Anonymous
Post 09/29/2025 12:39     Subject: Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine having the kind of relationship where my kid wouldn't ask for input or insight from us on probably the biggest thing they had ever submitted. People don't turn in research papers or work proposals or legal briefs without having multiple people review them. Why would a college application be different?


I had a fine relationship with my parents, but I didn’t ask for any upper or insight because I was smarter than them.


+1. My parents didn't proofread my applications, because they wouldn't have any idea how they were supposed to look.

We have a great relationship, but once I started applying to selective colleges they were out of their depth.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2025 12:39     Subject: Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine having the kind of relationship where my kid wouldn't ask for input or insight from us on probably the biggest thing they had ever submitted. People don't turn in research papers or work proposals or legal briefs without having multiple people review them. Why would a college application be different?


I think it dpends on the colleges you are applying to.
If you are applying to Iowa or Missouri, no needfor me to review.

If you are applying to a private T20, where I am paying 90k yes, I am taking a brief look. Those schools expect a POLISHED application.


DP. It is kind of ironic, though. A kid with the right stuff for a T20 should be capable of presenting a polished application on their own.

I hope you’ve never had anyone proofread anything for you since the day you turned 18. You should be capable of doing it one your own.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2025 12:32     Subject: Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I looked at a couple that have already been submitted EA/rolling.

The formatting in all the essays were all bolded and off. There was a misspelling in a short answer.

They never used the preview PDF. I could scream.


I think that's fine. That's the kid that is going to show up in class. It's a true representation of the type of work your child produces. It's not a negative; it's who your kid is.


I'm sure you don't bother to proofread your resume or cover letter before you send them for a job you want. It's fine, this is who I am!
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2025 12:21     Subject: Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine having the kind of relationship where my kid wouldn't ask for input or insight from us on probably the biggest thing they had ever submitted. People don't turn in research papers or work proposals or legal briefs without having multiple people review them. Why would a college application be different?


I think it dpends on the colleges you are applying to.
If you are applying to Iowa or Missouri, no needfor me to review.

If you are applying to a private T20, where I am paying 90k yes, I am taking a brief look. Those schools expect a POLISHED application.


DP. It is kind of ironic, though. A kid with the right stuff for a T20 should be capable of presenting a polished application on their own.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2025 12:20     Subject: Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“I don’t even know where my kids applied” is such a weird parenting flex. Do you not talk to your kids at all?


Sure is gonna suck if they applied to nothing but places you can't afford.

I kind of assume these are people for whom money is no object. The kid was probably raised by the nanny. I bet the housekeeper knows where the kid applied.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2025 12:18     Subject: Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing
Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine having the kind of relationship where my kid wouldn't ask for input or insight from us on probably the biggest thing they had ever submitted. People don't turn in research papers or work proposals or legal briefs without having multiple people review them. Why would a college application be different?


I think it dpends on the colleges you are applying to.
If you are applying to Iowa or Missouri, no needfor me to review.

If you are applying to a private T20, where I am paying 90k yes, I am taking a brief look. Those schools expect a POLISHED application.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2025 12:16     Subject: Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing
Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine having the kind of relationship where my kid wouldn't ask for input or insight from us on probably the biggest thing they had ever submitted. People don't turn in research papers or work proposals or legal briefs without having multiple people review them. Why would a college application be different?


I had a fine relationship with my parents, but I didn’t ask for any upper or insight because I was smarter than them.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2025 12:15     Subject: Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That’s certainly what I did applying in 2007. What’s the problem?


So parents can check (proofread) to make sure ts are crossed and I dotted

Hopefully you’re not proofreading your kids work…
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2025 12:14     Subject: Re:Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing
Anonymous wrote:Mine is doing this. As long as his guidance counselor stays involved and has seen it I’m fine with it.


No guidance counselor goes through a whole application! Even in private schools they don't do this!

When my two oldest applied, I checked the first one for typos and found a couple of very minor mistakes (like an extra space somewhere or something like that). I checked the next and found nothing. After that, I didn't check.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2025 12:14     Subject: Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That’s certainly what I did applying in 2007. What’s the problem?


You applied to college in 2007?


Um, what’s your issue with that? People did go to college in 2007 you know.

DP. It is an indication that the poster is yet another teen pretending to be a parent on this site. They didn't bother to do the math.

Can you do math? 2007 was 18 years ago.

So, you are pointing out that the supposed "parent" applied to college the same year their child was born. That is the math. Wow, they were juggling a lot.

This is how we know you are a teen.

Good lord you are slow. Anyone on this DCUM forum can comment on this particular sub. People with young kids are welcome to comment and that - read this slowly - doesn’t make them a teen pretending to be an adult.

I know that gives you the vapers so retire to your fainting couch.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2025 12:06     Subject: Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing
Anonymous wrote:I looked at a couple that have already been submitted EA/rolling.

The formatting in all the essays were all bolded and off. There was a misspelling in a short answer.

They never used the preview PDF. I could scream.


I think that's fine. That's the kid that is going to show up in class. It's a true representation of the type of work your child produces. It's not a negative; it's who your kid is.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2025 12:06     Subject: Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing
Anonymous wrote:For all the “land the helicopter” types — have you never in your life asked someone else to proofread a resume or a cover letter?

Having a second set of eyes on something important before it’s submitted is very useful, and building in time for that is a good life skill for students. No one is perfect, and every good editor knows proofing your own work is the most difficult.

Is it the end of the world if a kid doesn’t want anyone else to check their application? No, and congrats to them for their confidence and independence. A typo probably won’t ruin their chances, honestly. But having a parent or counselor or tutor or whoever look it over does not mean their are any helicopters involved, either, just smart people who recognize the importance of double-checking things.


Why even bother addressing that type?
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2025 12:03     Subject: Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing
Anonymous wrote:That’s certainly what I did applying in 2007. What’s the problem?


So parents can check (proofread) to make sure ts are crossed and I dotted
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2025 11:51     Subject: Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing
Anonymous wrote:“I don’t even know where my kids applied” is such a weird parenting flex. Do you not talk to your kids at all?


Sure is gonna suck if they applied to nothing but places you can't afford.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2025 11:50     Subject: Child Submitting Application Without You Seeing
I can't imagine having the kind of relationship where my kid wouldn't ask for input or insight from us on probably the biggest thing they had ever submitted. People don't turn in research papers or work proposals or legal briefs without having multiple people review them. Why would a college application be different?