Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:50     Subject: AITA? Coworker meal train
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t. My rule is that I don’t do anything for others that’s not coming from a place of joy. This wouldn’t be joyful for me.

Plus, personally, I stopped putting in effort when it comes to MAGA family/friends and it’s really shown me how one sided those relationships were. It was always me offering to watch their kids, asking them to hang out, showing an interest in their life, etc. They really didn’t have much to offer besides complaining.


Says the complainer.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:50     Subject: AITA? Coworker meal train
Anonymous wrote:Does anyone find it odd or troubling that lower paid workers didn't get anything from the company do gooders? The meal train depot must be popular or well connected.


I thought OP said somewhere that this originally started as a way of helping the lower paid colleagues and she resents it being used for these people as well.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:50     Subject: AITA? Coworker meal train
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t. My rule is that I don’t do anything for others that’s not coming from a place of joy. This wouldn’t be joyful for me.

Plus, personally, I stopped putting in effort when it comes to MAGA family/friends and it’s really shown me how one sided those relationships were. It was always me offering to watch their kids, asking them to hang out, showing an interest in their life, etc. They really didn’t have much to offer besides complaining.

No, it has to do with them being MAGA and we know it. You don’t care about other unless they agree with you. Simple as that.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:47     Subject: AITA? Coworker meal train
I wouldn’t. My rule is that I don’t do anything for others that’s not coming from a place of joy. This wouldn’t be joyful for me.

Plus, personally, I stopped putting in effort when it comes to MAGA family/friends and it’s really shown me how one sided those relationships were. It was always me offering to watch their kids, asking them to hang out, showing an interest in their life, etc. They really didn’t have much to offer besides complaining.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:34     Subject: AITA? Coworker meal train
Anonymous wrote:Does anyone find it odd or troubling that lower paid workers didn't get anything from the company do gooders? The meal train depot must be popular or well connected.


I work in a private school. We sincerely attempt to take care of all members of our community, regardless of role.

The idea is to support all the people around us. Their role, politics, beliefs… none of that factors into our decision to help out. Humans are humans, and we all need support.

This is the best place I’ve ever worked.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:29     Subject: AITA? Coworker meal train
Does anyone find it odd or troubling that lower paid workers didn't get anything from the company do gooders? The meal train depot must be popular or well connected.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:25     Subject: Re:AITA? Coworker meal train
Anonymous wrote:Did the smoked also cause YOU to have cancer? Did the motorcyclist crash into YOU? Because the pro-Trump “pro-life” is all about affecting everyone in the country by their choices.

You can talk to your state rep about whatever prolife issue you have. The pro trump prolife people did not do anything or cause any effect of what your complaint is.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:20     Subject: Re:AITA? Coworker meal train
Anonymous wrote:Did the smoked also cause YOU to have cancer? Did the motorcyclist crash into YOU? Because the pro-Trump “pro-life” is all about affecting everyone in the country by their choices.


Hmmm. I agree that Trump’s supporters do cause real harm to some Americans in a variety of ways. But where’s the line between “punishing” them and living in a civil caring community?

I don’t want us to get to the point where we see kids in a burning building and ask, “who did your parents vote for”?

(And yes that’s hyperbolic but you know what I mean! It seems odd to not congratulate a family or be kind and generous toward them simply because of who they voted for, right?!?)
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:12     Subject: Re:AITA? Coworker meal train
Did the smoked also cause YOU to have cancer? Did the motorcyclist crash into YOU? Because the pro-Trump “pro-life” is all about affecting everyone in the country by their choices.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:05     Subject: AITA? Coworker meal train
OP, I’m curious if you’d join a meal train for:

A coworker who used to smoke and now has lung cancer;

A coworker who drives a motorcycle and was involved in a serious car accident?

Under your reasoning, their choices brought about their current circumstances so… f them?
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:00     Subject: AITA? Coworker meal train
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are they loudly vocal about their views and openly condemn others? If so I wouldn’t be friends with them anyway so wouldn’t participate in meal train.
If they are Catholic and pro life and otherwise nice people who treat others kindly and with respect I would totally help out.
Not everyone thinks the same way I do. For example I am very against factory farming. If I wasn’t friends with people who eat meat I would have a very short friends list.
I’m also against dog breeding. But I have friends who have bought dogs from breeders.


It’s not prolife. It’s pro-forced birth. Tell it like it is!


Giving birth is life. Duh!


But many “pro life” people are also pro death-penalty. So they’re not consistent.

And you’re wrong. The two are not the same. All over the Torah does it say that taking one’s life deserves to have theirs taken. But I suspect you are a murdering sympathizer.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 17:58     Subject: AITA? Coworker meal train
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Take the money with would spend on the meal train and donate it to the Center for Reproductive Rights!

If the office chipped to get a baby gift or a shower gift, I don’t get doing a meal train. Is it nice? Sure. But meal trains where people are just giving DoorDash cards are ridiculous.


I would so be tempted to make a generous donation their name to Planned Parenthood


And yes, this would make you an A


Why? I think it’s a beautiful gesture.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 17:58     Subject: AITA? Coworker meal train
Anonymous wrote:Very dumb take OP. This is your coworkers doing something nice for them, it's not like they had these children and literally can't feed them without your help, get over yourself. If you don't like the coworker then don't do it. This is like if you were ranting "why should I buy a gift for my 43 year old coworker's IVF baby when she's been a DINK for 10 years and votes for politicians who raise my taxes, can't she afford her own bottle warmer?" It's a gift, participate or don't, it doesn't give you moral high ground.


+1
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 17:57     Subject: Re:AITA? Coworker meal train
Anonymous wrote:OP, you’re TIA because of your reasons. Not because you don’t want to participate in a meal train.

You know this.


TIA means “thanks in advance.” Apparently you didn't know this.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 17:56     Subject: AITA? Coworker meal train
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are they loudly vocal about their views and openly condemn others? If so I wouldn’t be friends with them anyway so wouldn’t participate in meal train.
If they are Catholic and pro life and otherwise nice people who treat others kindly and with respect I would totally help out.
Not everyone thinks the same way I do. For example I am very against factory farming. If I wasn’t friends with people who eat meat I would have a very short friends list.
I’m also against dog breeding. But I have friends who have bought dogs from breeders.


It’s not prolife. It’s pro-forced birth. Tell it like it is!


Giving birth is life. Duh!


But many “pro life” people are also pro death-penalty. So they’re not consistent.