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Anonymous wrote:May be OP is only trying to mimic something which opens doors.

As a society we need to stop giving rich, goodlooking and privileged undue influence and opportunities. None of these are acquired skills, just good luck.

OP - yes I know wealthy people come in all shapes and colors and sizes. But I am in a new position which puts me in contact with people across the spectrum. I need to look normal and not flashy for the regular folks but want to look decent enough for the uber-wealthy. I don’t have endless money to maintain myself so want to prioritize what is most important. I am “enough” (attractive, thin, educated) of some of these things but want to take it to the next level looks-wise.

If they are coming to you through your work (let's say it's donor relations, or something like that), they mostly just care that you do your job well, meaning you are knowledgeable and capable. They will know that you are not one of them, anyway. There is no need to blend in with them, but rather to be really good at the job that brings you in contact with them and be not offensive. Same as with the "regular folks."

This is the only answer required.

Just posted and I know they’re men but - if you didn’t tell me otherwise I’d assume Bernie Sanders and SupCt Justice David Souter were rich. Skinny old New Englanders who are very cause-driven or who have old houses where their libraries stress the foundation because of the number of books (Souter) give off that vibe. Even though neither was rich and Bernie grew up MC or less in old Brooklyn.

There are women old and young who give this off, but I can’t think of a good one. The younger influencers don’t have it even if they are rich.

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Anonymous wrote:The only real and consistent signifier is confidence that you belong in every room. Trying to mimic this with the right purse brand is just not going to get you anywhere

I think it is so much more subtle than that. There are plenty of confident people that no one would mistake for wealthy.

Of course it’s more subtle than that, but it’s never clothes/appearance

I am personally acquainted with 3 billionaire heiresses of varying backgrounds and none of them put any particular effort into their daily appearance beyond being healthy and in good shape

Why would they, they don’t need to. It adds nothing to their life

Exactly, it adds nothing for them. The obsession with careful grooming and the "quiet luxury" look is actually for the middle and upper middle class corporate drones where it adds something.

Some wealthy people care, though. I think Lauren Santo Domingo is the icon for wealthy women who care about beauty and fashion - she's gorgeous, has impeccable taste, and owns a room.

She's not old money. Her dad was from a poor, lower-class family and is self-made.

True, but she does come from some money, and then she married into a LOT of money. And she's a style icon. She's certainly well regarded among very rich women.

She and her husband are a bit of a mess.

Yes. I find the praise for her ignorant. First, she has a mean rep in NYC. Second, she’s in fashion, so she’s not representative of wealthy women, some of whom don’t enjoy fashion at all. Third, her husbands family is allegedly sniff sniff into illegal activities both in Colombia and everywhere else. Fourth, for anyone truly not buying this, LSD gave an infamous Into the Gloss interview where she casually said she couldn’t remember when she last dried her own hair. The mockery of that was interesting.

TL; DR she’s skinny and rich but has a stank rep and isn’t impressing anyone.

The person I’d love to read about is PP’s MIL with her MC status and fashion collection over the past 50 years!

Everyone will know you are faking OP. Sorry.

OP, you have been put in this new position because whoever did that already thinks you will succeed. Just be yourself and you will do great! Congrats!

Just try to look clean, respectable, and have a little individual style. My life brings me into the orbit of super rich people and they would find me play acting as them ridiculous. They understand that other people aren’t all rich. They themselves weren’t always.

Anonymous wrote:Even AI thinks every rich women has special style, taste, poise and confidence. This is beyond sad

That’s because AI doesn’t come up with novel thoughts. It conglomerates all of our ideas and feeds them back to us.

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Anonymous wrote:May be OP is only trying to mimic something which opens doors.

As a society we need to stop giving rich, goodlooking and privileged undue influence and opportunities. None of these are acquired skills, just good luck.

OP - yes I know wealthy people come in all shapes and colors and sizes. But I am in a new position which puts me in contact with people across the spectrum. I need to look normal and not flashy for the regular folks but want to look decent enough for the uber-wealthy. I don’t have endless money to maintain myself so want to prioritize what is most important. I am “enough” (attractive, thin, educated) of some of these things but want to take it to the next level looks-wise.

You are much better off being yourself instead of contorting your appearance to fit some antiquated stereotypes.

You’re not wealthy, they know you’re not wealthy, why pretend?

My mother spends almost no time on hair makeup or clothes and wouldn’t dream of any cosmetic procedures. She wears simple inexpensive yet event appropriate clothing and stays in shape but not excessively so and is not particularly attractive. She also has organically befriended many of the wealthiest people in her town due to their shared interests. It probably helps that she genuinely doesn’t care about their money or social standing as these people are constantly approached by people who want things from them.

Healthy diet, exercise (pilates reformer/yoga/barre/walks), water over alcohol, and a stress free life are helpful.