Anonymous wrote:You are a guest at a wedding. Unless there are religious reasons, or the bride or groom are AA members, there should be no charge to guests for anything. Full stop.

Ending a sentence with “full stop” is rude, obnoxious and ineffective. Google it. There are Reddits on the subject. Use words.

Anonymous wrote:Aren't there some Boston people on this board? I have been to a number of cash bar weddings there.

+1. The only cash bar wedding I have ever attended was in a suburb of Boston.

Anonymous wrote:Yes.

Not a big deal.

I’d imagine the people who are “upset” about it wanted to pounded down 3-8 drinks that night for free. Now that’s tacky at a wedding.

Lol "pounded" and this grammar from this judgey person. As if 3 drinks over multiple hours is the same as 8!

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been to one and it surprised me a little but it was a young couple and they prioritized food. They had champagne and wine at the table but everything else was a cash bar.

I’m a little surprised by the responses on here calling it tacky. Everyone with good manners know you adjust to whatever situation you are presented with in social settings with grace. It’s tacky to call it tacky.

I've been to many weddings (one as the groom, several as a groomsman and others as a guest). Obviously every wedding has its own budget. But from a guest's perspective you're paying to travel to the wedding, paying to stay at a hotel and contributing a gift. Paying for drinks just feels like being nickel-and-dimed. To give an example in the opposite direction: At one wedding I attended the bride and groom went to the hotel they'd booked and provided goodie bags of snacks for every room in their block. These were greatly appreciated by those arriving hungry after a long day of travel. Sometimes the little things matter.

I’ve been to one and it surprised me a little but it was a young couple and they prioritized food. They had champagne and wine at the table but everything else was a cash bar.

I’m a little surprised by the responses on here calling it tacky. Everyone with good manners know you adjust to whatever situation you are presented with in social settings with grace. It’s tacky to call it tacky.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I’m the outlier - I don’t mind a dry wedding at all. I’d rather attend a dry wedding than one with a cash bar.

I agree. I've attended dry weddings before and it was fine. Go out ahead of time and have a few drinks if you must. But if you can't go a few hours without alcohol, that's another issue.

Ok, grandma

OK, alkie.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually have never attended one. I have attended a wine and beer only wedding and even a dry wedding (awful. It was punch in the church basement).

You need alcohol to enjoy yourself?

Sadly, most people need alcohol to socialize. They say it just makes things "more fun" but the truth is more complicated

I don't drink much but I don't like the idea of people having to deal with getting out their wallets etc plus having to pay for drinks creates longer lines

Cash bar at an event is one step above BYOB.
Not even a corporate Xmas party would do either.

Anonymous wrote:Only when it’s at some uber expensive hotel or location and each drink is $20.

I was shocked.

Then again it was a second wedding, each had two kids and the new wife was unemployed at that moment and so was the dude’s ex-wife.

Yikes. Sounds stressful.

A lot of cultures don’t drink at all. I guess OP would be extremely offended at those weddings.

It is way better than the dry weddings I have attended in church basements for super religious folks.

Clearly not as good as the free drinks version, but I will take it.

Only when it’s at some uber expensive hotel or location and each drink is $20.

I was shocked.

Then again it was a second wedding, each had two kids and the wife was unemployed at that moment and so was the dude’s ex-wife.

Yes.

Not a big deal.

I’d imagine the people who are “upset” about it wanted to pounded down 3-8 drinks that night for free. Now that’s tacky at a wedding.

Maybe wine and beer no charge but cash bar for other cocktails, liquor?