I would say peri-menopause has made me want to stop enabling him and letting him verbally abuse me when he's drinking. I'm done. My hormones have helped me to see so many things over the last 25 years together. So yes, I''m mad and I'm done.

Seems to me a whole lot of men have learned about so-called "menopause rage," to continue gaslighting and manipulating their wives, retaining control and removing every ounce of freedom. My husband is trying it and I'm not having it.

Anonymous wrote:Jeez, what's not to love about OP. A likely unattractive, unsexy, rageaholic who can't control her hormonal responses. She should think about what she's like to live with and ponder whether she should be feeling fortunate rather than resentful and mean.

That’s really mean to OP.

Menopause rage, on the other hand, is incredibly common. It seems to affect most of us.

It’s just part of menopause, that’s all.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if menopausal rage is an evolution’s way of breaking up partnerships that can no longer produce offspring? It seems so common.

For what end? What problem does that solve for evolution?

In evolutionary terms, the primary problem is the shift from communal to highly individualized expectations. Romantic "soul mate" love is a myth that didn't exist back in the day, but does support the formation of nuclear family structures that are beneficial for raising children. Once the children are raised, individuals regain their freedom and can decide whether they like their partner enough to remain tied to them, or move on to different, potentially more compatible sexual relationships. Pretty much anything goes, only sad when a couple is not on the same page about next steps. Imo menopausal rage gets out of control in situations where the incompatibility has become entrenched and the desire for freedom is at odd with circumstances (like children not out of the nest yet).

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Anonymous wrote:^I'm sure your husband is happy too.

I’ve never cheated on him during 20+ years of our marriage, and I told him that I’m going to date other men when I move out!
Just got a message from a 38 y.o. man asking if I “might like to explore younger man”. I’m petite, and the guy that I’m planning a date with said that I look over a decade younger than my listed age 🤣 I’m going to explore them one at a time, no plan to date multiple men simultaneously.

I mean that is the baseline expectation.

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if menopausal rage is an evolution’s way of breaking up partnerships that can no longer produce offspring? It seems so common.

For what end? What problem does that solve for evolution?

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Anonymous wrote:My menopausal wife is really mean and condescending to me. Even sometimes when I’m just trying to make conversation with her. I’ve been a good partner for 24 years - equal (or damn close) split of household/parenting, we’ve both worked hard and have tons of money, own 9 houses outright (Historic home downtown, lake house for family and 7 rentals) when we both grew up poor, a wonderful son who’s now in college and I’m still tall, good looking and in good shape. The regular beatings really get old.

You married poorly too. 😩

Please try therapy. Unlike OP's marriage, sounds like yours is worth saving. She's in a bad rut and you both need help in order to do a re-set.

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Anonymous wrote:Jeez, what's not to love about OP. A likely unattractive, unsexy, rageaholic who can't control her hormonal responses. She should think about what she's like to live with and ponder whether she should be feeling fortunate rather than resentful and mean.

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Just divorce him OP. Someone else will gladly date him and treat him right!

Anonymous wrote:Jeez, what's not to love about OP. A likely unattractive, unsexy, rageaholic who can't control her hormonal responses. She should think about what she's like to live with and ponder whether she should be feeling fortunate rather than resentful and mean.

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Anonymous wrote:^I'm sure your husband is happy too.

I’ve never cheated on him during 20+ years of our marriage, and I told him that I’m going to date other men when I move out!
Just got a message from a 38 y.o. man asking if I “might like to explore younger man”. I’m petite, and the guy that I’m planning a date with said that I look over a decade younger than my listed age 🤣 I’m going to explore them one at a time, no plan to date multiple men simultaneously.

Wow, the 'you look much younger than your age' line. That's a new one! I'm sure he's being quite sincere and isn't just trying to sleep with you (but you seem pretty gullible, so it looks like he won't have to try too hard).

DP, but pretty sure that is all that PP is looking for. She's posting on a thread about how she's done taking care of men. Isn't a younger man for something casual exactly what you want, PP?

Sounds like she'll still be "taking care" of a man. This time though the man can just leave when it's over (on to the next).

She’ll be on to the next too! If men can enjoy their sexuality…then so can women!

Thank you. Presumably the same man posts the same nonsense on these boards regularly. He can't fathom that women are sexual beings who have sex for enjoyment.

PP here. Yes, sex for enjoyment, and he also owns several kayaks and is happy to share. I’m new to this state and can explore all the interesting places with him (or someone like him) - much more enjoyable to do that with a young energetic guy.

You know, I've been suspicious about your post from the start, it looked like it could be a load of crap.
Know I know it's all just a pack of lies.

No-one owns "several" kayak.

PP here with an update, as promised. Yes, he does own several, different types. I’m in the very outdoorsy area now, in the Carolinas.

So, we met yesterday, it was my 1st first date in 25 years, and the choice of activity for the first date in the 90 degree weather turned out to be completely idiotic 😀 We decided to hike a mountain, and it was quite steep, and I got so preoccupied with the conversation that I didn’t pace myself at all, walked fast, and in about 20 minutes or so got all sweaty, out of breath and with a running nose. He is very athletic (runs every day, etc.), so he just followed my pace without any problem, and then I asked to take a break. We hiked for about 3 hours, and at the end he suggested to go kayaking next, but we didn’t set up the date yet. We exchanged several messages today, so he doesn’t hate me 😀 I hope he wants to see me again because I really liked him.

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Anonymous wrote:^I'm sure your husband is happy too.

I’ve never cheated on him during 20+ years of our marriage, and I told him that I’m going to date other men when I move out!
Just got a message from a 38 y.o. man asking if I “might like to explore younger man”. I’m petite, and the guy that I’m planning a date with said that I look over a decade younger than my listed age 🤣 I’m going to explore them one at a time, no plan to date multiple men simultaneously.

Wow, the 'you look much younger than your age' line. That's a new one! I'm sure he's being quite sincere and isn't just trying to sleep with you (but you seem pretty gullible, so it looks like he won't have to try too hard).

DP, but pretty sure that is all that PP is looking for. She's posting on a thread about how she's done taking care of men. Isn't a younger man for something casual exactly what you want, PP?

Sounds like she'll still be "taking care" of a man. This time though the man can just leave when it's over (on to the next).

She’ll be on to the next too! If men can enjoy their sexuality…then so can women!

Thank you. Presumably the same man posts the same nonsense on these boards regularly. He can't fathom that women are sexual beings who have sex for enjoyment.

PP here. Yes, sex for enjoyment, and he also owns several kayaks and is happy to share. I’m new to this state and can explore all the interesting places with him (or someone like him) - much more enjoyable to do that with a young energetic guy.

You know, I've been suspicious about your post from the start, it looked like it could be a load of crap.
Know I know it's all just a pack of lies.

No-one owns "several" kayak.

Anonymous wrote:Jeez, what's not to love about OP. A likely unattractive, unsexy, rageaholic who can't control her hormonal responses. She should think about what she's like to live with and ponder whether she should be feeling fortunate rather than resentful and mean.

😩

Don’t discount Peri-Menopausal Psychosis. It’s crazy how men are expected to love unconditionally, but accept conditional love and disrespect as the terms of a heterosexual monogamous relationship.

Jeez, what's not to love about OP. A likely unattractive, unsexy, rageaholic who can't control her hormonal responses. She should think about what she's like to live with and ponder whether she should be feeling fortunate rather than resentful and mean.