Anonymous wrote:I am about to test OP's theory. I turned 47 yesterday and went on date with a woman who is 34. I have 2 kids and divorced. She doesn't have any kids and never married. We had a good time. And we will go on our second date next week.

Folks I am just going on date lol. I'm not looking for a second wife. If she wants a husband and kids she wouldn't have agreed to go on a date with me.

You are naive. She thinks she can change your mind

Anonymous wrote:Women don’t want men over 45, period.

Why not? OP needs to date women his age if he wants to be popular

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Anonymous wrote:And men ideally do not want women who have been married before and have kids, so there's that.

Yeah and those men pursue women who are younger than 40

Average age gap for first marriages is 1.4 years; second marriage 4 years. Keep dreaming about all these younger women drooling over you, bro !

Traditionally it was about 20 years, and marriages lasted forever, till death do they part. Less than 4% divorce rate for hundreds of years.

Modern society tried to reverse the gender roles and now divorce rates are over 65%, and they were only 35% just 40 years ago.

It's feminism that has ruined everything. Saying this as a woman.

Maybe you are a woman, but you can't google and throw baseless statements. There was never an age gap of 20 years at marriage in Anglo Saxon cultures, even 3 centuries ago. It was 2-4 years max, people married at 20

Women don’t want men over 45, period.

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Anonymous wrote:I am about to test OP's theory. I turned 47 yesterday and went on date with a woman who is 34. I have 2 kids and divorced. She doesn't have any kids and never married. We had a good time. And we will go on our second date next week.

Folks I am just going on date lol. I'm not looking for a second wife. If she wants a husband and kids she wouldn't have agreed to go on a date with me.

Be sure to be honest with her that it's just a physical attraction thing and not a relationship thing.

Yea, it's indecent to waste the fertility years of a woman, if she wants a family. Should be a punishable offense if intentional.

A lot of us would be perfectly fine with a guy like that. I have several guy friends in that category. The last guy I dated was unmarried and child-free at 46. Less baggage is nice. That said, guys who fit this profile are often single by choice, and used to having things just the way they like them. My ex and I are very different types of grownups, and I didn't see us being able to merge our living situations.

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Anonymous wrote:And men ideally do not want women who have been married before and have kids, so there's that.

Yeah and those men pursue women who are younger than 40

Average age gap for first marriages is 1.4 years; second marriage 4 years. Keep dreaming about all these younger women drooling over you, bro !

Traditionally it was about 20 years, and marriages lasted forever, till death do they part. Less than 4% divorce rate for hundreds of years.

Modern society tried to reverse the gender roles and now divorce rates are over 65%, and they were only 35% just 40 years ago.

It's feminism that has ruined everything. Saying this as a woman.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm an early empty nester at 47 and tried to date some never married childless men. They were all incredibly selfish and set in their ways; poor communicators and never compromised. I don't know maybe OP is different but that was just my experience

This describes a lot of divorced men I've dated, too, though

Describes most everyone over 30 years old who has lived on their own for any period of time.

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Anonymous wrote:Annual sperm testing? That's bizarre. Red flag in itself regardless of the results.

Sounds like he’s desperate to have kids. Women in the same situation are likely looking for someone younger than OP though.

This. Older men want to have kids with younger women. And older women want to have kids with younger men as well.

Which is where they make their mistake.

Vast majority of men under 40 these days are still too immature to make good fathers and husbands.

Anonymous wrote:I am about to test OP's theory. I turned 47 yesterday and went on date with a woman who is 34. I have 2 kids and divorced. She doesn't have any kids and never married. We had a good time. And we will go on our second date next week.

Folks I am just going on date lol. I'm not looking for a second wife. If she wants a husband and kids she wouldn't have agreed to go on a date with me.

Be sure to be honest with her that it's just a physical attraction thing and not a relationship thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Annual sperm testing? That's bizarre. Red flag in itself regardless of the results.

Don't men have fertility issues after 40 as well?

Sperm count declines with age. After 65 years old it can take a bit more sex to knock a woman up. If the woman enjoys the sex, then there's likely to be more of it, so it's a push.

That's barring health issues or drug use.

I am about to test OP's theory. I turned 47 yesterday and went on date with a woman who is 34. I have 2 kids and divorced. She doesn't have any kids and never married. We had a good time. And we will go on our second date next week.

Folks I am just going on date lol. I'm not looking for a second wife. If she wants a husband and kids she wouldn't have agreed to go on a date with me.

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Anonymous wrote:Annual sperm testing? That's bizarre. Red flag in itself regardless of the results.

Sounds like he’s desperate to have kids. Women in the same situation are likely looking for someone younger than OP though.

This. Older men want to have kids with younger women. And older women want to have kids with younger men as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Annual sperm testing? That's bizarre. Red flag in itself regardless of the results.

Don't men have fertility issues after 40 as well?

Yes but without a partner, you're putting the fish before the rod

Anonymous wrote:Annual sperm testing? That's bizarre. Red flag in itself regardless of the results.

Don't men have fertility issues after 40 as well?