Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 15:51     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Is anyone's child having success with dating? My daughter and friends aren't asked out by boys or even propositioned for hook-ups when drinking, etc (the later being a very good thing). And they're very cute, well-dressed, whatever else one might think is needed to attract the opposite sex.
It's weird. Very different from when I was young.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 15:39     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"Asked out on dates"

Is she willing to do the asking?


That's not going to go well


Why not?


I'm surprised you don't know this. Men want to do the choosing. If they want to date you they will ask. If they don't ask they won't want you. And I don't want to hear about the one man who was asked out because this true of the majority of men!
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 15:36     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:Kind, intelligent straight men will be in high demand and short supply!


Are you talking intelligence or emotional intelligence?
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 14:15     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
The Wall Street Journal had an article about UNC a few years back, a 60/40 school. The development people at the school don’t like it. Marriages historically generate donations.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 14:12     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"Asked out on dates"

Is she willing to do the asking?


That's not going to go well


Why not?
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 13:46     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think at least 10% of the college aged girls are gay or bi so I bet it’s not as much of an issue as you think.
The bigger issue is that most of the straight guys don’t really know how to ask girls out. The pressure on kids to get perfect grades and do EC in HS doesn’t really lead to a situation where kids have the free time to develop good dating confidence and skills.
My son has a girl friend and I actually think it’s a great experience for him to learn how to be a good boyfriend—-but his grades are not as good as the boys that don’t date.


Girls should be asking guys out now.


I agree with this, as a woman. It's a logical advance in gender equality.


Where has our society advanced? Women are going to college but still not equal in the 'real' world
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 13:43     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Specify which is 60% and which sex is 40%.
I don't know of any notable 60m/40w colleges


DP. I think Georgia Tech is 60/40 m/f. Here are some others that are close:

Colorado School of Mines - 68/32
Caltech - 57/43
Virginia Tech - 57/43


How many at these schools are actually dateable? These schools are disproportionally male due to engineering majors. HS DD is in higher level math and physics classes and many of her male classmates don't bathe regularly. Google engineering and BO or look on Reddit. It's a thing.


Probably on the Autism sprectrum
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 13:42     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:"Asked out on dates"

Is she willing to do the asking?


That's not going to go well
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 13:40     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:Could parents or students at universities with 60/40 ratios comment on the dating scene? DD is straight (and white if that matters, but would be open to other races and ethnicities). Not looking for her to get an Mrs but I think she would like to be asked out on dates and have a boyfriend in college.


Is this really her concern? I find it strange that your dd would want you to ask in dcum about her dating life
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 13:38     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:60/40 is not going to be that perceptible. It’s a pretty normal college gender split. 70/30 is not great.


It’s definitely perceptible at UVA which is around 58/42.


UVa varies by school. Nursing School has its own dorm setup and is overwhelmingly female. Engineering school has more men, but not as lopsided as Nursing. Arts&Sciences has more women, and is the largest undergrad program by some margin.


Doesn't really matter because what's "perceptible" is the people you see walking around and you have no idea what school they're in.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 13:09     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Specify which is 60% and which sex is 40%.
I don't know of any notable 60m/40w colleges


DP. I think Georgia Tech is 60/40 m/f. Here are some others that are close:

Colorado School of Mines - 68/32
Caltech - 57/43
Virginia Tech - 57/43


How many at these schools are actually dateable? These schools are disproportionally male due to engineering majors. HS DD is in higher level math and physics classes and many of her male classmates don't bathe regularly. Google engineering and BO or look on Reddit. It's a thing.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 13:00     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:I think where the ration really comes into play is at SLAC.

I’d much rather an LAC than Tulane, are you kidding?
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 12:13     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Specify which is 60% and which sex is 40%.
I don't know of any notable 60m/40w colleges


*Colorado School of Mines has entered teh chat*
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 10:35     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
I think where the ration really comes into play is at SLAC.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 00:30     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Kind, intelligent straight men will be in high demand and short supply!