Many of them get overwhelmed with the idea of having a bad marriage or messing up kids, often based in their life experiences or observations of bad marriage and divorces.

We had few in our family and they just ended up spending money on nieces and nephews and dealing with problems of siblings. One eventually had some sort of semi arranged marriage at 45 with a spinster but it didn't work out.

I'm happy for the ones who are happy and pulling for the ones who aren't, same as with my married friends. - from other thread