:19     Subject: What happens when you and your husband disagree about your lottery order?
Chimed in here to say if Priority B is commute take it off the list and don't look back. I see that's the priority. So, yeah.

Many years ago we got into IT and due to commute, we went with our neighborhood school (but for PreK). It was WONDERFUL. Until it wasn't. Then we moved to Maryland.

Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 16:18     Subject: What happens when you and your husband disagree about your lottery order?
I think you are both probably over thinking this. For the record, commute matters a TON.

I haven't read the rest of the comments. I wanted my kids safe and I wanted the school close to home.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 16:15     Subject: Re:What happens when you and your husband disagree about your lottery order?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How would you commit to Ross or Garisson? Also ebike?


OP here. We can walk to Garrison in 20 mins, or bus there in 14. The bus stop is right outside the school and right on the corner of our block. We'd probably walk there (downhill) in the morning, and bus back (especially since we can time leaving aftercare to grab the bus). It's also on the way to/from work (we both work hybrid).

Ross is slightly longer bus ride plus a short walk (couple blocks) but then we're walking distance to our offices.

So either one is much more manageable.


OP again - and Ross we can walk to in 30 mins. Too long for the kids at any sort of task-oriented pace, but if it's just one of us like going to pick them up, we'd just do that (we're big walkers).
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 16:12     Subject: Re:What happens when you and your husband disagree about your lottery order?
Anonymous wrote:How would you commit to Ross or Garisson? Also ebike?


OP here. We can walk to Garrison in 20 mins, or bus there in 14. The bus stop is right outside the school and right on the corner of our block. We'd probably walk there (downhill) in the morning, and bus back (especially since we can time leaving aftercare to grab the bus). It's also on the way to/from work (we both work hybrid).

Ross is slightly longer bus ride plus a short walk (couple blocks) but then we're walking distance to our offices.

So either one is much more manageable.
Anonymous
Post 02/26/2026 15:19     Subject: Re:What happens when you and your husband disagree about your lottery order?
How would you commit to Ross or Garisson? Also ebike?