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Anonymous wrote:Does he have at least $100m? If so, is it tied up in trusts, promised to other people in his MSA, and is he going to make you sign a prenup? It's probably a terrible idea, but if he's uber rich and generous, maybe some people on here could see the appeal.

I would be concerned about this woman’s morals and ethics as she potentially sacrifices her kids healthy and happy childhood and adulthood for money.

Sure, but if he's Bruce Willis rich, at least she could afford to care for him in their second home when he becomes sick and dangerous to their kids; if he's only mid-level lawyer rich, and he has kids from a previous marriage with child support obligations, college obligations, and other obligations from his divorce, then her and her children's life will be much worse than Emma's life. I wouldn't trade places with Emma, but at least she's not also broke. Imagine having to work full time to cover your husband's medical costs and raise your teenagers in the same house as their father with dementia. That would be miserable.

I actually know this exact scenario. My own marriage to an 11 years older exH was miserable socially. He didn’t want to travel as family, most our holidays were spent with his old friends, they all resented me and after divorce none of former couple friends stayed in my social network so I had to rebuild it anew

I'm sorry. At least you got out and you get a fresh start. I hope you find friends your age to enjoy the rest of your life with!

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Anonymous wrote:Does he have at least $100m? If so, is it tied up in trusts, promised to other people in his MSA, and is he going to make you sign a prenup? It's probably a terrible idea, but if he's uber rich and generous, maybe some people on here could see the appeal.

I would be concerned about this woman’s morals and ethics as she potentially sacrifices her kids healthy and happy childhood and adulthood for money.

Sure, but if he's Bruce Willis rich, at least she could afford to care for him in their second home when he becomes sick and dangerous to their kids; if he's only mid-level lawyer rich, and he has kids from a previous marriage with child support obligations, college obligations, and other obligations from his divorce, then her and her children's life will be much worse than Emma's life. I wouldn't trade places with Emma, but at least she's not also broke. Imagine having to work full time to cover your husband's medical costs and raise your teenagers in the same house as their father with dementia. That would be miserable.

I actually know this exact scenario. My own marriage to an 11 years older exH was miserable socially. He didn’t want to travel as family, most our holidays were spent with his old friends, they all resented me and after divorce none of former couple friends stayed in my social network so I had to rebuild it anew

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Anonymous wrote:Does he have at least $100m? If so, is it tied up in trusts, promised to other people in his MSA, and is he going to make you sign a prenup? It's probably a terrible idea, but if he's uber rich and generous, maybe some people on here could see the appeal.

I would be concerned about this woman’s morals and ethics as she potentially sacrifices her kids healthy and happy childhood and adulthood for money.

Sure, but if he's Bruce Willis rich, at least she could afford to care for him in their second home when he becomes sick and dangerous to their kids; if he's only mid-level lawyer rich, and he has kids from a previous marriage with child support obligations, college obligations, and other obligations from his divorce, then her and her children's life will be much worse than Emma's life. I wouldn't trade places with Emma, but at least she's not also broke. Imagine having to work full time to cover your husband's medical costs and raise your teenagers in the same house as their father with dementia. That would be miserable.

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Anonymous wrote:Does he have at least $100m? If so, is it tied up in trusts, promised to other people in his MSA, and is he going to make you sign a prenup? It's probably a terrible idea, but if he's uber rich and generous, maybe some people on here could see the appeal.

I would be concerned about this woman’s morals and ethics as she potentially sacrifices her kids healthy and happy childhood and adulthood for money.

Anonymous wrote:OP, he will be nearly 70 when your kid graduates from college. That's unfair to the kid.

DH is 62; DS is 21. DH is starting to not be able to keep up with DS. Wasn't a problem in his early 50s, but now it's really hitting him. Not so much of an issue now that DS is an adult and can do active things with his friends, but when your kid is 12, the dad will be 60. I'm sorry, but that's grandpa age for a 12 yr old.

Talk to him about your fears and concerns and see how he reacts and how you connect with him.

Anonymous wrote:Does he have at least $100m? If so, is it tied up in trusts, promised to other people in his MSA, and is he going to make you sign a prenup? It's probably a terrible idea, but if he's uber rich and generous, maybe some people on here could see the appeal.

Anonymous wrote:Right now it may seem ok, but men tend to start to really age around 60, and you will be around 40 with a 60 year old DH. Just wouldn't think either of you would have much in common unless it's very specific hobbies.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man in my late 50s. I dated a woman more than 20 years younger. It was great for both of us. The emotional connection was genuine and intense. The sex was amazing. Unfortunately my friends thought I was ridiculous and my kids didn't even want to meet her. We broke up but still have coffee once in a while. Ll Her next man was even older. She's a smart and attractive professional. She's just attracted to older men.

Now I'm with another smart and attractive professional who is in her 40s. Our relationship is even better. My family and friends like her despite the 15 year age gap. Meeting her and seeing us together made them believers. She says the age gap will eventually be a problem but it's not a big problem now.

I've also been in relationships with women my age or older than I am.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, don't listen to naysayers here and see how you feel about everything. Talk to him about your fears and concerns and see how he reacts and how you connect with him.

of course he's gonna say, "Don't worry". duh People can't fathom growing old.

-signed a 56 yr old married to a 62 yr old

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't a first child.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 27 and a PhD student, and my boyfriend is a 46 year old lawyer. I really love him, we have an amazing relationship - we communicate well, have similar goals, compliment one another and enjoy being together. That said, sometimes I worry about our age difference and what it might mean for us long term.

I’d love to hear the perspectives of people who’ve been in or are in relationship like this

Say you get married and he knocks you up a couple of times and you push out your sprogs when you are like 32 and 35. He'll be like 61 and 64. Which means the odds of him becoming worm food before your child reaches the age you are now are very high.