Anonymous
08/21/2025 17:11
Subject: Why do people transfer after cut from rush?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I will never understand the appeal of joining a fraternity/sorority, especially one that rejects people. My own college kids have had no interest in them.
That's the appeal. Do you have a competitive bone in your body? Being able to do things that others can't is one of the most satisfying feelings in life.
But this is all made up. You're just waiting to be chosen. It's not like preparing to run a marathon and then feeling like you put in the hard work. Rushing is just about being picked.
Running a marathon on your mom and grandmother’s back no less. These girls really think they are special?
Yes, they do. At least in the South, sorority membership can lead to a lifetime of career opportunities. Opens a lot of doors at major companies.
I live in the deep south and the vast majority of women are SAHM or have BS jobs. The only ones with decent careers are lawyers (uva law is big here) or doctors, so nothing to do with sororities.
But in general, they end up sah with 3 kids and are borderline alcoholic and into Stanley water bottles and decorating.
Many sorority women in the south choose the SAHM lifestyle (minus the alcoholic part, stop trolling) because the top-tier fraternity men they marry are such capable providers. They're the big shot lawyers, bankers, and investment advisors in their towns. They make enough money that their wives can stay home with the kids when they're young, which every study known to man has shown produces better outcomes, all other variables equal, than warehousing them in day care while both parents work. Once the kids get a little older, the wife has the luxury, once again thanks to her husband's ample income, to spend her mornings at the country club brunching with the ladies and playing golf or pickleball. On weekends in the summer, the family loads up the Bimmer or Cybertruck and heads to their beach house on 30A, which is basically just a huge networking party for top-tier SEC fraternity and sorority alumni. Who wouldn't want that lifestyle?
There’s a movie or streaming series in here somewhere. Probably already made and missed it.
But like a Hulu one though
Anonymous
08/21/2025 16:54
Subject: Why do people transfer after cut from rush?
Sadly, it's for real.
Anonymous
08/21/2025 16:21
Subject: Why do people transfer after cut from rush?
Anonymous wrote:Another anti-Greek thread started by nerdy parents with awkward kids.
I never heard of anyone transferring after not getting a bid.
To be fair, I feel like the pro-Greek parents do more to dissuade kids from not rushing based on the responses on DCUM. When some of them start talking about finding “well bred” future husbands and mingling with the “right people” and aiming to be trad wives. Like, is this for real or are these anti-Greek people trolling?
Anonymous
08/21/2025 16:19
Subject: Why do people transfer after cut from rush?
If you went to a school mostly for Greek life and you can't participate, it's usually good to pick a better fit.
Anonymous
08/21/2025 16:12
Subject: Why do people transfer after cut from rush?
Anonymous wrote:My daughter who attended a SEC school dropped out after receiving a bid. Her roommate had convinced her to rush and she did not like the fact that she was encouraged to disassociate herself some of her "geeky" friends. She is a geek at heart and felt closer to these individuals than her soon to be "sorority sisters". Never regretted it and will graduate in 2026.
So it’s an extension of high (or maybe even middle?) school? Like ok you want to join this thing, but dictating who people can hang out with? Wow
Anonymous
08/21/2025 16:09
Subject: Why do people transfer after cut from rush?
Anonymous wrote:Another anti-Greek thread started by nerdy parents with awkward kids.
I never heard of anyone transferring after not getting a bid.
Another pro-Greek parent who assumes that anyone not interested in Greek life is insert insult (nerd, ugly, awkward, etc). Different people have different interests.
Anonymous
08/21/2025 12:10
Subject: Why do people transfer after cut from rush?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I will never understand the appeal of joining a fraternity/sorority, especially one that rejects people. My own college kids have had no interest in them.
That's the appeal. Do you have a competitive bone in your body? Being able to do things that others can't is one of the most satisfying feelings in life.
But this is all made up. You're just waiting to be chosen. It's not like preparing to run a marathon and then feeling like you put in the hard work. Rushing is just about being picked.
Running a marathon on your mom and grandmother’s back no less. These girls really think they are special?
Yes, they do. At least in the South, sorority membership can lead to a lifetime of career opportunities. Opens a lot of doors at major companies.
I live in the deep south and the vast majority of women are SAHM or have BS jobs. The only ones with decent careers are lawyers (uva law is big here) or doctors, so nothing to do with sororities.
But in general, they end up sah with 3 kids and are borderline alcoholic and into Stanley water bottles and decorating.
Many sorority women in the south choose the SAHM lifestyle (minus the alcoholic part, stop trolling) because the top-tier fraternity men they marry are such capable providers. They're the big shot lawyers, bankers, and investment advisors in their towns. They make enough money that their wives can stay home with the kids when they're young, which every study known to man has shown produces better outcomes, all other variables equal, than warehousing them in day care while both parents work. Once the kids get a little older, the wife has the luxury, once again thanks to her husband's ample income, to spend her mornings at the country club brunching with the ladies and playing golf or pickleball. On weekends in the summer, the family loads up the Bimmer or Cybertruck and heads to their beach house on 30A, which is basically just a huge networking party for top-tier SEC fraternity and sorority alumni. Who wouldn't want that lifestyle?
There’s a movie or streaming series in here somewhere. Probably already made and missed it.
Anonymous
08/21/2025 11:57
Subject: Why do people transfer after cut from rush?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I will never understand the appeal of joining a fraternity/sorority, especially one that rejects people. My own college kids have had no interest in them.
That's the appeal. Do you have a competitive bone in your body? Being able to do things that others can't is one of the most satisfying feelings in life.
But this is all made up. You're just waiting to be chosen. It's not like preparing to run a marathon and then feeling like you put in the hard work. Rushing is just about being picked.
Running a marathon on your mom and grandmother’s back no less. These girls really think they are special?
Yes, they do. At least in the South, sorority membership can lead to a lifetime of career opportunities. Opens a lot of doors at major companies.
I live in the deep south and the vast majority of women are SAHM or have BS jobs. The only ones with decent careers are lawyers (uva law is big here) or doctors, so nothing to do with sororities.
But in general, they end up sah with 3 kids and are borderline alcoholic and into Stanley water bottles and decorating.
Many sorority women in the south choose the SAHM lifestyle (minus the alcoholic part, stop trolling) because the top-tier fraternity men they marry are such capable providers. They're the big shot lawyers, bankers, and investment advisors in their towns. They make enough money that their wives can stay home with the kids when they're young, which every study known to man has shown produces better outcomes, all other variables equal, than warehousing them in day care while both parents work. Once the kids get a little older, the wife has the luxury, once again thanks to her husband's ample income, to spend her mornings at the country club brunching with the ladies and playing golf or pickleball. On weekends in the summer, the family loads up the Bimmer or Cybertruck and heads to their beach house on 30A, which is basically just a huge networking party for top-tier SEC fraternity and sorority alumni. Who wouldn't want that lifestyle?
This reads as both a parody and cliche. It does have some truth to it (except the Cybertruck!) and it makes me laugh. This describes many families I know, but I also know people who deliberately chose NOT to have this lifestyle, even though they could have, contrary to your question. That said, these people seem happy largely because I think the south is better at creating community than other parts of the country. Also you don't need to be in an SEC Greek org to have it, though I guess it helps.
Anonymous
08/21/2025 11:38
Subject: Why do people transfer after cut from rush?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I will never understand the appeal of joining a fraternity/sorority, especially one that rejects people. My own college kids have had no interest in them.
That's the appeal. Do you have a competitive bone in your body? Being able to do things that others can't is one of the most satisfying feelings in life.
No my kid has no desire to be in a club that excludes people based on personality, money, clothing, and jewelry.
What's really appealing about Notre Dame is their residential life is set up similar to Greek life, but you are assigned to the dorms. There is no competition to get into a specific dorm. And the "competition" becomes between the dorms, not the individual people.
Wait until you find out about the job market. Or the real world in general.
Um, Notre Dame has a better network than all these frats and sororities combined. But believe what you want.
Anonymous
08/21/2025 11:37
Subject: Why do people transfer after cut from rush?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I will never understand the appeal of joining a fraternity/sorority, especially one that rejects people. My own college kids have had no interest in them.
That's the appeal. Do you have a competitive bone in your body? Being able to do things that others can't is one of the most satisfying feelings in life.
But this is all made up. You're just waiting to be chosen. It's not like preparing to run a marathon and then feeling like you put in the hard work. Rushing is just about being picked.
Running a marathon on your mom and grandmother’s back no less. These girls really think they are special?
Yes, they do. At least in the South, sorority membership can lead to a lifetime of career opportunities. Opens a lot of doors at major companies.
Please let me know which companies so I can tell my daughter to avoid those.
The companies with which I am familiar are all Fortune 500 companies with several in the Fortune 50 group.