True connections are made long before college - during K-12 private school. It's a large part of why people pay $$$ for private school. connections are made long before college.

Kid at yale - says the NYC private school kids seem to really seem to know each other - or they have one degree of separation which is enough to connect everyone. This continues so far into sophomore year. That crowd, according to her, seems a world apart from other private school kids from DCUM-land.

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This is a large part of why people pay $$$ for private school. connections are made long before college.

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Anonymous wrote:So the supposed value of attending an elite private school for access to the 'right' network—whether for career or marriage—doesn’t necessarily benefit middle-class families.

For a middle class family, the real "connections" would be derived by going to an elite K-8 or K-12. Kids in kindergarten don't care about or see wealth and many close friendships and genuine relationships are formed during those years. They start becoming aware of who has what in later middle/early high school.

But in college, everyone is friendly but the truly rich migrate to other truly rich kids who can keep up with their lifestyle.

Anonymous wrote:For example, do wealthy students often stick together — they tend to hang out on luxury private islands and build their own exclusive networks?

It's not a hard rule obviously. But those that can afford expensive clothes, have traveled extensively, can meet up in Europe for spring break, have common experience of going to the best Day schools or boarding schools across the country, have the budget to attend expensive concerts and eat out frequently, tend to gravitate to each other.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, but if all your friends are in the broad middle class you might not notice. The categories are very large. You're probably not going to socialize with the kid who has access to a private jet and helicopters. That person will include whoever their roommates are, perhaps, but most of their circle will also be composed of rich kids who understand what that life is like.

Watch the FBOs at Nashville, Ithaca, Durham, Palwaukee (north of Evanston), South Bend, and Hanover for parents' weekend or big game weekends.
That's how you know what that school is "really" like.

What's an FBO??

Private airport for Netjets and private planes.

Is Evanston for Northwestern and UChicago? Or just Northwestern? Seems like lots of private school/boarding at both?

ime, lots of private school kids at both.

Anonymous wrote:For example, do wealthy students often stick together — they tend to hang out on luxury private islands and build their own exclusive networks?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes and by race or nationality. Berkeley in particular is very segregated among the student groups despite its brand ethos of diversity and inclusion.

That is racial and ethnic segregation, similar but different.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, but if all your friends are in the broad middle class you might not notice. The categories are very large. You're probably not going to socialize with the kid who has access to a private jet and helicopters. That person will include whoever their roommates are, perhaps, but most of their circle will also be composed of rich kids who understand what that life is like.

Watch the FBOs at Nashville, Ithaca, Durham, Palwaukee (north of Evanston), South Bend, and Hanover for parents' weekend or big game weekends.
That's how you know what that school is "really" like.

What's an FBO??

Private airport for Netjets and private planes.

Is Evanston for Northwestern and UChicago? Or just Northwestern? Seems like lots of private school/boarding at both?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, but if all your friends are in the broad middle class you might not notice. The categories are very large. You're probably not going to socialize with the kid who has access to a private jet and helicopters. That person will include whoever their roommates are, perhaps, but most of their circle will also be composed of rich kids who understand what that life is like.

Watch the FBOs at Nashville, Ithaca, Durham, Palwaukee (north of Evanston), South Bend, and Hanover for parents' weekend or big game weekends.
That's how you know what that school is "really" like.

What's an FBO??

Private airport for Netjets and private planes.

FBO is not a private airport. It is like a terminal for private jets and can be at a regular airport or a general aviation (private planes) airport. Probably fancy FBO at Nashville but I don't think the FBO would look like much at Ithaca.

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Anonymous wrote:My DC went to a school where the in state and OOS kids tended to be somewhat segregated. There was also some income segregation because of living situations after freshman year in the dorms. My DC lived in one of the more expensive apartment buildings so it ended up being with wealthier friends (who also all happened to be OOS kids). There wasn't as much of a private/public school thing though.

Michigan?

I was actually wondering the same thing.

Anonymous wrote:If half the school is middle class, why don’t middle class students want to connect with other people who are middle class? This whole conundrum is manufactured. You can find your people. Half the school is made up of them.

Sure you’re not going to be hanging out with the private school/ boarding school kids. Why did you think you would be?

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Anonymous wrote:My DC went to a school where the in state and OOS kids tended to be somewhat segregated. There was also some income segregation because of living situations after freshman year in the dorms. My DC lived in one of the more expensive apartment buildings so it ended up being with wealthier friends (who also all happened to be OOS kids). There wasn't as much of a private/public school thing though.

I feel like that might happen next year with my freshman. I know they want to be in the nice apartments near the main campus, but I don't know how that will shake out financially.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, but if all your friends are in the broad middle class you might not notice. The categories are very large. You're probably not going to socialize with the kid who has access to a private jet and helicopters. That person will include whoever their roommates are, perhaps, but most of their circle will also be composed of rich kids who understand what that life is like.

Watch the FBOs at Nashville, Ithaca, Durham, Palwaukee (north of Evanston), South Bend, and Hanover for parents' weekend or big game weekends.
That's how you know what that school is "really" like.

What's an FBO??

Private airport for Netjets and private planes.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, but if all your friends are in the broad middle class you might not notice. The categories are very large. You're probably not going to socialize with the kid who has access to a private jet and helicopters. That person will include whoever their roommates are, perhaps, but most of their circle will also be composed of rich kids who understand what that life is like.

Watch the FBOs at Nashville, Ithaca, Durham, Palwaukee (north of Evanston), South Bend, and Hanover for parents' weekend or big game weekends.
That's how you know what that school is "really" like.

What's an FBO??