Anonymous
08/14/2025 08:58
Subject: Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If so, what is the reasoning?
Um, no. There is no valid reason to do it and no upside, either.
Like WTF.
The reasoning is, if you have a girl especially and they will drink whether or not you supply it, it's safer for them to know what they are drinking.
Anonymous
08/14/2025 08:57
Subject: Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hell no. It's illegal.
So? It’s also illegal to host high schoolers for small “friends only” drinking in your house, but we all have done it. This is just an extension.
No, we have not all done it. Sure plenty of high school kids experiment with alcohol but supplying it and condoning it in your home are still wrong.
Also, acknowledging that most kids drink in college does not make it ok to send them off with a supply of it.
Anonymous
08/14/2025 08:56
Subject: Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
Anonymous wrote:If so, what is the reasoning?
Um, no. There is no valid reason to do it and no upside, either.
Like WTF.
Anonymous
08/14/2025 08:52
Subject: Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
Yes. We bought a 12 pack of White Claw and figured it was a good way for her to meet her hall mates. And in fact, their room was the hangout room for a while.
Her roommate’s mom bought her a fifth of vodka. I was not happy about that.
Her roommate’s mom bought her a fifth of vodka. I was not happy about that.
Anonymous
08/14/2025 08:40
Subject: Re:Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
No. Mine isn’t spoiled. He spent his own hard earned money on a fake ID like everyone else.
Anonymous
08/14/2025 08:37
Subject: Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
My kid's freshman year roommate was a full-blown alcoholic. His parents gave him a case of Jack. For that family it was totally normal. But not for our family
Anonymous
08/14/2025 08:08
Subject: Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hell no. It's illegal.
So? It’s also illegal to host high schoolers for small “friends only” drinking in your house, but we all have done it. This is just an extension.
DP. No. "We" all have not. What's wrong with you?
Anonymous
08/13/2025 20:32
Subject: Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
Anonymous wrote:Hell no. It's illegal.
So? It’s also illegal to host high schoolers for small “friends only” drinking in your house, but we all have done it. This is just an extension.
Anonymous
08/13/2025 20:30
Subject: Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
Anonymous wrote:No judgement as I understand the rationale but no I did not and would not.
My advice is don't drink anything you didn't open yourself and keep with you, i.e. pretty much means beer. Always have a designated sober girl for every party and never leave anyone behind or let them off by themselves.
This is a genuine concern I just don't think you supplying the booze is the answer.
By the way vast majority of colleges do checks on dorm rooms and will confiscate booze from students under 21 and also subject them to the disciplinary process.
Definitely check the rules at your school before bringing alcohol into your kid's room
That is why your kid wanted a storage ottoman. Apparently, most schools cannot open the kid’s personal property so they all store the alcohol there (or at least at my kid’s college).
Anonymous
08/13/2025 20:25
Subject: Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
Hell no. It's illegal.
Anonymous
08/13/2025 20:16
Subject: Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No. What a weird question. I don’t know anyone that would do this.
Same. What decent parent buys alcohol for a 17 yr old?!
One who loves them enough to keep them from seeking out older frat guys to help them procure the booze they're going to drink anyway?
So instead of teaching her not to get drunk with strange men, you give her alcohol so she is already wasted by the time she gets to the frat party? What a way to set her up for success.
You do know kids drink at college, right?
Sorry, rather her have her mixing her own drinks than letting some rapist at a frat do it.
And most kids in college are quite capable of finding someone to purchase alcohol for them so they can mix their own drinks before heading to the frat parties. Easy to do, no need for parents to supply it
Hey if you want your teen daughter going down to the frat house and “put in work” to get booze… well, it’s not what I’d wish for my daughter. Maybe you’re different.
Anonymous
08/13/2025 20:14
Subject: Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No. What a weird question. I don’t know anyone that would do this.
Same. What decent parent buys alcohol for a 17 yr old?!
One who loves them enough to keep them from seeking out older frat guys to help them procure the booze they're going to drink anyway?
So instead of teaching her not to get drunk with strange men, you give her alcohol so she is already wasted by the time she gets to the frat party? What a way to set her up for success.
You do know kids drink at college, right?
Sorry, rather her have her mixing her own drinks than letting some rapist at a frat do it.
And most kids in college are quite capable of finding someone to purchase alcohol for them so they can mix their own drinks before heading to the frat parties. Easy to do, no need for parents to supply it
Anonymous
08/13/2025 16:57
Subject: Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No. What a weird question. I don’t know anyone that would do this.
Same. What decent parent buys alcohol for a 17 yr old?!
One who loves them enough to keep them from seeking out older frat guys to help them procure the booze they're going to drink anyway?
So instead of teaching her not to get drunk with strange men, you give her alcohol so she is already wasted by the time she gets to the frat party? What a way to set her up for success.
You do know kids drink at college, right?
Sorry, rather her have her mixing her own drinks than letting some rapist at a frat do it.
Some do. Some don't.
Tell yourself what you need to if it helps you sleep better at night, but the more you shelter your kid, the wilder they're going to go at college when they escape from your overbearing grip.
Parent of a senior here. Somehow doing fine, even though I did not buy them alcohol. YMMV.
+1 Choosing not to give your underaged kid alcohol is not "sheltering." It's just following the dang law. We didn't shelter our kids from alcohol. They've seen plenty of legal drinking. Nonetheless, my oldest kid didn't even drink on his 21st birthday even though he was home and I opened champagne. He did eventually try a drink about 6 months later at a friends' 21st birthday, and liked it. But even on vacation when everyone else his age plus parents were drinking, and it was legal, he didn't.
Not everyone wants to drink alcohol, and that's OK.
Anonymous
08/13/2025 16:56
Subject: Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
Nope. My parenting philosophy is to not enable activities by my student may result in illegal conduct, school disciplinary action, etc.
Anonymous
08/13/2025 16:44
Subject: Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No. What a weird question. I don’t know anyone that would do this.
Same. What decent parent buys alcohol for a 17 yr old?!
One who loves them enough to keep them from seeking out older frat guys to help them procure the booze they're going to drink anyway?
So instead of teaching her not to get drunk with strange men, you give her alcohol so she is already wasted by the time she gets to the frat party? What a way to set her up for success.
You do know kids drink at college, right?
Sorry, rather her have her mixing her own drinks than letting some rapist at a frat do it.
Some do. Some don't.
Tell yourself what you need to if it helps you sleep better at night, but the more you shelter your kid, the wilder they're going to go at college when they escape from your overbearing grip.
Parent of a senior here. Somehow doing fine, even though I did not buy them alcohol. YMMV.
Yeah, we're talking about the parent who believes their kid when they said "oh me and my friends don't drink!"