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Anonymous wrote:OP here. No, we NEVER gave her permission to use our credit card. We weren't even aware that she knew the CC number until now, but apparently she wrote down my CC number when she was back home from winter break last year without me noticing. See how much of a sneaky, entitled person she is?

Re: college. She was an English major at a SLAC known for entitled, whiny students (similar to Oberlin/Wesleyan). She started off as pre-med/Bio at an HYPS school, but she left the school after her freshman year due to "mental health issues" (which I now realize are just depression and loneliness due to how insufferable she is to be around). She took 1 year off of college back in 2021 and then transferred to this progressive SLAC (similar in rankings/political reputation to an Oberlin/Vassar type school) because she wanted to "pursue her creative ambitions."

She lives with a college friend in a different part of the country, and pays $600/month in rent. She Venmo'd the person $3k from MY bank account (the audacity!) because she wanted to "front-load" rent for January-May. Insane.

She wants to use the extra $1k for Delta plane tickets to visit her FRIEND's FAMILY (not us, but her roommate's parents!) over winter break because "she never wants to see us again." This is despite the fact that she's 23 and on our health insurance and phone plan. Insane.

You're a jerk, OP.

No I'm not. Have you seen Oberlin students these days?

Anonymous wrote:A criminal record would mean no ability to get a job or place to live going forward. She’d be at a high risk for homelessness and all that comes with. If she’s lucky, a shelter would eventually help her find transitional housing, or job support, but it would be pretty bleak.

On the other hand, cancelling the credit card is a consequence that won’t tank her life permanently. She’ll have to figure things out, but she won’t have a criminal record.

Your posts are blood-curdling, but maybe your daughter’s would be too. There’s nothing good in your family dynamic.

That’s just the reality.

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Guys, no need to respond. This is a troll. They started another thread on the same subject.

I am not a troll. I started another thread because this one was getting one-sided opinions (and not a lot of engagement). I'm fine with the other thread being deleted.

OP - Most people cannot walk on your shoes and understand you... Trust me, I know.

We have a son who is in College right now and he's terrible managing money. I had to change my credit card 3 times already, because he gets a hold of it and swipes it like it's free money.
This has been going on for years and still doesn't learn. We have stop giving him things as a consequence so he gets jobs but then gets fired (never his fault).

Don't get me wrong, he's a sweet, charming boy, gets decent grades but always has his own agenda... It's been YEARS of ups and downs since he was 13.

At this point, we just want for him to get a degree and finish College....Then after that, we're DONE. Done, Done.

He's gone to therapy (because we made him/not because he though he needed it) but he says is boring and pointless. He has switched therapist 3 times because he found them inept. One time laughing he told me he lies to the therapist and they believe him... He says they are "gullible".

We've had MANY conversations and expectations but he just hates rules. I've SO MANY sleepless nights and anxiety thinking about him...

I think you and your daughter need a break from each other.... A break that might turn into years. No one needs a toxic family member in their lives whether is your mom or your daughter...

PS: I would have not gone to the police though. I would have simply change all my credit cards (again).


You all just need time apart to heal...

But OP has not described any of the stuff you're going through with your son. Apparently this is the first time her child has ever stolen from her. Not all theft comes from sociopathic tendencies. You also speak of your son in balanced terms, which OP does not. OP really seems like the problem here, whereas you seem to have struggled with someone who doesn't have a moral compass.

OP here. That's absurd. All theft is sociopathic.

Anonymous wrote:It's always validating when OPs come back to confirm my initial assessment, which is that OP is a horrible person and a horrible parent and hates her child.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. No, we NEVER gave her permission to use our credit card. We weren't even aware that she knew the CC number until now, but apparently she wrote down my CC number when she was back home from winter break last year without me noticing. See how much of a sneaky, entitled person she is?

Re: college. She was an English major at a SLAC known for entitled, whiny students (similar to Oberlin/Wesleyan). She started off as pre-med/Bio at an HYPS school, but she left the school after her freshman year due to "mental health issues" (which I now realize are just depression and loneliness due to how insufferable she is to be around). She took 1 year off of college back in 2021 and then transferred to this progressive SLAC (similar in rankings/political reputation to an Oberlin/Vassar type school) because she wanted to "pursue her creative ambitions."

She lives with a college friend in a different part of the country, and pays $600/month in rent. She Venmo'd the person $3k from MY bank account (the audacity!) because she wanted to "front-load" rent for January-May. Insane.

She wants to use the extra $1k for Delta plane tickets to visit her FRIEND's FAMILY (not us, but her roommate's parents!) over winter break because "she never wants to see us again." This is despite the fact that she's 23 and on our health insurance and phone plan. Insane.

You're a jerk, OP.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No, we NEVER gave her permission to use our credit card. We weren't even aware that she knew the CC number until now, but apparently she wrote down my CC number when she was back home from winter break last year without me noticing. See how much of a sneaky, entitled person she is?

Re: college. She was an English major at a SLAC known for entitled, whiny students (similar to Oberlin/Wesleyan). She started off as pre-med/Bio at an HYPS school, but she left the school after her freshman year due to "mental health issues" (which I now realize are just depression and loneliness due to how insufferable she is to be around). She took 1 year off of college back in 2021 and then transferred to this progressive SLAC (similar in rankings/political reputation to an Oberlin/Vassar type school) because she wanted to "pursue her creative ambitions."

She lives with a college friend in a different part of the country, and pays $600/month in rent. She Venmo'd the person $3k from MY bank account (the audacity!) because she wanted to "front-load" rent for January-May. Insane.

She wants to use the extra $1k for Delta plane tickets to visit her FRIEND's FAMILY (not us, but her roommate's parents!) over winter break because "she never wants to see us again." This is despite the fact that she's 23 and on our health insurance and phone plan. Insane.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No, we NEVER gave her permission to use our credit card. We weren't even aware that she knew the CC number until now, but apparently she wrote down my CC number when she was back home from winter break last year without me noticing. See how much of a sneaky, entitled person she is?

Re: college. She was an English major at a SLAC known for entitled, whiny students (similar to Oberlin/Wesleyan). She started off as pre-med/Bio at an HYPS school, but she left the school after her freshman year due to "mental health issues" (which I now realize are just depression and loneliness due to how insufferable she is to be around). She took 1 year off of college back in 2021 and then transferred to this progressive SLAC (similar in rankings/political reputation to an Oberlin/Vassar type school) because she wanted to "pursue her creative ambitions."

She lives with a college friend in a different part of the country, and pays $600/month in rent. She Venmo'd the person $3k from MY bank account (the audacity!) because she wanted to "front-load" rent for January-May. Insane.

She wants to use the extra $1k for Delta plane tickets to visit her FRIEND's FAMILY (not us, but her roommate's parents!) over winter break because "she never wants to see us again." This is despite the fact that she's 23 and on our health insurance and phone plan. Insane.

Anonymous wrote:which personality disorder do you have, op?