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Anonymous wrote:East coasters…

Is it not like this everywhere else? (I've never left the east coast) 😔

No. Californians do not even understand sarcasm

Seriously? Why not?
Are they nice or rude though?

It's not part of West Coast culture. They are nice for the most part.

Does anyone know what's wrong with east coast culture then?

It's colder and darker except in the summer when its humid.
I spent the first half of my life on the west coast (Southern California) and the second half on the east coast (DC and Virginia) and the people in California were happier and nicer than in DC. Then, at least, I can't really speak for the last 20+ years, when I understand it hasn't been as rosy as my childhood was.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s fun

I’ve had times in my life when I thought being mean was fun. Looking back, these were some of the least joyful, least fulfilled, and most insecure moments I experienced. I always regretted my meanness, too — and life is so short.

I agree with all of this except the regret.

I don't think regret is particularly helpful, but I do think regret is warranted when someone is intentionally mean and realize later that the mean-ness was unwarranted.

There’s the disconnect. I know I shouldn’t say mean things. Even if a person really, truly deserves to hear the mean things.

So I don’t want to be mean for my own mental health, but I don’t feel past meanness was unwarranted, necessarily.

Isn't this some sort of sociopathic trait? Interesting that you recognize your toxicity but don't care?

It’s neither toxic nor sociopathic. It’s EXHAUSTING having to deal with people like *you* all day - being mean to you on the internet helps me not be mean to you to your face. Which you would clearly deserve.

Wow. I am not the PP, but your really should get therapy. You sound unhinged. I'm guessing in the workplace you don't hide your sociopathic tendencies nearly as well as you think you do.

DCUMAD is a reflection of the people living in the greater DC area (most of whom are striver transplants).

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Anonymous wrote:It’s fun

I’ve had times in my life when I thought being mean was fun. Looking back, these were some of the least joyful, least fulfilled, and most insecure moments I experienced. I always regretted my meanness, too — and life is so short.

I agree with all of this except the regret.

I don't think regret is particularly helpful, but I do think regret is warranted when someone is intentionally mean and realize later that the mean-ness was unwarranted.

There’s the disconnect. I know I shouldn’t say mean things. Even if a person really, truly deserves to hear the mean things.

So I don’t want to be mean for my own mental health, but I don’t feel past meanness was unwarranted, necessarily.

Isn't this some sort of sociopathic trait? Interesting that you recognize your toxicity but don't care?

It’s neither toxic nor sociopathic. It’s EXHAUSTING having to deal with people like *you* all day - being mean to you on the internet helps me not be mean to you to your face. Which you would clearly deserve.

The irony of this post in this thread is hilarious.

You don’t know what irony means.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s fun

I’ve had times in my life when I thought being mean was fun. Looking back, these were some of the least joyful, least fulfilled, and most insecure moments I experienced. I always regretted my meanness, too — and life is so short.

I agree with all of this except the regret.

I don't think regret is particularly helpful, but I do think regret is warranted when someone is intentionally mean and realize later that the mean-ness was unwarranted.

There’s the disconnect. I know I shouldn’t say mean things. Even if a person really, truly deserves to hear the mean things.

So I don’t want to be mean for my own mental health, but I don’t feel past meanness was unwarranted, necessarily.

Isn't this some sort of sociopathic trait? Interesting that you recognize your toxicity but don't care?

It’s neither toxic nor sociopathic. It’s EXHAUSTING having to deal with people like *you* all day - being mean to you on the internet helps me not be mean to you to your face. Which you would clearly deserve.

The irony of this post in this thread is hilarious.

+1. I’m glad you got it, too. I’m dying laughing

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Anonymous wrote:It’s fun

I’ve had times in my life when I thought being mean was fun. Looking back, these were some of the least joyful, least fulfilled, and most insecure moments I experienced. I always regretted my meanness, too — and life is so short.

I agree with all of this except the regret.

I don't think regret is particularly helpful, but I do think regret is warranted when someone is intentionally mean and realize later that the mean-ness was unwarranted.

There’s the disconnect. I know I shouldn’t say mean things. Even if a person really, truly deserves to hear the mean things.

So I don’t want to be mean for my own mental health, but I don’t feel past meanness was unwarranted, necessarily.

Isn't this some sort of sociopathic trait? Interesting that you recognize your toxicity but don't care?

It’s neither toxic nor sociopathic. It’s EXHAUSTING having to deal with people like *you* all day - being mean to you on the internet helps me not be mean to you to your face. Which you would clearly deserve.

The irony of this post in this thread is hilarious.

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Anonymous wrote:East coasters…

Is it not like this everywhere else? (I've never left the east coast) 😔

No. Californians do not even understand sarcasm

Seriously? Why not?
Are they nice or rude though?

I grew up in CA and I'm very sarcastic. People in the city I grew up in were a lot nicer than people in the DC area though.

It's the weather.

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Anonymous wrote:East coasters…

Is it not like this everywhere else? (I've never left the east coast) 😔

No. Californians do not even understand sarcasm

Seriously? Why not?
Are they nice or rude though?

It's not part of West Coast culture. They are nice for the most part.

Does anyone know what's wrong with east coast culture then?

Besides having a full grasp of the human experience?

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Anonymous wrote:East coasters…

Is it not like this everywhere else? (I've never left the east coast) 😔

No. Californians do not even understand sarcasm

Seriously? Why not?
Are they nice or rude though?

It's not part of West Coast culture. They are nice for the most part.

Does anyone know what's wrong with east coast culture then?

Anonymous wrote:I remember when I first found DCUM and was stunned at how tough a crowd it was. I posted an issue and many pointed a finger back at me (which seems to be typical). It doesn't phase me now- I just move past the ugly comments and look for the constructive info.

It's getting pretty unbearable at this point for me. The people are rude and insane.I don't want to subject myself to the horrific nastiness of a great majority of the posters. The helpful posts are becoming few and far between as fewer nice people like myself are spending much less time on here. They're ruining it for the whole.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s fun

I’ve had times in my life when I thought being mean was fun. Looking back, these were some of the least joyful, least fulfilled, and most insecure moments I experienced. I always regretted my meanness, too — and life is so short.

I agree with all of this except the regret.

I don't think regret is particularly helpful, but I do think regret is warranted when someone is intentionally mean and realize later that the mean-ness was unwarranted.

There’s the disconnect. I know I shouldn’t say mean things. Even if a person really, truly deserves to hear the mean things.

So I don’t want to be mean for my own mental health, but I don’t feel past meanness was unwarranted, necessarily.

Isn't this some sort of sociopathic trait? Interesting that you recognize your toxicity but don't care?

It’s neither toxic nor sociopathic. It’s EXHAUSTING having to deal with people like *you* all day - being mean to you on the internet helps me not be mean to you to your face. Which you would clearly deserve.

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Anonymous wrote:East coasters…

Is it not like this everywhere else? (I've never left the east coast) 😔

No. Californians do not even understand sarcasm

Seriously? Why not?
Are they nice or rude though?

It's not part of West Coast culture. They are nice for the most part.

I remember when I first found DCUM and was stunned at how tough a crowd it was. I posted an issue and many pointed a finger back at me (which seems to be typical). It doesn't phase me now- I just move past the ugly comments and look for the constructive info.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s fun

I’ve had times in my life when I thought being mean was fun. Looking back, these were some of the least joyful, least fulfilled, and most insecure moments I experienced. I always regretted my meanness, too — and life is so short.

I agree with all of this except the regret.

I don't think regret is particularly helpful, but I do think regret is warranted when someone is intentionally mean and realize later that the mean-ness was unwarranted.

There’s the disconnect. I know I shouldn’t say mean things. Even if a person really, truly deserves to hear the mean things.

So I don’t want to be mean for my own mental health, but I don’t feel past meanness was unwarranted, necessarily.

Isn't this some sort of sociopathic trait? Interesting that you recognize your toxicity but don't care?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:East coasters…

Is it not like this everywhere else? (I've never left the east coast) 😔

No. Californians do not even understand sarcasm

Seriously? Why not?
Are they nice or rude though?

I grew up in CA and I'm very sarcastic. People in the city I grew up in were a lot nicer than people in the DC area though.