Anonymous
Post 12/18/2025 09:33     Subject: Re:Feeling so defeated after deferral. This is a good year for ED.
Anonymous wrote:I am appreciating this thread- DC has been deferred 3 in a row including from a “safety.” It’s going to be a long few months and a lot of chocolate needed!


I feel ya. We are in the top of the demo cliff. Unlucky bastards to be born into this school year.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2025 09:32     Subject: Re:Feeling so defeated after deferral. This is a good year for ED.
Anonymous wrote:I drank two bottles of wine, ate a family size bag of Skinny Pop and 3/4 container dark chocolate raisins.

Fk u school


Ugh. That was rough on my stomach. Not feeling so great this morning 😂.

It’s a new day, beatches! Time to get kid’s @ss up to start some new applications.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2025 09:30     Subject: Re:Feeling so defeated after deferral. This is a good year for ED.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I drank two bottles of wine, ate a family size bag of Skinny Pop and 3/4 container dark chocolate raisins.

Fk u school


If you’re this upset, you’re way too invested.


No. Just wanted it to all be over. It was such a PIA with my older one, the RD route all of spring semester.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2025 09:25     Subject: Re:Feeling so defeated after deferral. This is a good year for ED.
I am appreciating this thread- DC has been deferred 3 in a row including from a “safety.” It’s going to be a long few months and a lot of chocolate needed!
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2025 09:08     Subject: Re:Feeling so defeated after deferral. This is a good year for ED.
Anonymous wrote:I drank two bottles of wine, ate a family size bag of Skinny Pop and 3/4 container dark chocolate raisins.

Fk u school


Which one would that school be??
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2025 05:53     Subject: Feeling so defeated after deferral. This is a good year for ED.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Last year- my kid rejected ED. Deferred ED2. Deferred at 2 of his top EA schools. Got into great schools in RD and ended up with 2 amazing final options- is thriving at one of those (ED2 deferral school). It’s a slog but stick with it!


My kid was deferred from two schools this week and we are questioning the kid's everything now (choice of major, essays, etc.). Did your child revamp their approach at all between the deferrals and RD?



Mine did and was quite successful.


Same thing happened to my kid at two EA schools, but they didn’t really revamp their approach. The EA schools (one of which was a competitive state flagship) had different institutional priorities than the RD schools. They ended up with some good choices in the RD round.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2025 02:38     Subject: Re:Feeling so defeated after deferral. This is a good year for ED.
Anonymous wrote:I drank two bottles of wine, ate a family size bag of Skinny Pop and 3/4 container dark chocolate raisins.

Fk u school


I for one appreciate the honesty, and humor
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2025 02:01     Subject: Re:Feeling so defeated after deferral. This is a good year for ED.
Anonymous wrote:I drank two bottles of wine, ate a family size bag of Skinny Pop and 3/4 container dark chocolate raisins.

Fk u school


If you’re this upset, you’re way too invested.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2025 01:51     Subject: Feeling so defeated after deferral. This is a good year for ED.
Anonymous wrote:After an ED1 deferral at T10, DC took a hard look at the application. Looked critically for major alignment and thought about how the application would compare to peers.

Pivoted a small bit on a major at certain selective schools (more interdisciplinary, less pure STEM) and had much, much better luck. In to 3 T20s that cycle in RD (was rejected from the ED1 in RD) - but all of those applications had stronger narrative coherence and strategy.

While the main personal essay wasn't redone (it prob should have been!), all of the supp essays were brand new, tighter, and polished by an editor. Same for activities description, honors/awards, Additional Info, and even the little Future Plans section.

At Ivy. Doing well as a sophomore.
It works out - put in the work over the next 2-2.5 weeks!!! Get outside help if you can't help.


My DC was accepted to Duke in RD and listed "undecided" as first choice major. Also accepted to HYPSM. No one knows why a kid is accepted at one school and rejected at another of similar selectivity.

What does "polished by an editor" mean?
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2025 00:18     Subject: Feeling so defeated after deferral. This is a good year for ED.
Anonymous wrote:After an ED1 deferral at T10, DC took a hard look at the application. Looked critically for major alignment and thought about how the application would compare to peers.

Pivoted a small bit on a major at certain selective schools (more interdisciplinary, less pure STEM) and had much, much better luck. In to 3 T20s that cycle in RD (was rejected from the ED1 in RD) - but all of those applications had stronger narrative coherence and strategy.

While the main personal essay wasn't redone (it prob should have been!), all of the supp essays were brand new, tighter, and polished by an editor. Same for activities description, honors/awards, Additional Info, and even the little Future Plans section.

At Ivy. Doing well as a sophomore.
It works out - put in the work over the next 2-2.5 weeks!!! Get outside help if you can't help.


+1
This is the strategy.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2025 00:05     Subject: Re:Feeling so defeated after deferral. This is a good year for ED.
I drank two bottles of wine, ate a family size bag of Skinny Pop and 3/4 container dark chocolate raisins.

Fk u school
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2025 00:04     Subject: Re:Feeling so defeated after deferral. This is a good year for ED.
Anonymous wrote:Ugh.

It’s purgatory.

We went through it with our first and now have to go through it with our second.

It was such a long drawn out process in 2024….all the way to Mid-May with WLs.

Arghhhhhhhhhh



Mthr fkkkkr, yes! Ugh. Instead of relaxing and traveling next 2 weeks, app workshop…..and having to worry for 4 more months.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2025 23:52     Subject: Feeling so defeated after deferral. This is a good year for ED.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The people who are complaining about cheaters - your kids are probably cheating too FYI.


This is the kind of response one would expect from a parent who knows their kid is a cheater. Own it. There are many kids who do not cheat and they hate the cheaters and all know who they are.


This is true. Just like the kids know all kinds of other things the the teachers and administrators don’t know or pretend not to know.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2025 23:50     Subject: Feeling so defeated after deferral. This is a good year for ED.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is really sad. Nobody taking the high road. Everybody saying that the process was unfair and favored a bunch of cheaters or the other agenda. You’re all pathetic.



What's unfair is your response to other posters. Gratuitous cheating is real in many schools right now. If you don't have cheating at your DC's school, or your DC is not affected by it, you are lucky. If you do, and it helps you to just ignore it, that's fine too. No one here claimed that all kids are cheaters and the whole process is unfair. Parts of it are, though, and people are allowed to feel bad when their kids are undermined. Denying reality and judging others who are dealing with it is hardly taking the high road.


+1

I'm one of those PPs. I've never complained that the process is unfair.

I just called out the outcome of a known cheater at our (non DC-area) school.

That's a real-life example of one, not an indictment of the process.


Again, I ask, if the cheating is “known” and “documented,” how has the cheater escaped any consequence? Seems like an issue with your high school.


Yes. Of course it is.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2025 22:14     Subject: Feeling so defeated after deferral. This is a good year for ED.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The people who are complaining about cheaters - your kids are probably cheating too FYI.


This is the kind of response one would expect from a parent who knows their kid is a cheater. Own it. There are many kids who do not cheat and they hate the cheaters and all know who they are.


+1