Women value spending time together more than men do. If you do not have the time, do not date. For women it works because most men aren't going to complain that they don't see them enough.

If were you, I would look for a better job, make as much money possible and spend quality time with my kids.

I have date coupled of divorce women who didn't have a lot of time and they just wanted sex on demand. There are plenty of these women around who just want sex and nothing more. Look for these women.

Don't waste your time chasing another serious relationship again..Take advantage of the fact that you are single and no woman is going to bother you with the challenges that come with a relationship. Life is short OP let her go. There are plenty of men who have so much free time that she will mentally complain that they need a life of their own.

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Anonymous wrote:Keep looking and don’t get discouraged, OP. You didn’t meet the expectations of this one particular woman. It doesn’t mean there’s no one else out there for you.

OP here. Thanks for the kind words. To be honest I am done. If I do get a better job perhaps I can date again. But it also makes me wonder how much of my value as a person is tied to the money I make. If I didn't struggle I would have had more time for her. But then what if I was doing well financially and lose my job, would she leave me then? I know I am rambling but I am just questioning what people value in me.

NP here. There are two different things going on that you’ve rolled together - time and money. They can be related to each other but any one on its own might be enough that you aren’t aligned on what you both want.

If you meet someone with no time because they are starting a business, or work a job where they always travel, or they have one job that’s 80 hour weeks or they have the opposite schedule with their kids - these are all things that don’t work for everyone. Someone has to be okay with not seeing their significant other often or equally as busy where they are in the same boat so it works for them. It’s tough when you are trying to build a relationship if you can’t spend time together.

In regards to money, you have to be able to support yourself and your financial obligations but beyond that people have their own preferences if they are willing to date someone who is not financial stable when they are. Yes, there are some gender differences like a guy might be more likely to date a women who isn’t financially stable when he is versus the reverse, but even then it’s not as likely if the other person never has time to see them.

Anonymous wrote:My ex wife left me because I was working too much and wasn't willing to cut my hours and subsequently money. I make a lot of money and I want more. I was not willing to work less and earn less. So my wife left. I don't blame her. She is now dating a younger who seems like he has a lot more time for her. Good for her. I am also dating a woman who is willing to put up with my hours. You have one life to live. You should not throw that life away because your partner is not willing to make sacrifices for you. So I am on OP's ex side.

Neither of you have any idea what love actually is but good for you and your one life…